Height Differences and Sex

For those of you who have had partners dramatically taller or shorter than you, what problems have you encountered with different positions, and what solutions have you come up with? Are there any positions/activities during which you found the size difference to be an advantage?

At 5'3" I have had a few partners who have been 10+" taller than me, so here are my answers:

Standing sex isn't easy. One managed to hold me/carry me while leaning against the wall for the time it took to have sex, but honestly it wasn't as fun! I couldn't help thinking 'I'm not that light... He's going to think I'm fat... This can't be easy for him... etc.' which distracted from my usual 'Yay! Penis!' thought.

I have used a makeshift step stool (a box, don't remember what was in it, but it easily supported my weight without moving) for standing sex but I don't love feeling like a 4 year old trying to reach the sink when I'm fucking.

Shower sex is a health hazard. All the awkwardness of standing sex but on a slippy surface. I'll stick to other activities in the shower, like oral and manual stimulation.

69 requires some extra effort. It can be done, both lying on your sides is okay, or the taller person going on top and arching their back helps. It's just not as easy, and honestly, not always worth the extra effort. If we both want oral, I prefer we take turns giving and receiving.

Pillows are great to kneel on if there's a difference in hip height. I don't really think I need to explain that further!

Never assume that the smaller person has to be on top. That's bullshit.

Spooning is great. I love a big person pulling me in close after sex. This actually isn't specific to spooning, not that I think about it. Jetpacking feels ridiculous though.

Sitting sex. Again, it's great. I prefer this with someone taller, and have had a guy tell me it's better with a shorter girl. So this may be great with someone close to your height, but it might just be even better when there's a significant height difference.

I'm sure I've forgotten a few, so do add to the list/share your own experiences!

And for those of you who have never had a partner that much taller/shorter than you, I hope you at least got a few laughs picturing my awkward moments! 😁

I'm 5'7" but have rather freakishly long legs. My husband is taller than I am but my legs are actually longer than his which makes doggie style sex awkward at times as I'm 'too high' unless I really crouch down. We usually do that at the edge of the bed with him standing and that works

You remind me what my Lady Friend offered to me ten years ago. She was quickly short breathing and taller than me. Once she wass sitting nude on a chair and ask me to come closer to her, like we often did before or after loving, but this time she took me by surprise and give me a head job / blow job starting with soft kisses and suctions, once I was really hard she lubed my ass around and inside, always teasing me with her hand, lips, tongue ... feeling her finger moving in and out was steamy, she asked me than to put one feet on a second chair against her's, my eyes closed I don't see her taking a dildo lubing it, and ... and ... and ... placing the toy against my well prepared hole, It was shoved up so easily, she begin to move back and forth, I moved my back at the same rythm, to increase the feels, two times I asked her to stop because on the edge, the third time I asked to slow down because ready for cumming, she just answered I want you now and continue to love me with her mouth. I exploded, she can't swallow all the sperm I cummed, mouth, face, breast there was my sperm all over , what a souvenir , she was so happy to have make me cum with a such "generosity".

@JR3 - Good topic. As I'm 6'4" and the average height of British women is 5'5", I did have some issues with height differences. Mostly I could compensate for it fairly well and had to accept some limitations such as the difficulty kissing in the missionary position when with shorter women. Difference in trunk length could make a 69 impractical.

I experienced the greatest difficulties with a girlfriend who was only 4'10", and therefore 18" shorter than myself. To others we probably looked seriously mismatched, but that wasn't a real a problem for either of us. One genuine problem, and the first we encountered with the height difference, was kissing in a standing position. Either I needed to stoop and bring myself down to her or she needed to stand on something. Many sexual positions didn't present any problems at all but there were some difficulties with others. It wasn't practically possible to perform an effective 69 with her, and due to the difference in thigh length, she was on pillows or cushions to compensate when I took her from behind.

My wife, @Amethyst, is 5'11" herself and so there is only a 5" overall height difference, but suitable height and beauty weren't the only reasons we married.

