Do you hide your kinks / fetishes?

Does everyone here pretend to be normal about doctors and physicals and exams etc? Id be mortified to admit to anyone that I have a Dr appointment. I can't even say any words related to all this. How do you react when someone casually tells you about their physical or their doctors appointment. Do you show any reaction? Do you act like it's no big deal or do you avoid it? I try to be as normal as possible.

I'm a nurse, at a women and children's medical clinic, so I've come to know to be discrete about exams but lots of fond memories!!!

Yes I do as I know others would tend to view my fetish as rather odd yet I am quick to mock the stupidity that is reality tv and all the moronic attributes that goes along with it. I just recently found about the "Bronie" subculture. I want to punch a Bronie in the face. Furries, cuddlers, cross dressers effeminate acting guys etc..You name it and I bash it. So as you can see I myself can be somehat harsh and judgemental so when I look at my own deviation from a so called normative behavior I really do not have much of a pulpit to preach from, do I? I keep it to myself. I seek comfort in this website. I am not alone.

I do hide it in the way that I don't ever go around asking or suggesting anything to do with medfet or such to friends or acquaintances.

But on the other hand I don't hide an interest in it either. Anyone coming to my library and taking a bit of time to look at titles or objects on display will certainly notice many erotic, medical and other books and collectibles like enema syringes and intriguing looking instruments. These are of course sort of hidden amongst the multitude of other books and things I have or not really hidden, but mixed up with and mingled with so many other things such as trench art and pulp fiction novel covers and Great War magazines and so on ... nothing in particular is highlighted but everything is there nonetheless.

And sometimes a conversation gets started on something or other and then it's like a feeling out of each others preferences and tastes. But so far nothing overt or outright has ever come of these discussions. Things remain in the area of appreciation of art/imagery/collecting and the occasional remarks about how nice some nurses can be and about female doctors being better and all ... but there is nothing really sexual as such about it, or nothing personal at any rate.

Good or bad? I don't know any more. My friends know I am a compulsive collector and fascinated with photos and illustration and if that also includes doctors, nurses, naked patients and stuff like that, I suppose they find it just as oddly (and no doubt condescendingly) amusing as shell casings decorated by soldiers in the trenches.

I guess it's hiding in plain sight and I am probably trying to draw others attention to it in the hope of maybe someday getting a response. But nothing so far, thus showing that as a strategy for the coming together of like minds, it's not really very successful ... ha ha

No, I live it as a standardized patient. I can't exhibit or admit any erotic 'excitement,' but as long as I maintain my professional demeanor, nobody knows what's going on in my head.

Yes I do because most of the people don't understand it or laugh about it

I also hide it ...

Jds thank god no one can know what we think.

I also hide it. People would not understand it and think it is strange. Event wife would not understand it. It would be a real turn off hot her

Dr62Bob

Ok so how does everyone here deal with their doctors appointments? Do you hide that? Are you embarrassed to say you are going?

Ok so how does everyone here deal with their doctors appointments? Do you hide that? Are you embarrassed to say you are going?

When I go to a doctor it's usually because I am feeling ill. So that precludes anything in the way of fun or even mental fantasies. And for other occasions when going to the doctor it's because of something necessary - to fill a prescription, get a vaccination - and then it's just business.

So essentially there is nothing to hide, nothing to be embarrassed about.

About the only time I gave an inkling of my thoughts was when I had a nodule on a testicle. No one likes unexpected nodules so I went to the doctor to have it checked out. At that time, our doctor was in a group practice with 2 female docs, so chances were 2 out of 3 I'd see a female doctor. Before I left, my wife - ever so understanding of my inner life and fantasizing - gave me one of her serious looks, as if I were a 10 year old, and asked if I were aware that I might end up with a female doctor examining me.

I think I must have sighed and rolled my eyes up towards heaven and told her that, for goodness' sakes, I sincerely hoped that it would be a female doctor. Why would I want the older than me, bearded doctor to examine me?

