Fetish intrusions on your daily life

Regardless of what your favorite fetishes are, do you sometimes find yourself thinking about them when you should really be doing something else? Does something in your otherwise mundane and ordinary day trigger thoughts of your particular fetishes?

For example, while you’re in a business meeting, do you casually look at the otherwise nondescript female coworker sitting across from you and wonder what she’d look like on the exam table with her feet up in stirrups? As your male coworker is standing and writing something on the board, do you find it difficult to pay attention to what he’s saying, since you’re imagining him with his pants down and about to cough as you check him for a hernia? When you’re first introduced to that young male summer intern, do you wonder just how thorough his mandatory physical exam was? Do you imagine yourself being the one to watch him as he gave his observed urine specimen for the mandatory drug test? Or do you imagine him bent over your knee with his pants and underwear down, ready to receive a paddling by you?

What about examples outside of your work environment? Say you’re waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store and you notice the very good looking young woman in front of you. As she turns toward you and smiles, do you simply smile back at her and leave it at that? Or does your mind immediately race with all sorts of ideas? Do you focus on her lips as she smiles and imagine what your erect cock would look like between them? Do you imagine yourself restraining her arms and legs and then applying nipple clamps and ice cubes to her? Would you like to give her several large volume enemas, watching as she expels each of them? Do you imagine her in front of you on her hands and knees, begging you to go slowly as you penetrate her anally?

One more example: You’ve just finished your workout at the health club and are now in the locker room. As you strip off your sweaty clothes and prepare for a quick shower, you notice a younger guy a few lockers away from you. You’ve seen him working out before, but you’ve never seen him in the locker room. As he pulls off his shirt and workout shorts, you notice for the first time just how fit he looks. Do you wonder just what he’d look like in a jockstrap, instead of the boxer briefs that he’s wearing? You finish undressing and head to the group shower area, noticing that he is now just a few steps behind you. As you’re both showering you try to sneak a peek at him without being obvious about it. As he lathers up his tight body, do you imagine yourself on your knees before him, your hands tied behind your back while he forces his soapy cock deep into your mouth? Or do you imagine him bent over in front of you, his feet spread apart and his wrists fastened to his ankles, helplessly waiting for you to violate his virgin ass in any way that you like? Or does showering with such a young guy remind you of your days in high school when the gang showers after P.E. and practice along with the group sports physicals were opportunities to see the other fit, young guys.

What kind of fantasies are triggered by your daily activities?

ABSOLUTELY! I frequently play "would i/wouldn't I" in groups or in public. I also frequently try to imagine what those covered body parts REALLY look like.

My fetishes go beyond medfet, so I'm frequently fantasizing about BDSM ideas involving innocent coworkers and strangers.

My husband knows that I flirt with men (even when he and I are together) as we walk down the street. At first he didn't like it, but I explained to him that he is the only one who gets to play with me. I stare the men down, even if they are with a woman and imagine what debauched and nefarious deeds I could do to their body.

Sometimes I even tell my husband what I'm thinking and he gets a chuckle out of it!

Seeing an attractive female wearing tight trousers makes me visualise that shapely bottom bare for injections and a suitably mini-skirted young lady can make me imagine bending across her supple bare thighs for my own buttock injections.

Women who wear those tall, knee-high boots during winter really get my juices going. I fantasize about whether or not they have any dominant streaks or kinks.

Also, older assertive men tend to make me fantasize about what it would be like to submit to them, whether they have a big cock, and if they have ever desired for a younger, less assertive man to orally pleasure them.

The Chat Room on Zity triggers a lot of fantasies . I fantasize what it would be like to be a dom to a master or just what it wold be like to take a big cock in my mouth and ass. So if you're ever chatting with me in one of the chat rooms, you know what I'm thinking.

I also fantasize about any woman that's nice to me. I wonder what her breasts and sss feel like, what her pussy tastes like, if she's shaved or bushy or somewhere in between. I imagine her hair tickling my stomach and legs as she sucks my cock and plays with my ass or puts a dildo in me while I'm tied to the bed.

I throw in some bdsm from time to time and often wonder if they know what I'm thinking. Sometimes I think they do, like the waitress at Shari's restaurant this morning. I used to have breakfast there with a Christian men's group once a week or so but stopped going there a couple of years ago. So there's this one waitress who is sexy as hell (to me) and we had kind of flirted before. When I saw her this morning I told her that she was just as beautiful as I remembered. She blushed and said thanks but held eye contact much longer than she had to and then said "Let me know if you need anything." I thought of saying "Oh, yes. There's something I need from you," but I was with a client so I just said "maybe later." I knew she knew what I was thinking but probably not exactly. I left her a big tip.

