This is a book(let) about giving and receiving enemas. It contains some of what I have learned over the years (30).
Enemas have lots of purposes. When they are used for sexual purposes, they generally have two components:
1. They are pleasurable to give and receive.
2. There is an element of humiliation/pain on the receiving side, and dominance on the giving side.
Because of these quite different purposes, giving and receiving enemas takes on a tremendous variety of methods. In addition, most people who give/receive enemas also believe in their health benefits, so the concept of a "good cleaning out" works its way into the equation. Since I am not heavy into S and M, I won't delve into the methods by which enemas may be used for torture--only for mild pleasure/pain/humiliation--and of course, cleansing. My experiences with enemas go all the way back to childhood. I cannot remember the first time I received one, but I DO remember giving them to myself before I became a teenager. Even then, there was a sexual pleasure component that went with them. I was very secretive about this practice, and I don't believe that my parents ever found out about them. I have always preferred "high" enemas, in which the injection site is actually above the rectum (I'll tell you how to accomplish this later), because these cleanse the colon much more effectively (despite what some say). When I was in my late teens, I had my first experiences of giving enemas. I describe the first of these in the file "Annis" (Pun intended). "Annis" was a real revelation to me. She was a girl who liked anal experiences--as long as they did not hurt too much, they gave her a great deal of pleasure. I gave enemas to Annis whenever I could--when she had her period, and needed relief from cramps; when she was constipated (quite often, fortunately); when she and I had sex (she was under the mistaken impression that an enema would prevent conception--I did nothing to alter this impression, although I knew better); when she and I had anal sex; when I felt like giving her an enema and she didn't object, etc. I learned a great deal about giving enemas from her experiences as I gave them to her. I learned how to insert the tube (an art, really); I learned which tube to use (the largest); I learned how to lubricate her; I learned what REALLY hurt her, and what she CLAIMED hurt (but she still wanted me to do to her); I learned solutions, temperatures, amounts, etc. The one thing I could never get up enough nerve to do (it didn't fit the dominance/submission aspects of our relationship) is to ask her to give ME an enema. I fervently wish now that I had. However, you can imagine my utter delight at standing behind her as she crouched in the knee-chest position, her bottom open, pussy lips spread, tube inserted into her rectum, water filling her. That was quite an experience, which she and I repeated many times.
Annis never got into volume much. At the time, I didn't know how to get her to take enough water (there are methods, which I will describe later, to get your partner truly full--or if you want me to help . . .), so when she begged for me to stop, I cut off the flow and let her get up and go to the toilet. I found out later that the main problem with girls unable to take at least a bagful seems to be either lack of relaxation or a full colon, and the reason people have such negative memories of enemas (other than the embarrassment, etc.) is that they were FORCED to receive more water than they were ready to receive. Sometimes, of course, if you are punishing your enemate, this is a perfect way to teach her proper obedience and respect. But most times, the major reason people cannot take enough water is simply lack of relaxation. Annis and I discovered one way to overcome that. We had just had sex, and I had ejaculated inside of her vagina (remember, she thought enemas had something to do with birth control), so I determined to give her an enema. I told her: "Annis, I'm going to use the large tube (douche nozzle) on you, and I want you to lie down on your back, with your knees on your chest. I'm going to give you the entire bag of water, no matter what you say." She capitulated, and I proceeded to fill the bag with water (almost too warm to touch). She laid on her back, knees touching her nipples, and I inserted the tube and started the flow. As the water flowed in, I pinched off the flow every so often to help her take it all, but I refused to stop. She took the entire bag, held it about a minute, and then rushed to the toilet. After she expelled her enema, she commented: "I guess I CAN take a whole bag if I know you won't stop." In other words, she knew that no matter what it felt like, the entire bag would go inside her. When she decided THAT, she was able to take it all. I also stopped in the middle and let her cramps subside, and I did not hold the enema bag too high. I believe if I had known what I know now, Annis could have been trained to take nearly two full bags (4 quarts); most people can.