I've not had partners significantly different than me in height - I'm 6'1" and the women I've gotten it on with have been between 5'5" and 5'9". The only thing I can, therefore, contribute to this was my experience with one particular 5'7" ex. While we had no significant size compatibly issues, nor did we have to be contortionists to get down and dirty, she was a saucy thing. One Sunday afternoon we were out for a stroll and popped in to an adult store. 45 minutes later she was the proud owner of a magnificent pair of shiny black thigh boots, resplendent with chains, buckles and wicked 5" heels. In the months we were together thereafter she was never shy about slipping in to them to torment me and, conveniently elevate her pussy and arse to the perfect height for me to give it to her standing up or bent over the back of the couch.

It didn't hurt either that she didn't take them off when we switched positions. She knew damn well how good they felt wrapped around my back or thrown over my shoulders.

I love how resourceful we humans are as a breed when it comes down to fucking and sucking.

What a great thread , thanks JR ! I too am 5'3 and I am just attracted to tall men . We recently had a convo in chat about men with big hands which is also something that I like , I have a thing for a strong wide back too . Oh and broad shoulders too ! Lol ok back on topic .

I have been with men in the 5'10 -6'5" range . We never really encountered a problem that required too much effort to work with . The 6'5"boyfriend while we could never have a make out session standing up would just pick me up and put me on something ( sitting on a fence , or the hood of a car , standing on a step etc ) sometimes it was sweet and romantic but sometimes it got me downright mad -if we were arguing or I was in a little snit he would pick me up and put me where he wanted me til I cooled off . I think he rather enjoyed me being pretty much defenseless.

As I am older and not as petite as I once was I like being with a much larger man . I know I wont break him ! HAHA

Yeah it is a good topic. Being a tall woman I just wonder what problems there can be if the man is quite a bit shorter. I mean things like how he does it doggy style if his legs are shorter than hers are. Maybe he has to be the one who is kneeling on something so that he is high enough.

Amethyst, that image just cracked me up ! I have never dated anyone shorter than me , its really not too possible ! Haha

I think the image of a guy shorter than me , kneeling on throw pillows behind me would definitely be a mood killer - or have me in a fit of laughter first ???

...... I think the image of a guy shorter than me , kneeling on throw pillows behind me would definitely be a mood killer - or have me in a fit of laughter first ???

@bridgette - Nothing wrong with laughter as long as it's shared by both partners. Who said it has to be deadly serious?

😁 😁 😁

Not sure " Mr Shorty " would appreciate me laughing at him -unless he had a VERY long ....... LOL

Not sure " Mr Shorty " would appreciate me laughing at him

There's a big difference between laughing WITH someone and AT them. Though I will say I am guilty of both throughout life, I am lucky enough to have never been given a reason to laugh AT someone I'm in the middle of sex with!... Yet...

Not sure " Mr Shorty " would appreciate me laughing at him -unless he had a VERY long ....... LOL

Maybe he would look like he had 3 legs. Hahaha

But it must be something that happens really. I mean tall ladies like me can not just be with taller men, so how is it for them when they have got shorter boyfriends? I can not really know because my husband is taller than me.

No good looking at me for answers. I haven't stood and looked up at a woman who was standing on the same surface as myself since I was around 13 years of age. 😁

I am going to have to carefully peruse this thread and make mental notes. I've become very good friends with an old friend from university days and she is almost a head smaller than I am. I have to bend to give her the customary 3 greeting kisses when we meet.

I never considered the practical implications of ensuing degrees of possible intimacy though. 😃

Being a tall woman I just wonder what problems there can be if the man is quite a bit shorter. I mean things like how he does it doggy style if his legs are shorter than hers are. Maybe he has to be the one who is kneeling on something so that he is high enough.

A good friend of mine who is 5'6 is married to a woman 6'1. He sez it's just fine! "When we're nose to nose, my toes is in it; and when we're toes to toes, my nose is in it."

As for the doggy style, I recommend the Liberator Hipster (https://www.liberator.com/hipster.html). My wife is 2" shorter than me, but she has [GREAT] long legs. The Hipster allows her to relax during doggie style (doesn't have to be on her knees), and allows me to fall asleep on top of her after, while still coupled.