Rectal exam technique

I want to give my girlfriend who is new to medfet a rectal exam.

Does any one of techniques for how to make it most comfortable/most pleasurable for her? I've looked at a few things but would love advice.

Lubrucation can make it easier and more comfortable, and rubbing all around the walls, whilst moving in and out is very stimulating...

Love to hear others' views, and how it goes for you.

If comfort and pleasure are the only criteria, then what aussie38 said is probably the most important thing. Use an adequate amount of lubrication and take it nice and slow. An extended session of very gentle penetration by your finger would probably be better than a quick in-and-out.

But in my mind, a big part of medfet is also the embarrassment factor and the idea that someone else is in control and telling you what to do. That being said, in addition to comfort and pleasure, does she also crave a bit of embarrassment? Does she enjoy the idea of submitting to your instructions without question? If that's true, then you should also think about the position you use and whether or not she's covered in any way (drape or gown) or completely nude. My personal preference is to be on my elbows and knees on the exam table with my ass up in the air, ready to be penetrated. But that's just me. 😃

My technique is determined by the focus of the activity. Is it a clinical med fet scenario or is it part of foreplay and a purely erotic situation? In either case, adequate lubrication is a must if she is to enjoy the experience. I definitely prefer a water based lubricant as opposed to Vaseline. Vaseline is great for enemas and rectal temps but not for prolonged anal/rectal fingering.

If the scenario is a medical one, I suggest that she be donning a gown and that you use examination gloves. The conversation should be reassuring and comforting as you proceed with the examination. Explain the process as you go along.

If the goal is purely sexual, erotic ass play, then the technique is totally different. Forget the gown and the gloves! In this scenario I spend as much time providing external stimulation as I do internally. Before allowing my finger to penetrate her bottom I slowly and gently stimulate her rosebud using a circular motion for a prolonged period of time. This is less threatening and more relaxing, especially if it is her first time. Additionally, it adds to the anticipation of penetration. When you do penetrate her, do it slowly and once your finger is totally inside, keep it still to allow her to adjust to the feeling. Next, I would begin to turn your wrist so that the finger is gently massaging her rectal walls. It is only then that I start any in and out motion.

One last suggestion that applies to either scenario...... be alert to her verbal and non-verbal feedback and adjust your activity to it. Best of luck and hope you both enjoy the experience.

Dude31 the first consideration would be positioning , depending on her comfort level you can use the lithotomy position, lateral decubitus, or Sim's position or the knee–chest proctologic position.

The lithotomy position, the patient is supine with the legs drawn in toward the trunk and the knees allowed to fall out to the side. The lateral decubitus, or Sim's position, the patient lies on the left side with the buttocks near the edge of the examining table or bedside with the right knee and hip in slight flexion. The knee-chest position the patient rests on the knees and chest with head is turned to one side, arms extended on the bed, and elbows flexed and resting so that they partially bear the patient's weight; the abdomen remains unsupported, though a small pillow may be placed under the chest.

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Dude31 the most important factor is to be gentle, take your time and not rush in your excitement, stop immediately if she experiencing any pain or discomfort. Its always a good idea to have her empty her bowels beforehand.

As for the procedure itself:

1. Place a non latex glove on ( remember latex allergies can be life threatening).

2. Put a lot of lubricant on the index finger of your right hand.

3. Tell her that you are going to place your finger in their rectum. It's a good idea to talk her through each step as effective communication will prevent it from being painful and you want her to enjoy this.

4. Place your well lubricated index finger against her anus, but do not yet insert it into the rectum.

5. Ask her to bear down as if they are trying to have a bowel movement. This helps to relax their external sphincter and should decrease discomfort. As she bears down, gently push forward until you have placed the entire finger within the anal canal.

6. As your finger enters you may run into some stool, which should easily move out of the way. If this occurs, do not force your finger forward you should not meet any resistance. The only instance would be a mass in her rectum.

7. By gently rotating your hand, you can use the pad of your index finger to feel to the left, right and then directly backwards (i.e. towards yourself) and along the sacrum.

8. You can ask her to squeeze her rectum around your finger. This is performed to assess how well the muscles in your rectum and bowels.

9. That would conclude a female rectal exam. How it proceeds after is according to the both of you. As I have said before, take your time, make it pleasurable rather than painful if you would like to repeat it.

Please be aware that there may be a small amount of bleeding from her rectum, particularly if she has haemorrhoids.

Hope this helps.

Thanks everyone for your help! I really appreciate it!