Shaking my head at her misconceptions, I then left her more or less speechless and went on to the doctor where to my delight, I was examined by a lady doc. And afterwards my wife never mentioned it again. I guess that was the only time I dropped out of (assumed) character.

The only people that know about my kink are the members on this site, and others that have read my stories. So yes, I obviously try to hide any excitement I might have if someone is talking about a doctor's appointment or procedure that they had. I show keen interest, but don't let on that I'm secretly aroused. But in all honesty, I don't happen to be in the middle of those kinds of conversations much. Once in a while someone at work will mention that they have to go see the doctor, but most people just don't seem to openly talk about medical issues.

Of course I hide it ! Everyone else thinks it's perverted ! We are but a few my friends !

Ok so I'm a little different. I can't tell anyone I'm going to the doctor. I can't even say that word. I'm embarrassed to even sit in the waiting room. I'd be mortified if my SO ever saw me get examined. I've never discussed doctors with anyone I was dating. I dated a medical school student for a long time and he would give me physicals but I never disclosed how hot they made me.

I hear a lot of people talk about their physicals. I change the subject right away. I can't imagine how they don't feel awkward or embarrassed talking about it. If my current partner talks about physicals or physicians or heart rate etc I get so embarrassed and turned on at the same time and pretty much ignore what he is saying, like it's no big deal.

I certainly hide my kinks. I don't think many outside our community would be very understanding about what is decidedly outside the mainstream. But that's just the way I came and I'm tired of denying it to myself anyway. But I sure don't fully let it hang out there except on this site. Since I am a physician I'm comfortable talking about medical topics and doctor visits. But...I have no doubt that as a physician I would be even more harshly judged about having a med fetish. I doubt people would doubt my ability to truly keep it separated from the professional side of my life.

There are a certain number of people outside Zity who are aware of my interest but I don't wear a sign on my T shirt either, although that could be quite a good idea!

@Rockdoc^^^You may have just hit on something ?? ...T shirt with just the word Zity...those one could trust or know could identify,even break new ground for some...those that don't just plead ignorance....However putting something like that together would invariably have to be looked at in detail ......Smile Webby ! ....oh no !!... oops created another monster. 😁

I hide mine apart from talking about it on here . I have an identical twin and sometimes I drop in little comments if she mentions she is going to a doctor's appointment etc. I've spoke to her about Medfet as we were often ill together as kids, but she totally refuses to talk about it . I'd love to know though if she has a Medfet too.

I hide mine apart from talking about it on here . I have an identical twin and sometimes I drop in little comments if she mentions she is going to a doctor's appointment etc. I've spoke to her about Medfet as we were often ill together as kids, but she totally refuses to talk about it . I'd love to know though if she has a Medfet too.

A true identical twin? One egg cell and all that?

Very interesting and I bet you would both be scooped up in an instant by many a researcher in both the medical sciences as well as the psychological. And it would be doubly intriguing when it is about sexual fetishes ... are they innate or are they triggered by events and specific situations? One can argue ad infinitum, but hard data is usually better to have ...

A true identical twin? One egg cell and all that?

Yes , a true identical twin from one egg cell.

I also had identical twin girls in my second pregnancy ( one unfortunately passed away , just after birth) . We are very alike. Even our voices sound the same. Hearing her voicemail on her mobile phone sounds like i'm listening to my own voice.

Occasionally we meet up for lunch etc and we are wearing the same clothes. the only difference between us physically is height and recently weight because I've lost a lot .I'm a quarter of an inch taller that is all.

Recently a TV documentary was filmed in the Uk about identical twins . My sister and I were invited to attend . Filming was a few weekends ago , but unfortunately I was in hospital so we couldn't go. I would of loved to of been a part of it as there were 60 sets of Identical Twins involved.

