Let's hear from the really older folks

@ Mathgirl, Do you people find that sex/enemas in the morning is preferred? Morning is our favorite time for having fun. Enemas in the morning to "Get Things Going" is a fantastic way to start the day. Normally in the morning after a cup of coffee my body is in the mood to go! My husband sets things up the night before so everything is ready. I prefer to look as hot and sexy as possible so I clean up, put a bit of lip stick on, slip into a pair of sexy black stockings and a garter belt, then a cute pair of sandal high heels and a spritz of Emeraude. Sometimes I'll wear crotch-less panties or bloomers to add an extra bit of spice to the picture. My husband helps me into my utterly sexy pink exam table, makes a few adjustments, sets my feet into the stirrups or sets my legs on to the Brewer crutches and baby I'm ready for some hot fun. I never have to leave my table! I receive my enema, expel, get cleaned up and make passionate love after the show right there. Now that's the way for lovers to start the day. We have been home alone now for years. We have our own in house examination-enema room. It's actually no different than any other doctors office and our instrument selection is vast. My husband is a retired orthopedic surgeon and now my own at home fun time doctor and gynecologist. He's a pretty good proctologist also! I have an appointment with my proctologist tomorrow morning. He's taking me to dinner this evening so I'll be good and full tomorrow morning and in need of his services. Know what I mean?!

Yeah Mathgirl, You're going to find lots of old dudes and Dudettes on Zity. For this Klysmo site, 40 is very young. We have a few 20-30 year old members, but they seem to be more interested in other kinks than we are; ie. MedFet, etc.

GyneDoll, I am very envious of your marriage play with what appears to be an ideal Klysmo. mate. Enjoy it for all of us who aren't in a situation like yours.

I'm 70, and have been a life long Klismo. The wife is 71, but wants no part of enemas, so unfortunately, I have to indulge solo, but that doesn't mean that I'm about to give up my very enjoyable enemas. Besides, they (enemas) have most recently become my substitute for sex, because for health reasons (physical & mental) have robbed any interest my wife may have had in sexual intercourse.

@ jimmyt44, I often feel saddened when I read about other couples, especially married couples that are not fulfilled in their lives. Something I realized many years ago is that a marriage has to surpass the relationship stage. It should exceed and transcend into a companionship. My companionship is with my best friend and romantic partner.

That person is my husband! My companionship with my best friend keeps me feeling young and happy. Companionship is us sharing a sense of closeness while being with each other. Any couple married or not can try this one thing to help turn a relationship into a companionship. Remove the words "TOLERATE and TOLERANCE" from your lives and vocabulary! Sorry for raising my voice but those two words say we put ourselves above our loved ones and other people.

Replace those words with patience and a sincere compassionate nature and be kind at all times. Strive for Unconditional Love, with No Strings Attached! A love with strings attached say people set up a mental rule book, I will only love you if you meet my requirements. See there "My Requirements" is all about tolerate and tolerance. I, Me, Mine and Myself will separate us from the power of love. We cannot love as long as we are hooked on ourselves. That leaves no room for anyone! I am not that important but "We" are!

This morning we had a great time! Today is a good day to work toward a companionship. Don't wait for other people to reach out for you. You reach out to them, else there is no merit in your life today!

I stumbled upon this article. Maybe you have seen it maybe not? The last part is the best part. To me anyway! Time to go to the grocery store.

http://www.enemarotica.com/klysmaphilia.html

This is a very interesting topic. I'm 57 and never had any formal education with computers, although my entire career has been in the computer industry. That being said, what I have found, is there has been an entire age group left out of these type of discussion, because of the lack of computer skills. SO, what your dealing with here and on every computer related discussion, is only the people who have gone out of there way to learn above and beyond most formal schooling, in our age group. SO, I bet your only seeing a part of the real world enema users here....

New to this site, but find most of the posts on all topics fascinating. I was a little reluctant to state my age, but now that I see myself in such congenial company, I can state that I am 75. This is a useful thread because there is a significant bias against "sexy seniors" in many areas of society. I see lots of articles on the amount of sexual activity in Senior's Residences. There is always a little element of "Can't believe those old fogies are still at it!" in the tone of the articles.

Mathgirl, I applaud you. You could lead a one-woman crusade to remind everyone over the age of 60 that life can still be rich and satisfying in all aspects, including sexual.

