Father at Physicals

"JT Mac"

I agree with you that a finger in the butts was certainly too much to punish a lyer boy, a rectal temperature and a long time nudity would have been enough...

But the boy was already aged 16. He was no more a small kid..

it was a good lesson for a teenager.

And even if a check of the rectum was not required at the examination of a teen boy, some doctors did it in the past, so it was not completely unnecessary nor unethical.

You talked of the money but if the father knew well the doctor ( if it was not, it was not possible to presume that it was a punishment agreed by the father, it was only decided by the doctor in that case!), may be they had discussed of that before, and anyway, the boy had a check of his health on all points which deserved to be paid, the doctor had performed a thorough examination.

Gaysteven"

I think that leaving a boy go alone to see a doctor is right when he reached puberty , may be later than you, possible rather at 14 age in my opinion, except in case of real health issues because in that case, the parents are anxious about the posible serious sickness of their sons and want to know quickly and obviously they prefer to hear the doctor himself give the result of his examination. It is normal

Anyway you were lucky to have parents who leaved you alone going to the doctor after 12 age. Small aged, it was really not an issue normally.

"Fontana"

you don't seem to be shocked or embarrassed by the presence of your mother or father in the examination room during your physicals even at high school or first year of college but I presume that after your entrance at high schoool and after 16 ages, it was your father who was present not your mother, especially for the first year of college.

If the presence of a mother was necessary because the father was unvailable to come, I think that she might have been discreet , more than her husband, at the physical of a son more aged than 14, may be she might have turned his head towards the wall when the private exams were performed and not watched it closely as a father could do.

If I were a doctor, I would have tried to give a little privacy to a boy examined in presence of his mother at high school age or older, by using a screen or asking here to leave the room for a while and on the reverse I would have left a father look of the examination, even that of genitals, even with a possible erection, even a rectal examination if it was the father.

A son can be viewed by his father even if he is embarrassed.

I've come to the aid of fathers before saying it's fine but that is so long as the child is happy.

It's not even OK for mom if child wants to go alone whether same sex parent or not you have to respect their wishes.

If original poster prefers mom then that is how should be.

Dad was busy earning a living so Mom was the one taking the kids to doctor appointments. I think she quite, for physicals, when I was able to drive myself.

Growing up, it was mom who always took me to the doctor. As a tike she undressed me. When I was older she held me clothes. I never felt uncomfortable about it.

I've had my dad take me to my doctor when I was sick. My mom took me for my physicals though.

Yes so it was usually mum who took me for medicals etc. But because the school doctor said my foreskin need my GP to have a look. Mum decided dad was best off talking me

My mom took me to most school exams, but didn’t come in the room that I recall... but once I was being examined for my posture and spine, I had to be nude (I think I was 13 or 14) and pictures taken of me facing forward, to each side and from behind... no problems, but I guess they were looking for scoliosis or something. Anyhow my dad took me for that... I remember I started to feel I was getting an erection when I was facing away and when I turned around my dad snickered a little. I didn’t have the guts to look down to see how hard one semi I was... the doc, in his 30s, didn’t say anything.

I'm so happy I never had to have my father in examination room so I avoided embarrassed.

My dad was never present when I had my full on physicals at school.

The closest I had to him being present at a physical was when I went to the doctors after being ill one time when I was about 5 or 6, which my dad had taken me to, and the doctor decided to do a more general exam and asked me to take my shirt off and strip down to my briefs. I didn't feel embarassed to be there only wearing my tighty whities as my dad always took me swimming and obviously I had to strip whilst getting changed at the pool and then be wearing trunks after, so no different really.

The exam itself wasn't as detailed as the ones I had at school, they weighed me and measured my height, put a torch into my eyes, ears and mouth, did reflex tests, and then listened to my chests, lungs and belly - and then asked if I wanted to listen to myself also, something I really enjoyed and still look back on now in hindsight as one of the first stages that made me realise that a stethoscope was something special and starting my fascination.. They didn't do a gentital exam this time, something I never got at my doctors as a kid.

At my pediatrician's you had to have someone over 21 years old in the exam room with you, so either my Mom or Dad came with me throughout my high school years. When I became a teenager it was my Dad for the most part, unless he couldn't get out of work. I always had to start the exam with just my underwear on. My pediatrician only used the rectal thermometer to check temperature. After getting my temperature taken the nurse would tell me to remove my undershirt. The doctor would come in and give me a thorough exam. Eventually I had to take off my underpants as well. After puberty this was somewhat embarrassing, especially the times the Mom came with me. I guess for me it was a part of growing up. Somehow I got through it and it never had any psychological effect on me.

Has anyone, as an adult, had a parent stay with you during a physical exam?

That's a decision I have to make soon.

If I were you @MichaelAnthonyMA my decision would be a YES, hands down. I've never had that chance when I was a Teen because my Father divorced my Mom and left our Home. But lived with us until I turned 12. Those days He knew I felt embarrassed by being seen naked, specially when I started growing pubes, but he would sometimes enter in the Bathroom when I was showering to grab something and go out, most of the times I'd quickly put both hands cupping my balls and he would say "Cmon, don't be silly!", and then went out. I guess having him in the Examination Room with me would have add even more embarrassment but I had probably enjoyed that situation later. Besides, if you and your old man are already accustomed to see each other naked, I don't think having him at your Dr's Visit would be something that different. If you finally decide allowing him in, please let us know how the whole experience goes.

Has anyone, as an adult, had their father stay with them during a physical exam?

That's a decision that I have to make soon.

