Enemas and Embarassment

This site has helped a lot of people including me get over the embarassment of admitting that enemas are enjoyable, healthy, and sexually enhancing. But how many find the embarassment factor adds to the sexual pleasure. Corner time, someone watching, ETC. Seems that you may not want to get over embarassment completely. So what do you think and does embarassment work to enhance your experience

It's actually very simple

Privacy IS a right, not a privilege!

Saying that you don't support the right to privacy because you have nothing to hide is like saying that you do't support freedom of speech because you have nothing to say.

Just keep it private ad there is nothing to be embarrassed about!!

Privacy in enema taking is something I covet, so this embarrassment part doesn't play in. That is my temperament and I respect all who have the right to take enemas in groups, enjoy humiliation, pain, scat aspect, etc. just of no interest to me when taking a fabulous sensual enema.

I liked your reply Edna. Each needs to find what works best for them but no need to convert others

The biggest thing to remember is that you can only be embarrassed if you allow yourself to be. I am not into orgies or crowds ... playing with a partner is more fun that taking an enema alone but there is a time when a 'solo' is just perfect, too

With almost every enema I am given or that I take, there is a certain amount of embarrassment involved. . . .Just two days ago I had my roommate assist me with a series of enemas, and this has actually happened to me a couple of times prior to this incident. There was a knock at my front door just as the 3-quart bag was emptying into me and I was mortified to say the least, but my roomie helped me up and like most times, she is very stern and domme with me during my enemas.

She told me that I would be allowed to drape the bath towel in front of myself but that I was going to have to answer the door, while I held the entire enema in and that she was going to leave the hose and barium nozzle deeply inserted in me while I did so. And that she was going to carry the empty bag behind me as I made my way to the front door. . .ARGHHHHHHH, I was even more mortified, but I am a true submissive by nature and even more so during my enema sessions.

So she helped me off the bed and I draped the bath towel I was laying on in front of myself, which , I will note barely concealed my front half, and slowly walked to my front door, while she in fact, followed behind me carrying the flat clear vinyl enema bag. . .My tummy was bulging quite noticeably and as I peaked out the window to see who was there, there was an older woman standing at my door, not knowing too sure who she was.

I partially opened the door with the towel barely covering my breasts and mid section and she said she was from some organization & that they were doing some sort of membership drive. Well at some point my footing became unsteady or my balance became a bit off and I wound up slipping in my stance just a bit, which resulted in the door coming open a bit further, at which point this woman I am sure got an eyeful. Because when the door came open a bit further my roomie was directly behind me holding the enema bag and nothing covering my bare bottom, the bath towel also had dropped a couple of inches during this !!!!

Immediately i apologized to her and told her that I was in the middle of trying to resolve a medical condition when she knocked at my door, and that the procedure had to continue, regardless, and she said she was sorry, and that she realized she had come at a bad time, but not to fret too much as she surprisingly admitted to me that she had been in my situation many times before herself and that she understood completely

She left me her card and asked me to give her a call at a more suitable time.Talk about being totally embarrassed !!!!! But I will admit, it did kind of add something to the whole enema scenario and I so much admitted this to my roomie. But the embarrassment is a bit of a turn on for me personally and I really kind of enjoy being " caught" while in the midst of taking enemas

I guess the exhibitionist in me keeps me from feeling real embarassment during enemas administered by and in front of others. I do enjoy the company and it adds to the thrill. On the other hand an enema is supposed to be enjoyable. If embarassment takes away from that, then preserve your privacy. Enema fun is all about you.

Applause and kudos to Enema-loving-mature-woman! That was a great story/real-life experience you posted. If I needed a new username/avatar for some reason, I could accurately rename myself as "Enema-Loving-Mature-Man." Im almost 65 and have been getting enemas for over 50 years. I dislike and am very prone to being embarrassed in real life but I suspect if your front door knock incident happened to me I might actually enjoy it (with my Domme partner holding the bag like yours was). I'm a switch and love playing sub.

On the subject of enemas and types of embarrassment, I wrote a recent post on a thread under a different topic, but it's very well-suited to this thread.

Slightly modified, I wrote:

As most people know, my kinks are primarily rubber, sneakers, anal play, enemas and D/s. My partners and I have done a lot of switching over the years and I adore being sub with them. But here's the distinction, at least for me. If I'm in the sub context playing with a woman I know and trust, her humiliating me is terrific. In fact I often encourage her (when I have one - still looking for now) to do "humiliating" things or use it in her instructions and comments to me while she's in control.