If penetrative sex is just not on, there are, as you point out, a myriad of ways to enjoy intimacy with a partner. just the sheer tactile gratification of snuggling naked with another individual is therapeutic.One's enjoyment of sex, and kinks, is no doubt to some extent dependent on the overall quality of life enjoyed.

I ride motorcycles, workout frequently, bicycle, walk, eat sensibly and generally stay active. My S.O. prefers to keep our sexual encounters at a once per week level. I can live with that, because she is a loving, enthusiastic, sex partner. We have been together 13 years, and she has come a long way, considering she was taught by nuns. And, yes, before you ask, I would love to have her dress in a nun's habit with sexy lingerie underneath. It's a cliche, but sometimes you can't beat the old standards. She is 70, and in my eyes, gorgeous. I never tire of telling her so, and I'm sure she now believes me, although she claims my eyesight must be failing.

My wife and I both turned 65 this past summer. Our sex life is good but basic. I've had a love for enemas since my youth and have hinted at it with her. But the hints didn't take. As I get older my libido increases and I don't want to end up wishing I had done things differently. This thread has helped convince me to at least enjoy my enema pleasure openly. If we decides to participate, even better. There are risk here but I need to take them. Mathgirl thank you and all the participants in this thread.

Jim

My husband and I are finding that our mornings are pretty much shot for being able to do much in the way of our sex life. He has his work schedule that starts before sunrise most of the time, and I have a business that also has a lot of early morning or very late night deliveries, or orders. As we've been rediscovering our sex life, we've been seeing that just afternoon, or mid afternoon to be "our" time.

As for our enemas, those seem to work best for us just before we go to bed, and those often lead to "happy endings." But our Sunday's seem to be a time when we can do some play, and out comes the lingerie and heels, and now the enemas, and toys. It's a lot of fun and helps when you have a guy who is showing his own kink. Who says the kids are the only ones who can have fun?

Let me add a belated welcome. I saw this thread a while back and meant to add a couple of pennies of my own.

So, chronologically, I am 63-1/2. With my running marathons in 4-1/4 hours (and I've cut an hour off my running time since I ran my first marathon at age 60), I feel much younger than my actual age; somewhere between 27-33. Many people are surprised by my age because (according to them) I don't look that old. My typical running mileage is somewhere between 35-45 miles per week. While I'm no spring chicken, it takes something to train and run these things and I am competitive in the half marathon distances in my age group. Though I am not as fast as when I was in my 20's and 30's, I probably have much more stamina than I did then...for everything.

Unfortunately I, too, am in one of those sexless marriages. I have a sense of irony about that...that the three women I have fallen in love with in my lifetime got involved with me so they ultimately wouldn't have to be sexually active and involved with me. There is a story associated with each one of them, but it is the latest one that I am married to.

There are some things that communication can't overcome and change. A loss of sex drive due to menopause and a hysterectomy is one of them. And although she has told me a number of times that this is not the way she wanted it to turn out, it is the hand I've been dealt.

This is a useful thread because there is a significant bias against "sexy seniors" in many areas of society. I see lots of articles on the amount of sexual activity in Senior's Residences. There is always a little element of "Can't believe those old fogies are still at it!" in the tone of the articles.

Ha, what do those young whippersnappers know about life anyway? Their time is coming too and some day they will be in the same boat, old in physical years with a mind and feelings and desires decades younger ... and with much more experience to boot ... ha ha.

Continuing to think on this quote from an earlier post, I remember something my wife told me long ago. It was in one of her first jobs when she worked in a TBC sanatorium back in the 1970s. She told me that one of the 'worries' the staff was told to look out for, was for patients sneaking into each other's room to fool around and have sex. That was a big no-no and very much frowned upon.

Now I don't know if this was because of any medical reason like running an increased risk of infection. But as the patients already were consumptive I never understood the problem, except if it was perhaps of a moral nature. And even then. It was a sanatorium run by the socialist medical mutuality, so you'd think more progressive in their thinking. But no, just as straight-laced as the others.

I am glad to see this discussion. Thank you Mathgirl. I am 72 yo and in good health. I find that enemas continue to give me the same amount of pleasure as ever. I take an enema once or twice a week, sometimes to be more comfortable physically, occasionally just for pleasure, but most often for both those reasons. I still find that after I have prepared and taken the enema and I am ready to expel, I am always wet with pre come.