Nik not to be totally facetious, double the fun but double the trouble no doubt. Twin gingers I don't think any man would survive but he would die a happy glorious death LOL.

I expect its nice to be part of a twin , with the closeness and bonding it brings to that type of special relationship and understanding that twins share.

I certainly don't broadcast my kink/fetish. I don't think I could honestly say that anyone in RL (i.e. not met through zity) knows about my kink/fetish. I don't have any problem in discussing RL medical appts, but don't go out of the way to do so.

I also hide it. Most people won´t understand why we love it. So ii think t´s better not to mention it.

I used to hide my kinks and fetishes.

Obviously my husband knows. Years ago I dropped a business card from DV8 (a large, well known NYC sex store) from my purse at my parents' house and my mother gave it to my brother thinking it was his but he told her it must have been mine, so they both know. My brother most likely told his wife, so she must know. When I was a teenager, my father saw me drying my hair after a shower with my Sherema bag and colon tube hanging in the background, so he knows. Our older daughter walked in on us during a scene five years ago when she was 15 and she told her then 12 year old sister, plus getting outed that way resulted in their getting a tour of our equipment room because they guessed it contained naughty things and had never seen the door open. Also my play partners know.

I don't go advertizing my kinks to vanilla people. I have a reputation to uphold!

I'm sad to say I do hide it. I fear that anyone who knew would judge me harshly. Of course if I were to die my family would eventually find out. I'd be dead but the prospect still is daunting.

Only one friend, (Female,) knows and does not comment.

I expect with all kinks and fetishes because of the negative connotations associated with them most people Including myself keep it a secret or hide it to some extent. In addition some of us work in jobs ( medical or otherwise) that would not have a great deal of understanding when it comes to things like medfet.

Which is sad what we do in our private lives as long as its not illegal or hurting someone should be no one's concern but ours. But that's just the way it is with society and anything it consider abnormal or deviant.

I hid it from my ex wife,but all my friends know all about it!

I generally listen to others who talk about their doctor visits. My father tends to give alot more detail about his medical, because I'm his daughter and should know. It's very hard at times to hear him talk about his catheter (especially when he has trouble/issues with it). Since my sub enjoys having one inserted and worn, it's hard to be as sympathetic to his pain. I do try to not sound to informed so as not to bring up too many questions that I might actually know the answer to.

I agree with most of the comments here. We never know how the details of our private lives and desires might be misinterpreted or misconstrued, so it is best to keep the details a secret. Also, it is no one's business what anyone does privately, as long is it does not harm or violate anyone else in any way. Unfortunately, however, the policy of secrecy only reduces the likelihood that most fetishes and kinks will be demystified in everyone else's eyes anytime soon. Yet life is long, and I find it hard to believe that vanilla sex can satisfy anyone for their entire life. I have to think that sooner or later, most people discover something beyond the vanilla lifestyle that either restores the spark to their sexual activity or excites them more than their past experiences. Society appears to have become increasingly open about things of a sexual nature, and I believe that eventually it will be common for everyone to be as open about their kinks and fetishes as they are about their overall sexual orientation. Of course, not everyone is open about their sexual orientation. I just think that kinks and fetishes are perhaps as much a part of one's sexual orientation as the gender(s) one happens to be attracted to. After all, all you can do is whatever it takes to float your boat.

I have heard almost everyone I have met make a reference of some sort to kinks and fetishes in casual conversation. In fact, sometimes it seems that every conversation I participate in, someone mentions something sexual and beyond the vanilla realm. Usually, it is in a "just kidding" way, but not in a derisive, making fun of it way. Perhaps people try to joke about these things in order to test everyone else's reactions. This could have something to do with the fact that we are social creatures who tend to seek approval. We don't want other people to shun us and think we are total freaks. But on the other hand, most of us don't want other people to assume we are boring and naive either. It's a fine line, a double-edged sword. As Molly Ringwald claims in The Breakfast Club, "I'm not THAT pristine!"