People who pass off fantasies as "real" experiences

Now I know that zity is certainly a place to explore fantasies and various fetishes. What I do have a bit of an issue with is, people who obviously have their fantasies and then try to pass it off as yes this really happened to me, even though the experience would likely have gotten a real medical practitioner in prison.

Some would say I should just ignore these types of posts and people, however I worry that some people might think that abusive medical practices are in fact normal and need to be tolerated.

That said, I have ZERO issues with people who call their fantasies, fantasies. I have absolutely no issues with that, but why lie about it? Here of all places where many of us are trusting others not to out us to people in our vanilla life.

Just my two cents/eurocents/kopeks.

Yes, thank you. This has been a not infrequent occurrence. The unfortunate part is that there are people here looking for real information and real experiences. Intermingling your fantasy in that sort of thread is inappropriate.

I love fantasy, just keep it in a fantasy thread.

Agreed. My wife once described me as "fifth grade literal". She may have meant it as an insult at the time, but I had no disagreement with it. To me, up is up, and down is down. So if another zity member says something actually happened to them, I tend to believe. There are sometimes red flags that set off my bullshit detector. I think it is our obligation as members to call out those who represent fantasy as fact. They add little if anything to the site. All too frequently, they are fairly new members looking to make a splash. I've got no beef with fantasy, but don't try to tell me its for real.

I couldn't agree with all of you more. I have no problem calling people out on their BS. It drive me totally nuts, lol.

Mashie

In total agreement...I think it is important to have an active imagination and fantasies, but let's all be up front about what is real and what somebody fantasizes about. It's pretty easy to spot fantasy described as reality and the writer just comes off looking bad.

This is also my #1 hot button, and it absolutely drives me crazy when people try to push their B.S. as if it were true. Just keep your fantasies to the fantasy and new story sections and nobody will get hurt. Otherwise, we'll all jump on your stories about snow pants and gentlemen doctors. 😮

If you're new to medfet activity and play or to enemas and such then perhaps you might get taken in by some of the more unbelievable and over the top stories that are supposed to be true.

But even with just a bit real experience or casual extensive reading and comparing of accounts and tales, it's not that difficult to pick out fantasy from reality.

But to worry about it or get worked up over the passing off of fantasy as reality? Sometimes i wonder if they themselves know the distinction anymore between real and fantasy. What with people believing in the weirdest conspiracies nowadays, expecting Armageddon any time, seeing signs of decay and perdition all around them, then a bit of mixing up of medical fantasies is small potatoes.

Why worry? Because there are people, myself included, that are looking for real information or experiences. For example, I posted a question about anesthesia experiences. I don't want fantasy, I want real memories. True, some fantasies are so fantastic as to be obvious but many others are much more realistic. The fantasies intermingled with reality are a distraction and are downright impolite. They are an example of the worst of narcissistic behavior.

But to worry about it or get worked up over the passing off of fantasy as reality?

I don't think any of us are worried about it -- I wouldn't use that term. But it's the difference between reading science fiction and an historical first-person account. The reader usually wants to know whether what they are reading is true or totally made-up. Staying true to the intent of a post or to a section of the forum is simply a courtesy to the reader.

This is a good post! As soon as I read "the bulging red bag in the hospital", I quit reading and go elsewhere. I don't do the fantasy stuff. Like food ingredients, it should be labeled fantasy. I like living in the real world.

This is a great post. I remember when I first joined I did a lot of reading to better explore my curiosities. With the majority of the user content here being fact based and legitimately clinical I was really able to understand my curiosities more without getting entangled in the fantasies of others.

I thought this site was all about fantasies, now i read some of the things that are written are true, wow you learn something new everyday.then you see some of the people have got hundreds upon hundreds of karma's or likes for their remarks and i think how did you do the things you say you did , to get all them likes and karma's they must spend all day on here,or got a ghost writer to put something on here for them.

i thought this site was all about fantasies, now i read some of the things that are written are true, wow you learn something new everyday.then you see some of the people have got hundreds upon hundreds of karma's or likes for their remarks and i think how did you do the things you say you did , to get all them likes and karma's they must spend all day on here,or got a ghost writer to put something on here for them.

No ghost writers, you couldn't pay them enough to come up with the stuff you find here. Besides, if you don't have the interest, you can't really fake it. Even academic researchers don't really get what goes on with people who have medical or enema fantasies. They may have an inkling or at least get some of the jargon correct, but have little clue of the how and why's.