I still have sex with my wife, although obviously not as often as when we were younger. Unfortunately, she is not into enemas, so that is solo on my part. However, I am so very proud of her in many other ways, so I have learned to live with it and so has she. Life is good.

A friend told me some years ago about his father-in-law in FL, in his 80's at the time, who was involved sexually with five different women. "He does different things with each one." Wondered in enemas were involved -- these were people born in the 1920's and matured in the Golden Enema Age. Also some years ago a major paper had an article on sex with 70-year olds in Sweden. One woman said "We do different things." Figuring enemas probably were part of that scene. Hope so.

What exactly is the definition of "older" here?

To me, it's wrestling with the realization that A) despite my efforts and even that of medical intervention, my body just isn't the same as it was 10 years ago, and B) access to attractive young females is forever a thing of the past.

Feel free to see my post of 5 minutes ago in The Lounge about growing old, or up or maybe both.

My 20-something son found a TV show starring a (real life 55-year old, ~35-45 in TV) woman I am jokingly telling him I'm in love with. Were she available I'd be on the phone with her in a flash. What a beauty, and not just sexually. Do we also need to redefine "attractive young females"? In the last month, I just accidentally discovered that with the right newish AD medication, I can do at least four orgasms a week, and even though the erection situation needs improvement, there are, if somewhat distasteful, solutions for that too if required. I'm a doctor, so these really don't bother me so much. As I said, I'm not looking for a playmate unless one tries to find me for unrelated reasons (nonsexual), but if one gets interested, I can sure provide the libido.

And as far as enemas go, they really help my orgasms and if I wasn't having hemorrhoid surgery in a month, I'd be plugging and catheterizing and inflating my rectum several times a week, which I expect to continue later, repair and surgical advice permitting.

Dick

What exactly is the definition of "older" here?

To me, it's wrestling with the realization that A) despite my efforts and even that of medical intervention, my body just isn't the same as it was 10 years ago, and B) access to attractive young females is forever a thing of the past.

Well, being 'older' certainly doesn't mean actual physical years as much as it used to. My grandparents and certainly my great-parents were wrecks or dead at the age I am now, worn out, suffering from one thing or another, virtually chair-bound, shaking and trembling when walking around with difficulty and being dependent on the help of younger family members for almost everything.

Not to boast, but that doesn't apply to myself, thank goodness (except maybe when it comes to moving furniture around) nor to most of my friends of the same age as myself. I am as self-sufficient as I ever was and certainly have more experience to draw on than when I was younger. Which helps in making correct decisions in so many areas which in turn reinforces feeling independent and in control of things and hence less old.

Many a good tune was played on an " Old Fiddle"

My reply is based on sharing a life, a love, and a marriage bed with a guy 30 years (to the day) older than I. We have been together since I was 28 and he 58. Some details are in my blog if anyone is interested.

He will turn 75 years old this coming October. And now, yes, now his penis doesn't always get erect when he wants it to. He suffered a physical injury three years ago that came very close to killing him (details also in the blog), and while I thrill to see the very positive physical recovery he is making, I also see that the age-demon is now beginning to erode away at him in a serious way.

I knew, thought deeply about, and frankly worried about the differences in our ages. I understood at 28 that he would age before me and die before me. I didn't take that lightly. But my heart made the decision while my head was still swirling about it. We have had a decade and a half of precious sweet love, filled with sexual satisfaction. I, a lifetime klismo, patiently worked on "converting" him into a klismo. It took a decade, but when he finally got into it, he really got into it. Klismaphilia has immensely brightened our sex lives, and is part of almost our every sexual sharing.

And we both enjoy that a bag full of warm water can do wondrous things for a flaccid penis!

So am I now beginning to come into the part of our relationship that I foresaw and dreaded? Is he going to go all old-man on me and our relationship eventually change into more of a parent-child as he grows less and less capable as the years pass? My fore-brain tells me that is so, but I'm typing this just a couple of hours after he filled my little pink butt up with water and screwed the tar out of me. Whatever consequence aging may eventually bring to us, his age sure doesn't matter much this February morning.

Hugs,

Diane

Azdiane, I am over joyed to see you posting on Zity again. It's been SO long since you were one of our frequent posting members. I missed your wonderful messages for us to read and enjoy. May our Higher Power bless you and hubby with good health and happiness. I look forward to your great additions to our board again.

E Hugs,

Jim T.

