Is sex better when trying to make a baby?

When my wife and I were trying to get her pregnant, I found sex more intense and satisfying. There was an additional pleasing element when deliberately trying to impregnate her. Several things probably contributed to that feeling.

There is undoubtedly something instinctual about the desire and drive to procreate. Nature powerfully drives us to reproduce. The other things I mention below, may well all tie back this instinctual, natural drive.

My orgasms and ejaculations were heightened by the fact that we were not fucking like bunnies day-and-night, and I was not masturbating every time I got the urge; she made me "save up" between tries.

She seemed sexier, hotter, hornier. She teased me and aroused me regularly, just to get my juices going, between tries, knowing I would be frantic to shoot my load into her when she was ready.

When she decided the time was right, she would bring me to a fever pitch, my cock would be so hard it would be twitching with my pulse. Then she would assume whatever position she wanted to receive my semen in and tell me to "put it in" or "give it to me." Wanting to maximize my ejaculation, she would coax me to, "give it to me, baby," "give it all to me," "shoot your sperm deep in me."

Believe me, in that state, with her naughty verbal encouragement, knowing she was wide open, trying to take my sperm as deeply as possible, I enjoyed some of the best climaxes of my life.

Have others, men or women, found that trying to make a baby heightens your sexual pleasure? As with all of my questions, you get extra credit for including gratuitous salacious details!

Absolutely not. The sense of responsibility is overwhelming. That's when sex is about what it's really about. My wife's expectations were so high and when she'd get her period two weeks later she'd be devastated. Sex to me is only fun when it's for fun.

The only part that made it better was that my wife actually wanted to have sex. Most of the time she wasn't in the mood, so wanting to make a baby was an incentive for her.

Not in my case. We went on vacation with the intention of getting pregnant, having sex at least once a day for a week. We were successful, but by the end of the week, it was a chore.

If the woman is wanting to make a baby, she's going to be most inviting and eager. Simultaneous orgasms and endurance are out the window. She wants the biggest load she can get out of you and she wants it delivered as close to her cervix as possible. Then hold it in, don't let it dribble out.

No, not really. With my two pregnancies, the first happened pretty fast after I stopped taking the pill. We knew we wanted a second and it was a bit more effort. Having to get both of us to perform on most fertile days got to be less than fun. I really like sex when it spontaneous instead. As for my husband cumming inside of me I have always love it whether trying to make a baby or not.

Well it did, because i too had been abstaining from ejaculating for several days, so when i finally did ejaculate, the volume, force, & viscosity were all there. And because I was deliberately trying, I wasn't worried about the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy; hence I didn't have any inhibitions. And that makes sex better because there are no worries. In fact the whole time my wife was pregnant, we had as much sex as possible.

It was cool to keep asking her women gynos every so many months if it was still ok, because we didn't want to risk damage to the unborn. Something about admitting to other women, especially professionally, that you're still very sexually active & horny as hell

As it turned we opted not to have kids but did try to get pregnant for a short time before. For me it was much to clinical in terms of timing ovulation and having her elevate her hips so the semen would gravitate to the cervix. So when the sex was primarily for something other than pure pleasure it does become kind of a chore.

For me, making a baby together with my wife has in no case been a chore.

NO, It isn't better when trying to make a baby!

The whole responsibility thing kicks in, you hope to stay healthy and produce a good baby that has all its parts, is smart, behaves well, gets along with people and will be a successful adult. I know, I worried about a lot, but it paid off. Our daughters are great kids, the older one in college and my baby just got accepted to Princeton! Hubby will have to curtail his hobby spending. Anyway, as I have always told people trying to get pregnant, JUST FUCK (did that excite you liquidsky?! 😁 ) DON'T follow a schedule based on suspected ovulation or husband's greatest ejaculations--your suspected timing may be completely off.