Till some 10 years ago or so, there used to be a medfet/enema story site, Speculumpages, that was filled with nothing but amateur stories that were submitted for the pleasure of sharing. I was always flabbergasted at the amount of writing some people will gladly do just to share their fantasies/obsessions and read those of others. Some of the contributors could have been professional writers from the quality and amount of writing they did, were it not for the subject matter. I'm certain there have been pulp fiction authors with less to brag about except their paychecks ... ha ha.

So, many of the accounts and experiences written here are true. Those are often the best and most interesting posts.

Agracier, i see you got a like for your reply back, that must have come from a member of the BS squad thanking you for defending them,mind you i did like your reply back about the ghost writer, lol

BS squad? C'mon, that's not very charitable. There are lots of members here who take things seriously, certainly in regards to what is true or not. Many members are telling very private aspects of their life and experiences, of their wishes and desires and that is not always a fantasy. Much of it is quite real and often not even known to their own spouses, friends or SO's..

On another thread the question was asked how to tell if enema stories are real or not and a good reply was to compare them to your own experiences. Of course if you're relatively inexperienced there won't be much to go by, but normally it's pretty obvious to figure out what is real or not.

Besides, rest assured that with so many members here, there will always be someone with a similar experience to back up other member's accounts and stories, or else be ready to call them out on inconsistencies or unbelievable aspects. Ages and timelines appear to be checked fairly closely and anyone getting those mixed up with fantasy and reality will usually be shown the inconsistencies.

On a personal note I don't take much interest in fantasy stories. I've enough of my own private fantasies to last me till the end of my days, some of them initiated by true accounts I've read about here ... ha ha. It's the real things that I like reading about. Mainly so that I can compare how little I've actually experienced in real life myself. And to adjust my expectations of what be possible.

And maybe you haven't noticed, but there are also many quite normal discussions here as well. Not about sex or medical fantasies, but about how some of these things in a roundabout and indirect way affect life in general or how society or the law has developed in regards to acceptance of all kinds of social norms, mores and customs, some having to do with sex and medfet, others just general social discussions. There is lots of interesting meandering going on here on the site.

...they must spend all day on here...

Well, everyone needs a hobby. Seriously, I think most people that post here (myself included) just enjoy sharing their fetish experience with others. They like to know that they are not the only one in the world with a particular fetish or interest. And they like the exchange of ideas and thoughts with other like-minded individuals. I personally get off on writing fantasy stories (usually very detailed and long ones) and then sharing them here. The actual writing is a lot of work and takes a good bit of time and effort. But it's an arousing process to craft a story around your very own fantasies. And it's even better when you find that others enjoy your efforts.

Who cares! I doubt that most participants care about fact and fantasy. The few so called interested purists have their own narrow agenda and nothing will ever satisfy their own lofty views except universal affirmation and submission of all. Let the games begin.

I'm totally with everyone who expressed dismay at fantasy posts which purport to be fact. I may have "lofty" ideals or perhaps I don't. As an emergency physician I usually can distinguish fantasy from reality. I have little interest in fantasy. Reality is weird enough! Please keep fantasy in it's proper place.

Fantasy there, reality here is such a simple concept.

If someone is facing, say, surgery and all they're getting is the platitudes from the doctor - everything will be fine - they may reach out to a community like this. They're not looking for fantasy, they're looking for real experience from real people who've experienced the same thing. It's just plain rude to insert your narcissistic fantasy into that conversation.

It's very much like the people who will always be polite in person but turn into obscene animals in the insulated capsule of their car. Pretend this is a face to face conversation and just be polite.

As with all forums their are those that try to blend the lines between reality and fantasy in order to gain acceptance or become an active member. Its very easy to spot the difference between fantasy and reality ( well to me its quite obvious as I'm medically trained). As with most members here I do enjoy reading about the actual real experiences of other members that share my own kink/fetish.

As others have mentioned their are members that are looking for information, knowledge and to learn about procedures and other members experiences of such. Like others I often express my opinions and I'm happy to call BS if I feel that they are merging the lines between reality and fantasy.

It's sad but true. I'd prefer others just to say it's a fantasy (I'm OK with that). They don't need to pretend to make it sound real life.

There are those of us who actually ENJOY tormenting and belittling those foolish enough to post their insane fantasies in a forum which is clearly based in reality.

There are those of us who actually ENJOY tormenting and belittling those foolish enough to post their insane fantasies in a forum which is clearly based in reality.

We're called SADISTS. Look it up.

Haha Turkent you dog. I certainly love slagging off on those who can't or won't distinguish fantasy from reality. That I guess shows what a petty thing I am.

If I'm posting something here that is a fantasy of mine, I will preface the post with a disclaimer that it is fantasy. I think it's pretty easy to spot fantasy posts that claim to be real.

C.