How Can I Get Incontinent - Losing Control

Another one here about get what you wish for. At time I wish I didn't need my diapers. One was when I was explaining it to my future wife. Luckly she understooe but doesn't really partisapate like I had hoped for. She really gets upset if she gets wet at night when I leak. People are more understanding at work than when I first started. Yes I have helped some parents with info about product for their own kids who were bedwetters and even helped by talking to a few of the kids about my up bringing and needs. But at the same time, if I could go without them at time I would. I have used alot of diffrent perscribed drugs to help with control. Most make me sick and the side effect I do not like. Try being with a friend whom has a child with them and go some place with them. More than likely you will end up telling the child why you have to keep a diaper bag with you and why you hqave to wear diapers. I have had many people think I am a sicko if I ask about trying to get a few diapers made in my size from some of the diaper sewers out there. Try asking for a pattern in an adult size from one of them. Luckly more handicapped kids' parents are going back to using cloth and alot of the diaper sewers are more open about it all. Most now are more willing to help you with your needs, but you still get some that think you are a pervert or something. And then let's talk about the medical staff. My flex plan I have at work will pay for my diapers, even cloth ones if I choose to wear them to save money. But only if I have my doctor write me a Rx for them. I go to an Indian Health Clinic and do not get to see the same doctor twice most of the time. One doctor may be understanding and tell me he/she will write me the report, while the next one will say let's run some more tests and try to find out why you are leaking at night. I have had this problem for about30 yrs and have had the same results every time I have had those tests. The docs say it is some thing I have to just life with. It's my body nothing really wrong, they don't know why I do it. Weak bladder muscles, nerves, stress, ect. Try explaining that one to a insurance person. They look at you like you are a freak or something. With all the orther opitions on the market, why do you want to use a diaper? Wear a cath, a leg bag, self cath, put all kinds of drugs in your body." NO WAY. it is not fun. diapers are how I chose to deal with my own leaking. Yes I have learned to love wearing them. Yes they are a part of my sexual side as well as my need side. But at the same time I am truelly grateful I can feel the need to go at times and do so. But If I know I will be away from a bathroom for a while, yes a good diaper is a great comfort for me.

If you want to know what it is like to need diapers then just waer them and use them. But remember, it is not fun to depend on them all the time.

True inco is something that your brain or muscles do not work ever!!!!!

You never know when or where your bladder or bowels let loose. This is true inco. Your giving people some ho[pe of something that can never come true for them by saying what you said. Lucky for them it dont. you may be a bed wetter and that is like inco but even that is not true inco. Your body just doesn't wake up in time to go to the washroom is all. Try getting diabetes or heart problems or some type of nerve damage and then you will know what true inco is. otherwise you people are living a dream and it will not ever come true for you. sorry to say it but if your healthy then you have continence and that is a good thing in life. if your sick then well maybe your wish one day will come true and then you will realize your dream is now a nightmare that never stops for you.

Sorry if sound mad i am not. however i see people all the time say this n that and do this n that and you will become inco. Nothing could be further form the truth for you or them. so be responsible when speaking to public about something you really dont have a idea of what your talking about.

Just pee or poop your diapers with control and pretend your inco. its the best and most healthy way there is

Ive atually tried doing this - doesnt work. a lotta people said it, you cant physically lose control but you can likely condition yourself to let go without any thought.

I started wetting the bed and myself, on purpose. i played a number of head games with myself like letting go when i counted down from 10 to 1, self talk about it being okay to wet. eventually, the solution was night time diapers.

Drank plenty of water and moved my daily water pill to bedtime so i would wet when i was prepared to take it, early on, i would wake when i had to pee and have to tell myself it was okay to release.

now i have many daytime accidents because my bladder dumps very quickly, often before i can make it. this has meant several heavy wet spots in public and wet beds several times a weak despite wearing the heaviest disposables or overnight cottons and, plastic panties.

Go to bed in nappies and wet them first on purpose, I became a bedwetter again after about 4 weeks.

You probably wont actually realistically want to do this. I wet the bed and its terrible. I wish so badly that I didn't even though I don't mind diapers. It limits your life.

I can help you to become incontinent. The easiest way is just to wear diapers all the time and j pee whenever you have to go. Try not to even think about it or force it, just let it go. After a few weeks, you will begin to wet without consiously thinking about it. At a certain point, even if you don't have diapers on and you have to pee, you may not make it to the restroom in time and will just wet your pants. Essentially you are just unlearning toilet training, and it is as much a physical process as mental.