I am sure that we all think like that, even vanilla people who don't have any particular kinks will think along the same lines.

I know that I certainly always do, but then again with all of my kinks and fetishism, I suppose that is of little surprise.!!

Just today I was in a meeting regarding a construction project we have going on at the office. The general contractor was giving a power point slide presentation on the progress with one of their female staff assistants controlling the slides. The presentation drolled on through drawings, site prep, mechanical, etc. leading up to a boring session. About that time, a slide entitled "Steel Erection" appeared innocently enough on the screen followed by target completion dates, etc. The young female assistant caught the unintended joke and began to blush noticably. I spent the rest of the day thinking about her and if that made her blush, what else might make her blush such as a medical exam or bent over a spanking bench.

I think about the fun times I've had or will have with my husband. I enjoy anticipation and I day dream at times. One would never know in public the kind of person I am here.

Well, I'm not so sure that this sort of thing is only fetish-related. Haven't you ever noticed that when you buy a particular make of car you start noticing others like it more than previously? My wife worked in a drapery department of a store, and I would notice that if we were at someone's house she would at some point feel the drapes there. I am a chemist, and I tend to notice when people repeat stupid things about chemistry they've heard on tv.

My point is that if you have a fetish it is a part of your daily life and not an intrusion. It will naturally be included in the things that pass through your mind, just as it will naturally be included in the things you make time for.

Perhaps the idea of intrusiveness depends more on the fetish itself. Someone who loves to wear plastic panties can do that in far more circumstances than someone whose fetish requires a room full of specialized equipment.

I do find that thoughts of fetishes do intrude into my daily life at times and that they can be very difficult to steer away from. They sometimes just drop in and I find myself focusing on them to the point where I begin to get turned on. When I worked alone, it wasn't too bad, but when working with others I try to immediately push them out of my mind. At times it's not so easy.

As I have very strong kinks/fetishes for (adult only!) women (and myself) wearing rubber garments as well as running shoes and sneakers, this is something that can arise almost any time I go out. After a quick glance at her face and clothing, I invariably look down and do a great deal of looking at women's feet to see if any athletic shoes they might be wearing do anything for me. Usually, this is just a routine I have without much resulting fantasy, but now and then I'll find a pretty woman in a particularly sexy pair of sneakers, maybe with other athletic clothes on top, or, rarely, a rubber raincoat, and then I can certainly start fantasizing vividly about what we might do together if we got to know each other. And then my other kinks may start being included in the fantasy! It doesn't happen much anymore, but when I spent a lot of time SCUBA diving and teaching SCUBA, I'd be with groups of divers and students including women in wetsuits and sneakers, and that would really be distracting, while being a lot of fun. I still managed to teach well and be a good Instructor despite the distractions!

Eric

Indeed some female colleagues I think about groping. Wondering what their facial expression is while a doctor is examining their breasts, and if they like it, or are tempted to think more about sexual harassment. And would they let me conduct breast exams on them if I offered.....

I do wonder, what if certain female colleagues got to see the jockstrap spreads i have on various websites & discovered what i was up to, what that would cause them to think.

Monday night, i was wondering when the last of my colleagues were going to leave for the evening, because i didn't want to be seen going into the 2nd floor bathroom, where there are lockers. I had been planning to do a jockstrap photo shoot there, & thought working late on Monday might be the perfect time. So I set up my "hidden cam" angles for my "locker room jock" photo shoot, of which I'll post pics this coming weekend on allkink.

So i spend part of the work day thinking of places that would be good for a shoot, and when is a good time when I can do it with no one around. And how i want to set it up. Like the shot I got in the lab on night, and the Fall foliage shoot I got behind the parking lot.

While I'm driving on highways & should be paying attention to the road, i'm scoping out woodsy areas off the road, & considering if they'd be good places for a shoot.

My fetish, enemas, comes and goes day to day. I may go several days with no thoughts or feelings about my fetish. Then one day I may wake up and all I think about is my "kink" all day long.

One of my oldest and strongest kinks, since it's actually very mundane for most people but very prevalent in terms of occurrence in the real world, comes up very frequently. I've always been extremely aroused by women (and thus by myself, too) wearing sneakers. This started probably at least by about age 13-14 or so when I started noticing my middle school's cheerleaders in their uniforms including white canvas and rubber Keds sneakers (US brand of plimsolls). I always suspected strongly that it was mostly from my attraction to the rubber in their sneakers, as I'd loved rubber since around age 8 (wetsuits on TV women). It just grew in intensity through high school, and then also started included running shoes when non-canvas "nylon" or mesh running shoes became prevalent in the 70's.

