Being told "not to touch yourself down there"

I don't recall being told not to touch myself "down there".

My mom did tell me however that anytime I might need to touch, to make sure my hands were clean, for example when wiping after using the bathroom etc.

I'm pretty sure that mom knew sooner or later I'd discover the pleasurable feelings associated with touching myself. She did not encourage it, however when we talked about sex and sexuality, she did tell me that masturbation was perfectly normal. This attitude was in direct opposition to what the nuns in our school told us... To them it was sinful, and had to be confessed.

I chose to believe my mom.

They caught me rubbing down there(trying to relieve pain)and fussed at me for it. They said it was dirty and should never be touched except to wipe after peeing. I bought into it and now, when I have to catheterize myself, I feel disgusting and dirty.

I honestly don't remember being told not to touch myself. My mom was far from being a prude, she just never got around to talking about such things. I remember three times in my life we talked about sex, and each time I shocked the hell out of her. The first time I admitted I was having sex with girls. The second she caught me having anal sex with a guy, and gave me the 'poop your pants for the rest of your life' speech. The third I was an adult, and getting married to a woman (blessing only, it wasn't legal) she asked if I ever wanted to have children, and a bit of a sex talk came up.

I was reminded not to touch myself by my parents all the time. They told me it was naughty and dirty and that it was going to fall off if I keep touching myself. Got diciplined all the time when I got caught.

Stopped touching myself, and turned to playing doctor, Who knew that was going to be an even bigger no no. Lol!

I don't recall being explicitly told not to and if I had been I wouldn't have listened lol. I certainly have not told my own not to either, why would you ban touching the ones own anatomy? There is a time and place naturally.

My dad said it was OK to touch myself down there at home or in private but to never ever let anyone see me doing it or else they will say bad things about me or even worse. He said if I feel an urge to do it in public to find a quiet restroom with a clean stall.

I was never told not to touch, but only when private. Told my own, boys & girls only in private or shower. The boys I couldn't get out of the shower! I also told them they were the only one that could touch them, of course preteen time we had the "talk" and I passed out condoms like candy! Wrap it up boys and girls!!

I was caught more than once. It earned me a pretty severe spanking and being told I was dirty. Not pleasant.

I was caught more than once. It earned me a pretty severe spanking and being told I was dirty. Not pleasant.

Wow I am sorry to hear that.

I could not begin to imagine reacting like that.

Likely to be hypocritical seeing as pretty much everyone does it.

Hope you were not deterred.

No it just made me more circumspect

This is one that has always bothered me.

I was given frequent, unnecessary enemas as a child. Not that I objected, I would do whatever I could to get them.

But if I got an erection I was told that was dirty or nasty. When I got older I was told if I was caught playing with my penis my mother would take a match to it and burn it.

I was told my penis was not to be played with, so at first had terrible guilt about it. What got me over it was a male friend who demonstrated how good it was by masturbating with me watching until he came. When I tried without success he took over and I had my first orgasm.

The same fellow taught a bunch of us to masturbate. I know what you might think, but he is happily married with a couple of kids.

My next encounter was with another male, and we tried anal intercourse... he got too much pain, but i loved when he pegged me.

So more assumptions, but maybe not what you expect. I like girls, and as soon as I had one I could play with, I chose to play with her, and so did my friend.

And now, 60 plus years later, I still prefer women, but have had a couple of enjoyable threesomes along the way.

But if I got an erection I was told that was dirty or nasty. When I got older I was told if I was caught playing with my penis my mother would take a match to it and burn it.

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Good grief. I suppose we've all heard of threatening with castration, but threatening to take a match and burning your penis is really over the top ...

I can’t remember how old I was when I first discovered that ‘touching myself down there’ was really pleasurable and comforting but I was probably only about five or six - and I was addicted! It was my favourite way of falling asleep at night but to to my parents embarrassment I would ‘comfort’ myself frequently and couldn’t understand why I was always told to stop!

I grew up in the 60's and 70's. My stepmother (who raised us as our mom died when I was 4) was a nurse and very open about a lot of things. She never told me not to touch myself, in fact I don't remember the subject ever coming up.

She was open about sex and contraception. I was encouraged to tell her if I was having sex and she'd get me on the pill. Even though my parents believed in not having sex until marriage, we were never forbidden. They acknowledged that times were changing and it was becoming acceptable. They just wanted us to be protected against getting pregnant/causing a pregnancy.