Giving and receiving the "standard" enema
The best enemas are given by partners. If you're on the receiving end, you can concentrate on relaxing, letting the water flow in, etc. If you're on the giving end, you can help your partner by elevating/lowering the bag, holding the tube securely in your partner's rectum, speaking encouraging words and shutting off the waterflow temporarily. It is also MUCH more erotic to receive an enema from someone else than it is to give one to yourself (although that's not bad), and it is tremendously exciting to give an enema to one's partner. Also, if you're into D and S, the whole dominance and submission scene is greatly enhanced by another person.
Pointers on receiving an enema:
1. Use the largest nozzle that's comfortable. If you have purchased the standard douche or enema bag, use the douche nozzle, not the enema nozzle. There are three reasons for this:
*The douche nozzle does not slide out as easily, because it is longer and thicker, and because it is "fluted," and wider at the insertion end than the middle. I generally make a small hole in the end of the douche nozzle so that the water flow will also come from the end of the nozzle rather than just the sides. Your anus is plenty big enough to accommodate the douche nozzle (after all, look at what sometimes comes OUT of it),
*Having the injection point higher in the rectum is more comfortable. Also, with the larger nozzle, you will be MUCH less likely to leak.
*If you are anal-erotic (most are), the larger nozzle is more pleasurable. Insert it full-length, until the end of the rectum stops it. More later about deep insertions.
2. Lubricate yourself. Many people lubricate only the nozzle, and then insert it into the rectum. If you lubricate yourself (or have your partner do it, if you have one), and
insert the lubricant into the rectum, the entire session will be much better--and you won't fill the holes of the nozzle with lubricant when you insert it. Vaseline works OK, although it's a bit messy. I don't like K-Y, because it has no oils in it and the anus gets sore. My favorite is a good hand lotion or cold cream (but not one with a lot of alcohol in it--look at the label), because it is sufficiently slick, but not impossible to wash off. I also recommend that your partner manipulate your anus and rectum a bit, thrusting a finger gently in and out, and dilating you. At this point, it is a good time to check for two things: first, is your rectum full? If it is, chances are that you will need two to four enemas to get completely cleaned out, depending on how much water you can take each time. Second, is there any spot on the anus or rectum that
feels sore or seems injured? If there is, proceed with care. This is supposed to be fun, not destructive!
3. Use WARM water. Some people believe cold water is better (more unpleasant for the subject), but if the object is to get as much water in as possible, to cleanse the colon, and to fill yourself or your partner completely full, warm water is best. A second choice is tepid (cool) water. This is sometimes better on hot days, when really warm water can make you sick. But the stimulating effects of warm water are much greater. Warm means that you can hold your hand in it without having to take it out because it burns. Your rectal/colonic mucosa is very susceptible to scalding.
Don't do something stupid.
4. Amounts of water: As a rule of thumb, I believe that the average person can hold almost four quarts, IF she begins "empty." If she is constipated, has not experienced enemas, or has a lot of gas or fecal matter (shit!) in her, she will be able to take much less. My suggestion is that you (if you're on the receiving end) take at least three enemas. The first will begin the process of emptying the colon. The second and third actually fill the colon and drain off the majority of the fecal matter inside. Take as much water as you can the first time. If you can take an entire two-quart bag, do so. Otherwise, take as much as possible. If you are giving your partner an enema, don't insist on her taking the entire amount the first time (more later on how to get her to take as much as she really can). Give as much as she can take, and then let her get up and go to the toilet. Be sure that she's expelled the entire enema before you give her another. Taking enemas is "learned;" the colon is not naturally used to having its peristalsis reversed, so relaxation is necessary. In addition, many people are so stopped up that their first two or three enemas serve only to start the process of "deep cleaning" the colon. Anyway, be merciful (unless that's not part of the scene).
5. Positions: In general, positions that involve sitting or standing are not good, while positions that involve lying down or kneeling are ok. I have experimented quite a bit with myself and others to develop the best enema positions.