One quick example of a fetish intrusion is a few days ago when I was looking at Facebook. A friend's husband was in the hospital and she had just uploaded a photo of his therapist bringing a therapy dog in to see him in his room. Well, the dog and the woman therapist were both cute, and I was glad to see my friend was getting good care, but also the woman was wearing a pair of black Converse Chucks sneakers. I was immediately attracted to this cute ~40'ish blonde woman dressed for work in those (what I regard as very sexy) sneakers. Obviously if a photo can get my attention like that, it happens with predictable regularity seeing real women walking around in sneakers in real life. I still haven't decided whether this kink is more of an annoyance or a very frequent pleasant occurrence. It's probably both, so I just try to enjoy it and not let it get too much in the way of other aspects of real life. I mention sneakers as they're so common, unlike my other kinks which are rarely seen, demonstrated or hinted at in public (rubber, anal plugs, enemas).

Eric

I very regularly think about kinky that NHS during the day. It's not helped that I've not been allowed an orgasm since September. It basically means I'm almost constantly horny, not helped by my Mistress constantly emailing me things to keep me aroused!

A massive link of mine is seeing women in high heels. I'll often find myself sneaking a peek on the train if a woman is wearing cute shoes. I've actually found I'm very good at remembering people by their footwear as well as their faces.

Thoughts of my enema fetish always intrude my day many times a day, every single day. It doesn't need a trigger at all though my brain does it all on my own.

I have trouble driving past women in scrubs. I can't help turning my head to get a better glimpse.

Yes definitely. When I'm dealing with young people at work, exasperated colleagues will sometimes say one 'needs a spanking'. Instant turn on.

.....................It's not helped that I've not been allowed an orgasm since September. It basically means I'm almost constantly horny, not helped by my Mistress constantly emailing me things to keep me aroused!

A massive link of mine is seeing women in high heels. I'll often find myself sneaking a peek on the train if a woman is wearing cute shoes. I've actually found I'm very good at remembering people by their footwear as well as their faces.

Rubbermark,

I just found this post of yours today. I didnt know you were enjoyably under the thumb of a Domme or mistress controlling your orgasms. Are you in a cage or chastity device? What does she send to keep you aroused? Does she tease or try to stimulate you with her or you in rubber clothes?

As far as shoes, sometimes I find heels sexy but usually think lower shoes or flats are more attractive just because women in heels usually look like they're about to lose their balance and topple over! As you may recall, personally my big shoe kink or maybe fetish is a woman in sneakers (plimsolls?) or running shoes. They just drive me wild. I think it started as an offshoot of my rubber fetish way back as a teenager, but it's still going strong 50 years later. I'm like you but for different shoes - sneaking peeks at women's shoes looking for sneakers, and being good at remembering women by their sneakers and/or any rubber clothing or items they wear.

Eric

I wish i could entertain my fantasies, but I teach high school and I have to watch what I say and do!

I wish i could entertain my fantasies, but I teach high school and I have to watch what I say and do!

I'll bet that you have all kinds of inappropriate fantasies being a high school teacher. Best to keep them to yourself.

I wish i could entertain my fantasies, but I teach high school and I have to watch what I say and do!

There ought to be social circles that you can be a part of that don't overlap with your profession as teacher. I would certainly hope you don't have to sign something like a purity oath in order to teach in a school.

But, then again, I understand your concerns.

I'm always thinking: what sort of sordid, depraved activities do these people get up to after hours? You know they're not normal - like anyone is - so they must be up to some kind of debauchery.

Believe it's wired for a lot of us to spool up the kink hamster when in particularly droll situations at work, school, whatever. The Power Point and spread sheets drift meaningless across the screen, and people's eyes glaze over after the "who is online?" roll call and agenda slide. Rather than fall asleep in a catatonic pool of drool, we either start "answering important emails" (surfing Zity) on our phones or we fantasize about those around us.

I find myself wondering not only what a particularly well tailored skirt or blouse is hiding, and whether it would look good chained to my desk, but also what kinks the otherwise vanilla looking gal is secretly into herself. Is that librarian or English teacher also a part time Dominatrix? Does that secretary wear a full body rubber suit on weekends? Does that matronly bank executive have a stable of well endowed college age men running a train on her on pay days? Is there a menagerie of furry outfits in the mayor's closet?

(Panic: are they all on Zity and know exactly who I am?)

Some of it's boredom, but I also think about statistics and that no one is simply Ward and June Cleaver. They're getting up to something, but what is it?!

Some of it's boredom, but I also think about statistics and that no one is simply Ward and June Cleaver. They're getting up to something, but what is it?!

Ward and June WERE up to something. Why do you think their son was named Beaver? hmmm?