I had been on the pill for a few years and we used condoms all the time when my husband and I were swinging early in our marriage. We stopped swinging a year before we got pregnant because we wanted to ensure we wouldn't have an AIDS baby. We were also tested again. So for the year before I became pregnant we used only condoms. The first time we had sex without a condom when we were trying to conceive (and we have always had sex 4-5 times a week and still do), I became pregnant. It was so easy (or lucky), I was thankful that I never had an unplanned pregnancy!

The sex to become pregnant was actually a bit more mechanical because we wanted a baby, not so much to have a good time because we always did regardless. After we did it, I made sure to lay on my back with my legs up so nothing would drip out. In retrospect, it would have been fun to have been suspended by my ankles! 😁

As usual Susie said it all. The sense of responsibility was totally daunting. And yes I was excited by hearing you say fuck!

We weren't trying to make a baby when we made one, it was kind of unplanned. No regrets though, I have a wonderful daughter and two wonderful biological grandsons and a foster grandson as well.

To be bluntly honest, I enjoy sex more now that I am post-menopausal than I did "back in the day". There are no chances of interruption from small children, we can take our time, I know my body very well and I know what I will respond to and what I won't. I'm confident enough to make my likes and dislikes known.

Sex is like pizza, some are better than others but there is no such thing as bad pizza. I savor pizza more now than I did when I was younger!

I'm glad to see you're back in the Forum.

My wife and I didn't "try" to conceive so much as we stopped taking steps to prevent it. The sex then was great, very relaxed but with a hidden excitement knowing we were letting nature take its course.

The sex after conception on the other hand was out of this world! Something about pregnant sex that made us both naughty little horn-dogs.

Sure there were days that pregnancy made sex out of the question for her, but they were a relative few sporadic instances. Both our sex drives increased as the pregnancy progressed. It may have been the drive to feast before the impending famine.

I have to agree with Ladydoc. Sex is far better after menopause, although as odd as it might sound I really did love doing it when on my period. But she is right about no kids to interrupt you, we can take our time, but maybe because as we got older we had the financial means to buy a little lake cottage that is our getaway place. Getaway in this sense is a remote place where we can be as adventuresome as we want, enjoy not wearing clothes for as long as we want, and enjoying a locale that is just conducive to intimacy.

My husband/sub and I didn't try to get pregnant (we used condoms) but because I enjoyed the naked feel of unprotected sex, we had our first child. Our second one came because of bad communication (I heard a whole different question than what he asked).

I can't imagine that planned sex would be all that exciting (though there could be times it could become very stimulating). To just let it happen when it does would seem more exciting.

I am waiting for menopause to kick in so that I can enjoy that naked, unprotected sex that I love to feel. *sighs

I think that sex when trying to make a baby was simply awful. It felt more like a chore and a duty than anything pleasurable at all.

And maybe not all couples are like this, but some females can take it way way too seriously and demand perfection in impregnative techniques and and planning and setting up the ideal situation for conception.

I think it's probably a good thing couples usually don't think about conception consciously or else there might be less children born. Sex with conception in mind sucks and is off-putting. I won't say I felt used, but the seriousness of it all was just too much. In a way, it almost felt like the hypocritical way I felt at my First Communion. It was supposed to be ever so special, but I just thought it a big sham. Almost enough to put one off sex or change your gender preference ...

My personal ideas on the subject in any case.

Some of our best sex happened long after our twins were born. The last few months of her pregnancy were unmemorable. Then the 6 weeks after normal delivery were filled by ragged sleep as we adjusted to feedings every few hours and diapers always needing changing, making bottles of formula. Then it was having two cribs in our one bedroom apartment for months while our house was being built all contributed to life stress. Our sex was more mechanical than romantic, but we loved each other and managed to show it in bed. When the kids started sleeping all night, that was a turning point where things greatly improved and the new house gave us a sense of having our own space. Having another baby four years later was much less stressful and disruptions were expected making less impact on our usual great sex. Looking back those were amazing times.

Sex while specifically trying to fertilize an egg is more intense than sex for the sake of having sex. The idea of creating life is exciting. The idea that a partner's belly and breasts will be changng size because of the interaction of microscopic sperm in my cum is arousing.