(in the medical books, it's called Knee-chest). Your partner's bottom is lifted high in the air, she has her head on a pillow, and her weight is resting on her knees and chest. This position puts the rear end higher than the head, which might seem very beneficial for receiving. It is the most exposed of all, and it seems to be the preferred position for many of the fetish films I've seen. However, the colon is basically a "U" shape. When one is in the knee-chest position, part of the colon is actually receiving
the water against gravity. This increases the internal pressure, and prevents your partner from taking as much water. Obviously, you may prefer this position for other reasons, but if you intend to maximize the enema's effect, it is not the best. This is a very good position, however, for training in obedience and submission, since the person you are training has no control at all. It's even better if you have positioned a couple of mirrors in appropriate places so that she can see what you are about to do. If you are concerned with her ability to receive the most fluid, you can position your partner on the floor, with her head and chest on a low stool so that her colon is essentially level. This is a bit "friendlier" when you plan to put in more than one bagful (which I highly recommend--very few people can get completely clean with just one enema bagful, unless you have one of the 4-quart bags sold through some supply houses).
On the back:
The next position is preferred by colon therapists for their work: your partner lies on her back with her feet drawn up nearly to her bottom, knees apart. This has a lot of advantages, in that your partner can see the progress of the enema, she can watch you insert the tube, it is a fairly comfortable position, etc. etc. You will find that it is relatively easy to take quite a bit of fluid in this position, and your partner can relax. An alternate is to have her rest her knees on her chest (if she's slender). She will be much better exposed this way, but it's harder to maintain unless your partner is pretty flexible. This position is nice as a relaxing alternate for the 2nd enema in a series of 3 or 4, and is especially good if you are taking a COOL water enema, since it seems that peristalsis is naturally reduced in this position. In addition, it's fairly easy for you to reach over and massage her abdomen to help the water flow in deeper--or to put a couple of fingers in her vagina. If you do this last thing, you will find that you can feel the rectum through the vagina, and determine degree of distention, positioning of the rectal tube, etc.
On the side:
This is the position recommended in all the nursing texts. It is called the "Sims'position" in these texts, and usually is depicted with the patient lying on her left side, the leg underneath drawn up slightly and the leg on top drawn up as far as is comfortable. This position is used for a multitude of medical procedures, such as colonoscopy. Its advantages are that it is very relaxing, it throws the weight off the abdomen and that it fully exposes the backside. It is much easier to see the anus when your partner is in this position (just lift up the top buttock) than in the preceding position (on the back). An alternate can be used here: first, your partner can ALMOST lie on her stomach. For this, the "under" leg is left nearly parallel with the body, and the "top" leg is drawn up almost to the chest. I have seen several films in which the women receiving the enema have taken almost four quarts the first enema. Obviously, this position has advantages in fluid acceptance and retention. In addition, it is an excellent position for deep insertions with the colon tube (the "high" enema) and for high colonics. It is not as good as the knee-chest position for D and S, but it comes close, because you can force in more water. This is the ideal position for pregnant women, since the uterus is moved away from the colon and rectum. I have also found that the right side is actually better for increasing capacity than the left side. The reason is that the rectum goes toward your upper side when you lie on your right side, but filling the transverse colon is actually aided by gravity. If you lie on your left side, the initial injection begins a bit more easily, but the water must then be forced uphill as it enters the transverse colon. This increases the cramping and sense of fullness associated with the enema, before your partner is actually full.
Combinations: The best combinations are: first enema, knee- chest; second enema, on the back; third (4th, 5th, etc.) on the side. It is also possible to switch positions during the giving of the enema. It is generally best if you do the knee-chest position first, because it is the most difficult to maintain.