If I'm in rubber, she "threatens" me with even more heavier rubber, or how long I'll be sweating in it. If she's doing enemas to me, she talks about how much more I'm going to receive or how long it'll be before I can have expulsion relief. If I'm alone, I'll use the same type of partner in my fantasy while I'm playing with kinky things building up to an orgasm. And in my mind and feelings, thus sort of private humiliation is powerfully erotic and enjoyable as long as I know it's just between us.

On the other hand, humiliation in the real world is something I detest and do my best to avoid. In fact if my partner really wants my attention she can (jokingly) say things like "so do I need to take some video and show it to my friends?" or the like, which in RL would be truly humiliating. So I always beg off with something like "oh, no Ma'am, please don't, I'll do whatever you want, but you can't tell anyone else, PLEASE." So she then will say "okay, but here's what I'm doing to do to you now to make up for keeping your secret so I don't have to tell anyone!" The private humiliation gives me an intense sense of her being a Domme, which I adore. So I do love having a partner watch during enemas and if she wants, during my expulsions, but no one else.

Eric

I remember the first time I had an erection while my mother was giving me an enema and how humiliated and embarrassed I was. It was the very first time this had happened to me, I was eleven years old just past puberty. I was lying across my mothers lap while mother was lubricating my bottom with her vaseline covered finger.

As her finger was inserted and withdrawn I felt myself erecting and trying to stop. I was so embarrassed and worried that my mother would see what was happening. My enema continued and I felt for sure I was going to ejaculate. I knew when it was over and she helped me on to the toilet that she would surely see my erection. I know I was still erect when I released the enema though she never mentioned it to me. Perhaps she had talked to my aunt who was a nurse and she had told her what could happen to a boy of that age, and enema's.

Anyone else have memory's like that?

I am pretty careful about where I store my gear because depending on who may stumble across it I may be embarrassed.

Nurses have seen every part of our body, right? They are trained to do things that most of us could not imagine, agree? So I shouldn't be embarrassed when my home health nurse was about to give me an enema. Not the quickie Fleet kind that a nurse stuck into me in the hospital.

Angie was hanging a large bag filled with soapy water over my bed, the kind of bag nurses use when a patient needs a serious clean-out. I was more anxious than embarrassed. It wasn't so much baring my behind. What if I couldn't hold the enema and had an accident all over the bed? Would she be staying with me in the bathroom while I gushed into the toilet? That would be embarrassing!!

Well, neither happened, although the first of two enemas that Angie gave me that afternoon was uncomfortable, and I didn't feel like getting another one. But she assured me that a plain warm water enema would move more stuff that needed to come out of me and be much easier -- and it was. And we actually chatted during the second enema as I felt my embarrassment go away and realized how nice a feeling I was having.

After reading the replies to Enema's and Embarrassment, I must point out that my own posting had to do with my embarrassment while a young boy of eleven years of age. I was relating how embarrassed I was having an erection while my mother was giving me an enema. I think it is entirely different in that case, then when one is grown up. Just my opinion.

I am pretty careful about where I store my gear because depending on who may stumble across it I may be embarrassed.

Ever hear of a lock?

Locked suitcase, locked drawer, locked closet? ? ? 😁 😁 😁

To me embarrassment definitely adds to the experience. When I'm solo, I enjoy it and it gives me pleasure, but I don't feel embarrassed at all. But if someone is watching or knows I'm doing it, I am definitely embarrassed and it heightens the whole experience. Sometimes after someone watching I literally tingle all over. It is definitely more exciting to me. But I am a humiliation sub so embarrassment definitely adds to my experience. Even if I was sexually aroused earlier, sometimes after an embarrassing experience like a viewed enema, I don't feel I need anything afterwards. But then again, sometimes it makes me want to take care of matters immediately. If told to jerk off after or holding an enema, it just adds to the embarrassment and sometimes I fail, sometimes I succeed. Regardless, it definitely adds new levels to the overall experience.

Ever hear of a lock?

Locked suitcase, locked drawer, locked closet? ? ? 😁 😁 😁

Yes, 😜 my closet has no lock at this time and I will be moving in a few months so at present I have my stuff in a locked piece of luggage but still would not enjoy any kind of conversation about it in general with any family members who may not respect boundaries and stumble across it.