Just turned 65 yesterday, no change in raging libido. Still difficulty with erections from meds, but recently able to orgasm somewhat more easily with a different AD medication. Still looking for a compatible kinky but loving (woman) partner to love and play with. Aging not great fun, but so far manageable, maintaining as many joys as possible. Incidentally, I'm also about a week out from a hemorrhoidectomy, from which I've been fortunate to have essentially zero pain. If anyone here needs similar surgery, let me know and I can let you know the regimen I put myself on that may have contributed to my lack of postop pain. It also only took 2-3 days postop before my libido came raging back, really yearning for orgasms, and yes, also enemas and prostate massages. But, trying to minimize the chances of real pain or injury, I'm wating until my surgeon okays such pleasures. I have a first postop appointment on the 27th.

Also, I too am delighted to see AZDiane posting her wonderful mix of thoughts and descriptions again - I've really missed you. Welcome back, Diane! Your description at the end of this last post ("............I'm typing this just a couple of hours after he filled my little pink butt up with water and screwed the tar out of me. Whatever consequence aging may eventually bring to us, his age sure doesn't matter much this February morning") gave me an immense smile and a good laugh, as well as making my private parts literally tingle, wanting to satisfy them soon. Thanks!

And I deeply envy your lovely relationship with your husband, sexual and otherwise. I keep looking and praying for a woman to love and be sexual with, even now at 65. God Bless you both for many more years of love, fun and companionship.

Eric

Azdiane. . . What a thoughtful post of yours. My GF and I are about 10 years apart and thought a lot as our relationship drifted closer with time. We finally realized that the future is just unknown and thesis not a dress rehersal and have a wonderful relationship with lots of toys to play with. Not married due to horribly complicated legal stuff but the love is sure there. Our congratulations to you both.

Let's hear from the really older folks, ha ha, i guess i fit in this category, ty for reminding me.

Although I may not be the person I was when I was 20 (65 now), I still have strong sexual desires. Erections are harder to come by, but I do enjoy seeing a nude female or viewing sexual acts. I have do have fantasizes of sex with younger females, but I realize that I have my limitations. But don't think for a minute that I don't enjoy the thought of performing as I once did 30 year ago lol.

I'm now 65. I'm more sexual right now than I have been any other time in my life except for a really wild time during my mid to late thirties. I'm certainly more open to a wider variety of sexual experiences. My libido is strong and I seem to have no problem finding willing partners.

Being one of the “OLDIES” I can honestly say that sex was always an adventure into the unknown. While we had our strangest, weirdest and kinky fantasies we took time to explore the possibilities of bringing our ideas to life. I remember fondly the white ankle socks, vests and navy blue knickers, and then stockings with girdles, nylon panties and bras. Of course us girls had crushes on older girls at school and then boys came along and sex, in all its glory, reared its ugly head and took most of us into a wonderful world of pleasure and pain. I am wondering where I should begin and most probably it should be with memories from the early fifties when I was a schoolgirl and mum had her rituals whenever I was concerned.

The History of Mrs P

All revealed in my Historical Blog

My wife and I are both over 60 and have always had a great sex life, but I seem to be getting kinky in my old age, and my wife has been very understanding. We are new to "orgasm tease and denial"... and wow, I had no idea how good it feels to be teased every day, and denied an orgasm.

As I rapidly leave my 70s, I am happy to say that my interest in sex has not diminished. I am no longer able to attain an erection when I want to, but there are many other ways to satisfaction. I have no interest in enemas and never did. I recently married a younger (by 17 yrs). Both of us are hindered by chronic medical conditions and some meds. There are times that skin to skin contact is sufficient, other times imagination runs wild.

I find that we are much more open to other than vanilla sex

If I understand ... I think it was a life lesson ... thanks to Mathgirl

As they say age in the mind. Experine counts for a lot. Once past 60 you are not suddenly brain dead.

I am 68--do not consider myself old at all--I am hornier than ever, ful of sexual energy, learning new stuff every day, having much better sexual experiences now than ever before--love it!!!

I am English!- Only ever heard Wife number 2 (of3) Complain about the severe pain- of having to have an enema before surgery whenever she was going to be operated upon.- NEVER EVER heard of a guy getting one- So must be an American thing! I am near 92 and now live with (No sex- Thai Wife says is bad for me at my age) But to confirm- She knows of no Enemas- in Thailand And she was Chief Hospital Administrator for 25 years. So my disgusting horniness is dealt with daily, when showering!