Height and bag positioning: The best enemas are given slowly. If the water flows in under too much pressure, the reverse peristalsis will either make your partner "have to go" too soon, or she will start to leak (worst of all she may be completely unable to hold it). However, there needs to be sufficient pressure to overcome the natural resistance of the colon to the flow of water. I find this best accomplished by holding (or stationing) the bag fairly high, and then regulating the pressure with the clamp (most enema bags sold today have the flow-regulating type of clamp). If your partner feels cramping, stop the flow entirely for a minute or a half- minute (or until the cramps subside), and then proceed.
Solutions: Complicated solutions make for problems. The more unusual the solution (Pepsi-Cola, for example), the more unlikely you are to have a good time. Water has several advantages: it's cheap, it doesn't make a mess that can't be cleaned up, and it's less likely to irritate your partner. If you want to use different solutions, here are some ideas: SOAPSUDS. This is the classic enema solution--"Warm soapsuds enemas" are what you normally hear when someone talks about enemas. However, soap, because it's an irritant, tends to be less easy to hold. The colon fights it, so it's harder to take as much water. But if your partner has been naughty, a series of warm soapsuds enemas may be just what she needs. Use the liquid castile soap you get from the drugstore, and about a tablespoon of soap per enema bag. Too much, and you will irritate the mucous membranes in the colon (or damage them--then she couldn't take enemas, and what would you do??).
COFFEE. Believe it or not, a coffee enema (hold the cream and sugar) is an excellent stimulant for the entire body. Some people get INSTANT headache relief after a coffee enema. Use brewed coffee, and make it fairly strong; give about a quart. Give the coffee enema as a second or third enema in a series. Give it in the knee-chest position, V E R Y slowly (15 minutes or more is not too much time). Have your partner maintain the position, and retain the enema as long as possible. If you have "cleaned her out" properly, she should be able to hold it until much of it absorbs. This enema is also excellent given "high," with a colon tube. The high injection will help her retain the fluid.
EPSOM SALTS. Two or three tablespoons of epsom salts in her enema (2-quart bag) will literally make your partner explode! It is just as effective administered rectally as orally--but get out of the way after you finish giving it!
OIL. Use olive oil, or another vegetable oil. Mineral oil is dangerous to the body. The main problems with oil are: oil damages the equipment, and if you give very much, when your partner thinks she has to fart for the next few hours, she will probably be passing the oil--embarrassing! But excellent for cleansing if you're impacted or the feces are hard. Also an excellent preparation for anal sex or other games, but messy.
One of the most interesting and pleasurable things you can learn is the art of rectal examination. Most people stick in a finger, a dildo, a fist and let it go with that--but there is a tremendous fear/pleasure/pain/embarrassment surrounding the rectum and anus, and to capitalize on that, you need several things: 1. Some equipment. Probably the most used is a small vaginal speculum, sold in the various sex shops as an "ass spreader;" A good light is valuable, too, and if you can get your hands on a sigmoidoscope, you will really enjoy the rest of my suggestions. 2. Your partner's well-cleaned and lubed backside. I recommend that you do the rectal/colon exams AFTER at least a couple of enemas--make sure you have your partner empty herself out completely, or you will get an eyeful in more ways than one! If you prefer to examine her before the enemas, use your finger first to make sure the feces inside her are relatively solid. It's annoying to put your face right up to your partner's bottom and find she's about to have diarrhea, and you're looking into her through a hollow tube (or whatever; fill in the blank here). 3. An audience. This is not necessary, but rectal exams should have an element of embarrassment about them. The audience should therefore be composed of people that will bring that to your partner. In some cases, that would be women; in others, men.