I happen to love catheter play, and have made myself virtually incontinent by wearing one as often as possible. I absolutely love the feeling of inserting and removing the catheter, I cannot even describe how pleasurable it is. I started by wearing a size 16Fr which is a very common size and have worked my way up to size 30Fr, which is almost unheard of, it is huge! In addition to wearing it with a collection bag sometime for weeks at a time, I masturbate my urethra with it, sometimes quite vigorously, on a daily basis. The combination has weakened my urethral sphincters considerably, plus my bladder capacity has diminished because it isn't used to being full. I love to wet my bed, so when I don't wear the catheter, I will wet in my sleep which is another huge turn on to me. If possible I won't wear a diaper, because I just love sleeping in a soaking bed, otherwise I will wear a diaper to keep things a little simpler! Now if I have to go to the bathroom, I will almost always wet my pants (or diaper) because I simply can't make it to the bathroom in time. Even if I'm in the bathroom, I can't even get my panties off in time and always soak them! I just love this. If you quit using the catheter and omit the daily masturbation with it, you will eventually regain your control, but it took me about 6 weeks to re-toilet train myself. Anyway I feel that I can experience the best of both worlds (with some planning)

For me it’s a conditioned response. I have listened to diaper incontinent hypnosis and this has probably helped with the conditioning in the past. I sometimes use my “keyword” and this always results in a good soaking that I seem to have little control over.

I once made my own recording of self hypnosis, but never “go under”, only just legitimizes the process, and says it’s OK and expected to use the diapers whenever. Love that feeling.

Still goes back to that old fossil saying; be careful what you ask for, you may end up getting what you ask for.

There was a Dr. in California that for a price was doing something to render people incontinent. Much to my surprise he had a lot of people who paid his exorbitant fee and had the procedure done right in his office. I can tell you it was not sanctioned by any reputable Medical Body, but

people did it anyways. All well and good a lot of the folks went about having their fantasy being lived out by being in diapers full time. Soon a lot of the people who had it done decided it was not what they expected and decided to have the procedure reversed. Guess what in a lot of the cases it could not be reversed, and this so called Dr. was nowhere to be found.

Never, never, do anything to permanently harm yourself or anyone else. I am quite sure all of us can figure out how to wet our diapers without hurting one's self.

Radian thank-you for your good sense, a lot of us do not realize our own good fortunes.

Once you've done it, you can't unring it. If you like the occasional feeling of a wet diaper, then just drink lots. But you really, really don't want to do it all of the time.

I too had heart surgery (five by-passes). After the gastric tubes were removed the next was my catheter.

Two days later I was given Lasik (Furosemide) to flush my system out and get my urine flowing. I asked my daughter who is a pharmacist about the pills and she informed me it was one of the most powerful diuretics available and this was standard procedure.

The only problem was they gave it to me at eight pm. After wetting the bed twice the night nurse asked me if I might be more comfortable in a brief. At the time I didn’t know what she was talking about. She finally told me it was a diaper.

I was a little shocked but as tired as I was I agreed. She changed the bed again and diapered me which allowed me to sleep the rest of the night. As it turned she was the best nurse I had and did everything in her power to make sure I was comfortable.

Tj, I have the same experience. As soon as I put my diapers and plastic bloomer nightwear on, my bladder empties and I most always have a BM right then and there. A large glass or two of water just helps to repeat the process during the night. Just one of those things, and I don’t seem to be able to stop it. I love it!

YES it is possible to become incon. I did it. It took me almost 8 months. But I did it. Just go when you feel the slightest urge. Don't push, and when your done peeing try to relax your blatter for as long as possible. Never adjust your position to pee. If you leak then, oops. Never cheat. Always have a diaper on. And most important tell yourself you need diapers and that you have no control. Don't ever think " omg I just peed while in line paying for diapers". How do you know you peed? You don't have control. The mind is very powerful, you just need to learn what to do to make it do what you want. Now for poop, I haven't a clue. I use the toliet for that.

Well 24-7 your very wrong thinking your incontinent!!! you are not inco. all you did was learn to realease your bladder without thinking very much, this is not incontinence. You need to learn the true meaning of incontinence before you say you are. Is it easy for you to wet your diapers sure it is , but in the back of your brain your still telling your bladder to realease it and it does. When your inco there is no signal that your brain and bladder or bowels work with. It goes when the bladder says not when your brain says. So there for your not inco dont think you are your not even close. But you are unpotty trained if that helps.

"Unpotty trained." That's a great description. You're unlearning what you learned many years ago. If I drink enough water or iced tea, then just relax when the urge to pee hits, I'm rewarded with a wet diaper. If you're interested in pooping, you might want a suppository to help you. When the urge hits, take a deep breath, let it out and relax everything as much as you can. Takes practice, but you'll probably succeed without needing hypnosis, surgery, etc.

I became urinary incontinent following surgery for prostate cancer. It was a blast that I thoroughly enjoyed and made the most of. Until that time, I'd sustained a diaper fetish since early childhood, but finding a way to satisfactory wear diapers in public had been elusive. Finally, I was forced to make a determined effort and discovered the means. Incontinence was pretty much total for the first and even second year. Following that, control began to return, but I still required diapers for another year or so, followed by protective briefs. Ten years later, I still require pads (disposable brief inserts) for erratic leaking.