Not so much from my parents, who kept me in the dark about sexual matters for as long as possible, but from my maternal grandfather who, out of the blue one afternoon while visiting, lectured me about "jerking off" while my mother was in the kitchen pretending not to hear what her father was saying. I was mortified to say the least. I was just thirteen at the time.

I do recall reading about masturbation in some child rearing book that stated if a parent catches a girl child masturbating it meant that the child was in need of professional care and that the parents should seek professional help for her.

I do recall reading about masturbation in some child rearing book that stated if a parent catches a girl child masturbating it meant that the child was in need of professional care and that the parents should seek professional help for her.

I am going to be a deliberate wise-ass here and ask exactly what kind of professional care.

I could take it as it was taken in previous centuries in many European countries, namely that it was time for a boy/adolescent to pay a visit to a lady who plied the trade of what we now call a sex worker. That was the custom in some circles, usually the more affluent circles of society. Not really such a bad idea all things considered.

I know that my father hinted at such things when I was a teenager. He was in the Merchant Marine and hence not unused to the ways of sailors and waterfront bars. And there was a fairly large and decent (legal) red light district in our city. He joked and hinted but never said anything outright. In retrospect I wish he had been more outright and maybe slipped me a few franks to pay for an initiation ...

But I suppose the book you mention didn't mean it in that way at all ... ha ha ...

Not in the least 😃

Female masturbation in the 50s and early 60s here in the U S was considered aberrant behavior, implying there must be something physiologically wrong with the girl. In those days homosexual activity was also considered deviant in addition to being illegal. A moral young lady simply did not engage in such base behavior.

I was caught playing with myself often and was scolded for it. It never stopped me ?

I got caught playing with myself all the time. It’s apparently been a lifelong hobby lol! I remember usually getting yelled in the moment when caught but only once or twice can I ever remember it being brought up later not to do it.

Back in the middle 1960's there was a lot of that around. 9th grade (Catholic) high school there were occasional admonitions from the "high command" to abstain from "self abuse"/masturbation with warnings of damnation in Hell for those who did it. The Principal was a priest with a tendency to over--imbide with Scotch whiskey..they did not talk about that....

I remember as a toddler I had the tendency to touch my little penis most of the time.

I was rebuked and also told that I'll fall ill if I keep touching it.

Once my mother caught me playing with my little penis in the afternoon when I was alone in the room, and spanked me. I was around 3 years.

Nope, they did not. Mom made the mistake of entering my bedroom once and only once without knocking. Ever after, she knocked and waited a moment before coming in.

We had a family stethoscope and my brother caught me playing with it, rubbing the disk all over my body. He didn’t say anything and left me to explore 😉

I have never been told not to touch myself and I grew up in the 60s/70s.

I was never told that, and was left alone… but last year when moved to my parents place, I was back in my room and.. btw. watch a lot of porn in general.. but last year, exactly around this day, I accidentally fell asleep with my laptop with some BDSM porn on , volume high , and I was half naked near the open window.. and my father came in much later to see if I;m ok HAHHAHAH

everything was cool, we;re like that, chill

my mother knew when I had some “girls anatomy” problem which would appear from sex, but I as single at the time, so she knew did it and was also cool and supportive

@bbw4doc: I grew up in 70s/80s and my mother, even though she never prohibited it, was obviously disapproving. Not that she was religious, but she obviously considered improper.

I have never been told not to touch myself.

Yes. It was very taboo.

They caught me putting stuff in the “hole that makes me pee.

In prechool, my friends and I were playing under the slide. There were about five of us. One of the boys asked if we wanted to see something cool. So. Why not? He pulled his shorts down some and showed us his catheter. He just had surgery to reconstruct his urethra and had to wear a catheter. He said it made him pee.

When I got home, I tried looking for the place I peed from. My mom came in and shamed me and then spanked me for touching myself there.,

I always got spanked and put in time out…when I touched my bits…I was shamed and made felt awful and told i was dirty…parents don't get it that at a young age it's total curiosity and not sexual like an adult.

I was constantly touching myself when I was a little girl. I was curious plus it also felt good but my mom said it wasn't bad but also wasn't very lady like. I think she wanted me to wait until I got older before touching myself