This should be as "medical" as possible; costumes are nice here, and if you are giving the exam as a prelude to a series of enemas or a colonic, it's good to start her out fully dressed and then have her undress and put on her hospital gown (perhaps let her leave her panties on for the time being); or alternatively, you could leave her dressed (a short flared skirt is nice for this), pull up her dress and take her panties down to her knees after she's on the examining table (or whatever you're using)-- remember, you need to control the situation and make it a real "blushing time." Once again, there are three positions commonly used--the "dorsal lithotomy" position, where the woman lies on her back (if you have an exam table, she puts her feet in the stirrups, as for a pelvic exam) with her knees drawn up; the "Sims" position, in which she lies on her side with one leg relatively straight and the top leg drawn up to her abdomen; the "knee-chest" position, in which she is placed on her knees and elbows, with her backside jutting up into the air. The last position has definite advantages, but many physicians use the Sims' position to examine their patients (especially for colonoscopy). If you are using a sigmoidoscope, put her in the knee-chest position. Lubricate her both inside and out. The best way is to use first one finger, then two, with plenty of lubricant on them as you insert. Insert the fingers as deeply as you can (i. e., up to the knuckle) and rotate them clockwise or counterclockwise. You should feel the anal sphincters start to relax. Since the proctoscope (speculum, sigmoidoscope) is larger than two fingers, dilating the anus is an excellent idea. If she is lying on her side, grip the proctoscope in your "best" hand, lift her buttcheek to expose her anus, and begin to insert the 'scope. You should insert it roughly in the direction of her navel. Don't go to fast. It should take between 10 and 15 seconds (or more, depending on how she reacts) to insert the 'scope in her. Now you are ready to look inside. This is what is known as a "closeup." Do it. If you have used the speculum, now is the time to open it up. Remember not to force or hurry. The anus will dilate of itself as you exert gentle pressure. You don't want to have to explain yourself to an Emergency Room Dr. after tearing her anus or rectum--"Well, Doc, we were just playing this little game . . ." If she tells you to stop, do so unless you are SURE that she can take more "opening up." If you have anal intercourse with your partner, don't make her sore (i. e., don' make the exam too long). You'll spoil the fun for both of you. If you're using the sigmoidoscope (or other handy instrument, such as a shortened broom handle), there is a way to insert it between 10-12" into your partner. The doctors do this with a rigid sigmoidoscope all the time. Here's how (remember I said that the best position is knee-chest, but the side will work if you're careful.) When you insert the instrument into her rectum, you will feel it "bump" against the end of the rectum. This is where the rectum and colon connect. Ditto for inserting a rigid enema tube. However, if you are gentle, persistent and do just as I tell you, you can make your partner feel as if you're examining her tonsils from below. Be sure that you have plenty of lubricant, both inside and out. Once you reach the top of the rectum, stop a moment. Then push the instrument against her *RIGHT* buttcheek, as if you were trying to push the end that's inside her over to her left side. The colon goes to the left, and as you push to the right, and down toward her navel and *G E N T L Y* push in, the instrument will slide in several more inches. It is very important at this point to listen to your partner. The colon is pretty sturdy, but you can easily puncture it this way (rmember what I said about the Emergency Room Dr., above??), and a punctured or injured colon is no joke. The fecal matter enters your abdomen, and if it does, you will be VERY VERY VERY SICK. You may die. So be careful if you're going to do this. Having said what I just did, it's important to remember that doctors shove these long things more than a foot up your ass all the time, and rarely have an accident. You can do this without causing harm quite easily. Another note. If you are giving your girlfriend an enema, and you don't have a colon tube at the moment, use this same technique with the enema tube (remember, you're using the L O O O N G one). It will stop right at the top of the rectum. Inject a few ounces of water, and then proceed to insert the tube deeper by using the method I've detailed above--push to the right, up toward the tailbone, and IN (gently--I once made my girlfriend cry for about 10 minutes by being careless with this; remember the Dr. in the Emergency Room). The tube should slide right in. From there you can insert it up to as much as 18" (the hose is flexible), and get quite a good high colonic out of it.