Presently, diaper-wearing is an option that I pursue mainly at home at least fifty percent of the time and nearly always at night for the convenience of sleeping in total comfort.

Even when incontinent without control of any kind, I was pretty much always aware of peeing in my diaper. I could sense the flow, but the nerve that controlled the bladder sphincter had been damaged in surgery and took years to sufficiently heal (99% to date). The other telltale feeling was the sudden increased warmth at my crotch area. I absolutely enjoyed my new "freedom."

I also became incontinent due to prostate cancer. It was not much fun in the beginning but I learned to like it.

I did gain more control over the years, but I still wear protective pads most of the time.

It is better to be continent and wear diapers for fun than have to wear them.

Well I have become incontinent of urine over the last 8 months, increasingly so, that I finally realized I would not be able to conceal it anymore and finally told the nurse at work so she could speak to my boss. Wish I knew what was causing it. Hope it isn't serious.

If you keep forcing yourself to pee in your diaper your bladder will eventually lose it's force and you'll start being incontinent

Although most, if not all, of the folks here are diaper wearers, my SO got me into wearing sheath urinals as a chastity and ejaculation training/control device. (In fact I am wearing an old Davol unit right now.) My experience has been similar to some of you. If I have been made to wear one to bed for a few nights, I get conditioned to using it and I have a bed wetting accident the first night without it (I have learned not to drink a lot of liquids the day/night that I am without it and to sleep with a pad under me. Everyone to their own. We prefer the urinals due to the control that it gives "my nurse" and for me the feeling of rubber on my penis. She also likes the look when I have an erection fighting to push out of the sheath.

What has worked for me on an occasional basis is to use ambien. One pill and a few glasses of water before bed will pretty much guarantee to wake up wet.

My daddy basically kept me in diapers at all timesm which helps , prolonged wear is always good. then he constantly stretched my bottom hole to make it harder to close and hold things in. every night for a long time id have a buttplug in and gradually sizes increased tll it got to be really big!. also constant suppository usage along with metamucil and laxatives in the bottles helps regulate alot!!

Not using the toilet and always wetting your nappy as soon as you feel the slightest need will diminish your bladder control. Just make sure it is what you realy want as once lost it might be permanent.

Everyone is different. I've trained a handful of people.... depends on their age and how strong their desire is to become incontinent.

I've been in diapers for a long time. Peeing was pretty easy but letting my bowel go is tough the one time I got constipated

There isn't a urinary equivalent of a stimulant laxative.

You don't want permanent incontinence through untraining. I have it, and it's been an incredibly rocky road getting here and adjusting my views to the situation I'm in - and I started out with fairly extreme ideas about what I was willing to accept.

That said, if you decide to ignore this and go anyway, there are a bunch of places that will be willing to help you out.

You really, really don't wanna. I've been incontinent since the age of twelve due to a sports injury and, trust me, it's the most embarrassing thing having to explain to your new girl/boyfriend that you have to wear diapers.

Changing in public restrooms, never being able to stay over at people's houses, anxiety about intimacy are all things that come with this. My dorm mate my freshman year of college always looked at me as though I was filthy when I would come out of the restroom after changing my diaper. It comes with judgement, humiliation, and disgust.

Being incontinent is NOT a dream. It's not just like being a baby. It's being a full blown adult and still wetting the bed and yourself.

Please don't do this to yourself

A most interesting thread of comments and opinions with no activity for some time now. It amuses me the followers who are so locked-in as to the definition of urinary (no opinion on fecal) incontinence. What does it matter? To me incontinence is urinary voiding event when you SIMPLY ARE NOT ABLE TO STOP WETTING YOURSELF. To achieve this true incontinence, being unable to stop a wetting episode, as many have written, you just drink a lot of liquid. Start easy. Drink 6-ounces every 20-minutes of Gatorade, tap or mineral water, flavored with fresh lemon water, Ensure, any healthy liquid. Keep at it. In several hours (for drama go outside to a shopping center or mall taking with you your liquids) the time will come when you will NOT BE ABLE TO STOP, no matter how much you try to 'hold it back', when a voiding event simply overwhelms you. Here is another definition. You have urinary incontinence when you simply cannot safely go out of your home for 2-hours or more without experiencing a hopeless voiding event you cannot stop. So what if the voiding event is not caused by physical (from accidents or what ever real physiological reason) factors. Just one more thought for the topic.

I certainly wouldn't advise anyone to deliberately become incontinent. But if you do become so then the best way forward is accept and embrace it. I became incontinent over five years ago due to my diabetes but have become very much DL as a result and have no regrets.

I have had bouts with incontinence the urologist put me on tamsulosin which relax the bladder muscle and I wet myself a lot which is a pain most of the time.