Rubbermark,

I just found this post of yours today. I didnt know you were enjoyably under the thumb of a Domme or mistress controlling your orgasms. Are you in a cage or chastity device? What does she send to keep you aroused? Does she tease or try to stimulate you with her or you in rubber clothes?

As far as shoes, sometimes I find heels sexy but usually think lower shoes or flats are more attractive just because women in heels usually look like they're about to lose their balance and topple over! As you may recall, personally my big shoe kink or maybe fetish is a woman in sneakers (plimsolls?) or running shoes. They just drive me wild. I think it started as an offshoot of my rubber fetish way back as a teenager, but it's still going strong 50 years later. I'm like you but for different shoes - sneaking peeks at women's shoes looking for sneakers, and being good at remembering women by their sneakers and/or any rubber clothing or items they wear.

Eric

Hi Eric. It's an online relationship but I've been keeping true to my Mistress's demands for chastity. I've been wearing a cage pretty much daily with weekly edging tasks and punishments. One of the most recent is having me dress in full rubber under my male clothes and then putting on heels to walk round the neighbourhood late at night. Pretty scary but arousing at the same time.

I wish i could entertain my fantasies, but I teach high school and I have to watch what I say and do!

I'm quite envious and jealous of any high school males who got an early sex education from a female teacher. i believe in the double standard, that I see nothing wrong with consensual teen males, if they get aroused by their randy randiness, to get involved with adult women. I doubt there would be any scarring, assuming they are not falling in love.

One thing I can't stand about the discovery of high school males with teachers is how they couldn't stay discreet about it, that they had to get found out. not being careful enough, etc. to protect both themselves, and the teachers who put so much at stake by getting involved.

I'd like to think if i had the privilege of getting involved with an adult female while in high school, that I would have kept it as secret as possible to not spoil a good thing. For I did not have any confidants at the time worth telling.

I find it interesting on another website how many men now in their 60's & 70's with whom I've chatted that had inappropriate relationships with, let's just say adults in positions of highly revered authority, who maintained their discretion at not being found out. And they look back on their experiences fondly as they've shared them with me, and don't seem scarred by anything they experienced. Though there are some people who have come forward with lawsuits, and claiming they've adversely been affected. Though I do believe them, i have to wonder if they're not in the minority, when you take into account all the teen males who have been involved in inappropriate relationships with adults.

This is not to comment on what's right and wrong. Just what happens in real life, how it's dealt with, and how those involved are affected.

Rubbermark,

Hi Eric. It's an online relationship but I've been keeping true to my Mistress's demands for chastity. I've been wearing a cage pretty much daily with weekly edging tasks and punishments. One of the most recent is having me dress in full rubber under my male clothes and then putting on heels to walk round the neighbourhood late at night. Pretty scary but arousing at the same time.

I'm glad you found her and are enjoying your chastity plus tasks. I hope you manage an orgasm soon! As far as your weekend task/punishment, I've actually had a fantasy for a long time that a partner/Domme of mine (single, currently looking) would do something similar to me. My fantasy is for her to dress me in full catsuit, gloves and (rubber, of course) sneakers under a normal hooded sweatsuit, +/- anal plug. Then she'd take me out for dinner and a movie or shopping so I'd have to wear the rubber and deal with the sweating and arousal all the time we were out in public. I'd take the gloves off before going out in public but otherwise be covered wrists to neck to ankles in rubber all evening. Definitely doable. I'm not into heels, but I'm just a little envious of her demanding you be in full rubber under your street clothes. I hope you're having some rubberist fun with it.

Eric

I would say I am like others who have an active healthy libido. Am I thinking sexual thoughts that include my fetishes throughout the day- YES of course. Do these thoughts interfere with my daily function- no not really. Honestly, I think these thoughts are healthy and serve to energize me. I am still physically able to have sex so thinking about it along with my fetishes is a good thing.

I just gave myself a 4 q enema for orgasm stimulation and added in some of my other kinks for better fun and stimulation. Kinks:

1) Anal plugs/Enemas: 4 q of soapy saline with a latex balloon catheter inflated.

2) Rubber: neoprene rubber sweatshirt/pants over a diaper, neoprene hood.

3) Sneakers: white low Converse over athletic socks.

4) D/s: real enema/kink session with fantasy Domme running the show with me as sub enduring her ministrations.

If I'd planned to go out after recovering, I'd just switch into jeans and flannel shirt over the same sneakers, watching for attractive women in sneakers also, which is very common. At least sneakers, and occasionally other kinks, show up for me everyday. I just realize it'll happen and enjoy it without it interfering in life otherwise.

Eric