The "Homemade" High Colonic
If you have ever been to a colon therapist you know that the apparatus they use injects about 5-10 gallons (That's right! Gallons!) of water over the course of the colonic (it's nice! Although they're not into the "scene;" at least they never will admit it), alternately injecting clear water and then drawing off a combination of feces and water. You can give/receive colonic irrigations at home (or in your hotel room, wherever) with some simple apparatus and my instructions (actually, you really need a partner for this--any of you ladies want help?). First, get a 5- gallon container of some kind; the best is a large plastic bucket, or galvanized pail. Then, you need two soft plastic hoses. The first should be about 1/4" inside diameter and the other 5/8" INSIDE (1/2" will do most of the time--but they tend to get clogged). You also need a couple of hemostats (scissors- type clamps), free access to a toilet (or another bucket for the water to flow into), and a good place to stand the bucket that's full--some 3-4 ft. above your partner's hips. You take the small plastic tubing and put it in the bucket (it floats--you'll have to weight it down) after filling the bucket with WARM water. Remember that 5 gallons of water is quite heavy. You'll need a sturdy table or stool. With the bucket full and the tubing in the bucket, begin a siphonage (use an ear syringe or basting syringe, or suck on it if you are using a new tube); the water will flow downhill unless it meets too much resistance. Once the flow is established, clamp the tube with one of the hemostats. Run the other tube to the toilet or into the second bucket (the second bucket must be LOWER than the first; the toilet will probably be low enough if your partner is on the bed or the floor. Now give your partner an enema, with a regular bag and hose, if you have not already done so. Make sure that she empties out the "big stuff" that might clog the outflow hose. Usually you can give the enema just before the colonic, and the colonic apparatus will carry off the extra enema water. If your partner is constipated (or hasn't gone to the bathroom in a couple days), it's best to give the enema first, and then prepare the colonic while she expels the enema. Now, place her on her side in the Sims' position to start (either). Lift her cheek and relubricate her, inside and out. Be sure to get the lubricant some distance inside. Insert the tube about 4-5 inches, and unclamp the hemostat just a bit. Don't let the water flow in too fast. It's not the pressure, it's how full the colon gets. Insert the tube another few inches, rotating it gently to get it past the top of the rectum and pushing gently in as the water slowly flows in. Clamp off the second tube. Insert it into the anus beside the first (people leak when you do this, so I recommend that they have a towel rubber sheet under them). After a bit of water has flowed in, clamp off the first clamp and then unclamp the second clamp. The Tubes tend to slide out, so watch it--the large tube should be about 4" inside and the small one as high as you can get it without discomfort or twisting. (this is why two people are necessary--there's just too much to do for one person, although it CAN be done. I know.) If you followed directions, you should be rewarded with a flow of brown water inside the large tube. You'll be able to see solids (watch for air bubbles, etc.) and so forth. At this point your partner needs to communicate with you. When she's relatively empty, begin to slowly fill her. Give the water until she's uncomfortable, then clamp the small hose and unclamp the large one. It will take some time for the water to flow down the colon and into the tube, so there may be a bit of cramping (but it's a lot less than with a good enema!). When the water stops flowing out for a minute or more, close the large tube and open the small one. Fill her with as much as she can take. Repeat opening the large tube and draining her. You will repeat this until the water comes away clear. If you have to go for a second bucket (?!!), be sure not to let the first one empty completely or you will lose your siphonage. Leave the tubes in if you have to refill the bucket (it's usually not necessary) and have your partner hold them in position. After about 20 minutes, the body becomes completely used to the in and outflow, and stops fighting. At that point, you will be able to fill your girlfriend much better, and she will drain off more easily. Colon therapists recommend a series of colonics, to get the accumulated material off the wall of the colon (I don't know if they are right in this, but I DO know that a series of either enemas or colonics really makes one feel better for some time). In any event, you can repeat this if you wish, but not more than a time or two a week (after say, an initial two-three day session). It's not particularly hard on the body, but you do slow the growth of the intestinal bacteria that you need. If you do this right, it can be quite an erotic experience, as your girlfriend must be totally passive and submissive. It is no doubt good (if your relationship involves that) to massage her sex organs throughout the colonic (don't get fecal matter on her!). She will be totally refreshed, and will have learned a new "angle" to the enema scene.