My father had a very serious heart attack followed by a stroke. He was in a wheelchair for a decade after that. I had to take him to the Doctor and stay in the room many times after that. So that scenario was definitely on the other foot. I never had my old man come to a doctors appointment with me, he was too busy running a business. That was strictly moms domain as she was a registered nurse. She was in with me when I was really young and needed shots, otherwise we didn't have money for things like exams for no good reason with 10 kids. Physicals if you weren't sick? No way Jose. I did have a few for Boy Scouts and sports physicals, parents were nowhere around for them and there wasn't much to them. I think they just checked to make sure you didn't have something like a heart murmur. Don't want you dropping over on the track. It was considered extremely bad form.

Has anyone, as an adult, had their father stay with them during a physical exam?

That's a decision that I have to make soon.

Would your father be with you for medical reasons, to participate in the discussion with the doctor about the treatment of a disease, or just because it excites you?

Would your father be with you for medical reasons, to participate in the discussion with the doctor about the treatment of a disease, or just because it excites you?

I am used to having my mother come with me when I go to my pediatrician. I thought it would be nice to have my dad take me to his doctor. I don't have a disease, just for a regular physical exam.

I am used to having my mother come with me when I go to my pediatrician. I thought it would be nice to have my dad take me to his doctor. I don't have a disease, just for a regular physical exam.

If you have a good relationship with your father and he understands why you want him to be with you and he accepts, why not? I do not think we can give a general answer that is valid for everyone.

My dad never went with me to an exam. Since my mother was an RN that was her area of expertise and she knew the doctors personally. I'm trying to recall how old I was the last time but I was never embarrassed with her being there. With seven sons and being a nurse she had pretty much seen it all before.

My dad sat in on a lot of mine and was along for several of my sports physicals at school, too. He also saw quite a few of my wrestling weigh-ins which were nude (1980s). When I first had started puberty, I was kind of embarrassed to have him there, but everything happened so suddenly and matter-of-factly that I just didn't dwell on it. Afterward, I was sort of proud that he had seen me like that.

My dad came in with me for my yearly physicals as a kid until I was about 15or 16. I kind of liked having my dad seeing me in my underwear and eventually naked. It was kind of a bonding experience

"Boxers 50" : for me it did not happen often that my dad came with me to a doctor either as as child or as a teenager, but sometimes he saw me naked when I was washing myself in the kitchen ( we had not a bathing room until I had 18 age) or for my first shower at 18 age in the new bathing room that he had installed in a small workshop at the bottom of a small garden because there was a need to regulate the temperature of the water and he wanted to check it with me

And I remember well of a physical examination for a summer camp at the age of 14 or 15 which was set up by the Railway station in a nurse office ( he was an employed person of the railway society ) , it was a kind of group exam because a large group of about 12 or 15 boys was summoned with a parent at the same hour and we were instructed by a very strict permanent nurse to undress in just briefs alll together as sooon as we arrived and we stand in line againt the wall while our parents, mostly fathers but also a few mothers were sitting on a bench in front of the opposite wall.

Inside the examination room, the nurse instructed to me to remove my brief immediately and so I stayed stark naked for all the examination in front of the woman doctor and the permanent nurse and under the sight of my father.

I was shy towards nudity, so I was embarrassed but a little excited too when I had to walk in the nude in the room to check my spine and gait for instance. As you said, it was kind of a bonding experience, not so bad in deed.

Anyway, at that age, even if it was also embarrassing, I preferred that my father was present than my mother.

I knew by his relations that he was also naked at his mandatory job examinations and when he was a young man at his physical examinations for the mandatory military service and during his time of active duty.

As I became older and closer in age to the time of being summoned for mandatory physical examinations for the mandatory military service, he was teasing at me often about my shyness towards nudity because I would have soon to be naked with a large group of other draftees and in front of a lot of persons at the draft board commision.

So he told me often as he told to Gonzalo " don't be silly" if I complained about his presence when I was washing myself in the kitchen and he stayed in the room to read a newspaper, especially if he saw me putting both hands cupping my balls. I remember that he told me "you will be soon bare arse in front of all the members of the draft board commission for military service and for a long time with a lot of other male teenagers all stark naked".

"Jake nexw york" I presume that when you had sports physicals with your father present, thre was other students undressed also and other fathers who could see you? It was a group exam as for the nude weigh-ins of the team for wrestling.

I agree totally with what you said, if it happened so quickly and matter -of factly, so you were right not to dwell on it. important

How old were you when he sat in? How much did you have to undress? Did he ever see the doctor examine your genitals, or were you turned away?

Yes a few times he was. I was always examined naked From the start to finish. I don't know if he looked away during genital exams though!

I had to have a parent in the room with me all throughout high school. Most of the time my Dad was with me, but if he was unavailable, my Mom came.

Yes, my dad accompanied me to several of my physicals when I was a kid; up to about age 15 I think. I would be stripped down to my underwear from the start and then they would come down for the genital exam. Yes my dad had full view of me laying on the table with a full erection as the doctor examined my genitals

I had to have a parent in the room with me all throughout high school. Most of the time my Dad was with me, but if he was unavailable, my Mom came.

When your dad was with you, did he watch the doctor examine your genitals, or were you turned away from him?

Never had my dad at any of my physicals. My mom took me until I was old enough to drive myself.

It was always my mom, never my dad. She has seen my genitals during most of the exams.

I don't remember my dad ever being in the room. I had my mom mostly. When I was 12 my aunt took me and my 8yo (or so) female cousin were in the room woth me.