I used to put my enema equipment out of sight because my wife really did not know I was so into enemas on regular basis then after many years I told her after we were doing some anal play on me and the toy came out with some poop on the toy and I said I needed to do enemas first. Well that conversation was difficult but essentially it paved the way for her to know that I was doing enemas regularly much to her surprise. But after the initial shock she accepted it and my embarrassment or fear of being seen as doing something gross subsided.

From that point forward I started keeping my enema gear in the bathroom where I did my enemas. I hung the bag and colon tubes in the tub shower but with the curtain closed- you can not see through the curtain. But she knows the equipment is there and is OK with it.

Embarrassment does not make my enemas more erotic, it just kept me from telling people I like to do them and always will. I consider my enema sessions as "me time" and it's nobody's business unless I choose to tell them.

Well I guess the embarassment adds to the experiences ence although as you get older it wanes as who cares. But it's funny how embarassment can add to the point xperienc for many. I guess we all get different things from the experience and need different things

I've recently started doing them on a regular basis and so far just solo. I like to put on some porn and just relax and do my thing alone. That doesn't embarrass me, but someone finding out would. To me it's just something personal. I'd like to do it with another person but I'm still learning the ropes.

The embarrassment part doesn't do anything for me. The opposite, in fact. But I've always been a pretty private person about a lot of things really personal like that. Maybe I'll be able to try it with another person some day. Til then I'm fairly content going it alone

I think embarrassment, with passing years and reliving mentally lived experience, will turn into excitement.

I think that embarrassment adds to the thrill when I'm being given an enema. That fear that I will expel it on the bed or on the floor as I dash for the bathroom. The sound of the splashing water and farts also augments the discomfort I feel too. The discomfort as she's inserting the large nozzle. The finger which precedes it. It's all exquisite!

There is nothing embarrassing about giving or receiving enemas with others at this point. I had to put any embarrassment aside when I went looking for enemates to share the enema experience. I am back and for on release. Some want me around as they release which is OK but I typically prefer a private release. I'm not embarrassed if they want to be there after all they just had totally naked with an enema flowing in so what's so bad about the rest of it. If you enjoy something...enjoy it and don't be embarrassed about enjoying every bit of it.

Even with long time partners, I find there is a certain amount of embarrassment every time an enema is given. For the women that enjoy being given one, that embarrassment is really very pleasureable for them. Something about them getting an enema creates a whole range of emotions and the embarrassment part is like foreplay it would seem

Being on the unwilling receiving end is embarrassment enough. However, having somebody present during expulsion is a real lesson in humility and humiliation!

It's sort of a quandary. For me the embarrassment is a big part of the thrill. But only in play settings. If I went through my fantasy roles in real life, with people that I know, I don't know if I could take it. But I have to say that I am happy to find that I am not the only person who has similar interests. It makes it easier to embrace my interests.

On embarrassment, one time when I knew a repair guy was coming to the house, I took my big red bag with hose and nozzle attached and hung it outside the shower in plain view. When he arrived, he saw it and turned beet red and smirked, but said nothing about it. That was my secret thrill for the day.

On embarrassment, one time when I knew a repair guy was coming to the house, I took my big red bag with hose and nozzle attached and hung it outside the shower in plain view. When he arrived, he saw it and turned beet red and smirked, but said nothing about it. That was my secret thrill for the day.

That's nasty wicked!

I must admit that the one time I experienced an enema as an unexpected birthday present, I did wonder if that young woman left her bag and nozzle visible in her bathroom just to see what kind of reaction she'd get from me. I did react and told her that I liked her decoration in the shower. She acted embarrassed, said that she had forgotten about it. But that also set the stage for my birthday present.

For better or worse, Golden Age moms often did not equate an enema with causing embarrassment to the patient, including their children. To many it was a valuable aid to treat illness and constipation and how the patient reacted emotionally to the enema was secondary.. I speak from experience!

I do think that the embarrassment a eleven or twelve year old boy would experience while being given an enema by his mother or aunt, cannot compare to enema's received at an older age. During youth a boy of that age is easily embarrassed by exposure of any body parts. I know I always was.

I would like some comments on this point. Sometimes, when an enema session is getting started, the woman is put into position and the lubing with a finger begins the session. Other times, there is foreplay first such as a detailed exam and DRE, then perhaps some genital stimulation and then the enema begins. How do you like to have the session get going? Is the enema the focus of play? or is it something that evolves after other play comes first. Does the enema begin after you are aroused or does the enema itself provide the arousal?

Isn't Embarrassment the reason for the enema?