Sex is losing it's appeal for me.

HELP, I'm not getting turned on by anything here. Am I dead?

Well, StephenS, with over 22K points, you may well have seen most everything here.

Our profiles indicate we are both 60 plus, so we have seen a lot in our day.

I don't know...Try taking your pulse!

As we get old, it is natural for us to loose our desire and ability. That is nature's way of preventing children born to people who will die before the child becomes a self-sustaining adult. My problem is that they never tell you of such things in sex education class, so the understanding of it can come as a surprise.

hankb

Why not? There exist persons which will have nothing to do with sex, but they will have no descendants.

Not only is it age, but with the internet, we have a ready access to all sorts of pornography, so it has become more common place, and sometimes boring. I remember when I was dating, I was in a state of perpetual horniness, but once I got married, and could get it whenever I wanted, my desire slowly decreased. But that is just me.

There exist persons which will have nothing to do with sex, but they will have no descendants.

I'm 62, enjoy sex with my wife regularly, and have no descendants.

Porno is part of my fantasy life, but I still enjoy sex in my real life. Not boring here!

HELP, I'm not getting turned on by anything here. Am I dead?

Maybe it's time to step back for a while? Overstimulation could lead to apathy.

Bit of humor off the Internet --- Husband filed a lawsuit against a doctor, complaining that since his wife's surgery, she's lost all interest in sex with him.

Doctor, in defense of the surgery, said he could not understand why because her surgery was for cataracts to correct her vision!

I like that!!!

...unfortunately as we get older this tends to happen to some men & women I might add, im 45 & during my 20's & 30's I was Sex Mad!!...then all of a sudden BBOOMM!! I hit mid 30's early 40's & all its all gone!!...

You need to see your physician.

Have you tried testosteron patches or injections?

Have you tried testosteron patches or injections?

He does not say his testosterone levels are low. If he has consulted doctors about his lack of desire as he says he has then surely they would have considered low testosterone as a possibility.

Stress levels can play a part in low libido. I also think overindulgence in anything can dull the appetite. Perhaps saturation point has been reached. Maybe having a spell thinking about things other than sex - having a good rest from it - will reinvigorate interest.

Oh, and exercise is important. It's not bollocks at all. Exercise releases endorphins, so it's good for the mood, fends off depression. A mind that feels good is more likely to be able to respond sexually. A depressed mind can shut down sexually.

I think women these days are getting a lot more demanding in the bedroom, so for me its the long old road of trying to find a lady thats very very patient & understanding! 😃 lol 😃

I don't think we are getting more demanding, I just think that we are no longer afraid to ask for, and express to you men what we want. Long gone are the days when women are just toys for their husbands when we were taught that we are to please our husbands, and that enjoying sex is only something naughty girls did.

Now we women are of the mind set that pleasure in bed is a two way street. Fair is fair. You deserve to be pleased and we deserved to be pleased right back, each and every single time.

Mashie

I don't think we are getting more demanding, I just think that we are no longer afraid to ask for, and express to you men what we want. Long gone are the days when women are just toys for their husbands when we were taught that we are to please our husbands, and that enjoying sex is only something naughty girls did.

Now we women are of the mind set that pleasure in bed is a two way street. Fair is fair. You deserve to be pleased and we deserved to be pleased right back, each and every single time.

Mashie

I think most of my past partners have felt able to tell me what they wanted, and I'm looking back over almost 30 years here, so I'm not sure it's a very recent development. Definitely a two-way street. This is certainly true of my wife - sometimes she even lets me take charge. LOL

DrZ, I find humor from a man to be totally sexy, and you my friend are so very funny to me. I laugh a lot of times when reading your posts. Thanks for that.

Mashie

@StephenS - 'HELP, I'm not getting turned on by anything here. Am I dead?' Yeah - probably, sounds like your done for fella. 😉 Your mind - that's the best sex organ, ever! So maybe you just need dust off your imagination - or somebody will be shoveling dirt in your face, or someplace else.

Just relax - don't try too hard, you'll get it back. 😄

Mashie: My (then future) wife was a bit shy at the beginning but I much prefer that she lets me know what she wants.

(One fun thing: sometimes she's very assertive and says things like "on your back please", and sometimes she just guides my hand without words.)