What excites you most about being spanked?

The feeling of losing all control in the moment is what gets my heart beating fast. Especially when I'm put over the spanker's lap and held down, there's nothing I can do. My most private parts are showing, my bottom's getting smacked and I'm probably getting scolded, too.

I got spanked as a child, but I don't connect *most* of my feelings to that. Although there are a few things I can point to and say, "A-ha! That's where THAT comes from!"

I don't care of the pain at all, but the anticipation and being made to strip and loss of control is exciting. Being exposed and know that someone else is seeing me erect gets me going.

The mixture of feeling embarrassed, aroused, and cared for. I'm most excited by firm but loving "this is for your own good" spankings with sexual overtones.

I wasn't spanked growing up but fantasized about it frequently. I clearly remember having an orgasm in a dream when I was quite young in which I was spanked between the legs, I spend many nights wishing as hard as I could before I fell asleep to have a similar dream again.

The ritual before. Being told to take off my clothes, bend over the bed or dresser in front of a mirror, being told to spread my legs, the warning that I'm about to get the beating of my life; the sound of the leather belt as he slides it from his waist, the folding over of the strap, the anticipation of the first blow, the sound the strap makes when it strikes my backside, my own screaming - begging for it to stop.

That's hot @kandi

I don't like the pain but the power exchange and the anticipation right before really excites me

Aside from getting paddled, the process by which I am undressed and positioned.

I'm a spanker rather than a spankee. The topic did bring to mind an autobiography I read a few years back though...Dances with Werewolves by Nikki Flynn. Nikki was a professional spanking model whose bottom got reddened on a lot of sites. Dallas Spanks Hard and Lupus come to mind. Man she could take a spanking. I think she's retired now but in her book she said that she never liked being spanked but she loved having been spanked. I think it was the endorphins that did it for her.

I enjoy sexual spankings, the whole ritual and how that works, I am usually the giver not receiver. I have a son that i have spanked, I do not enjoy that, and nor does he. I have a brush that I use, hands are for loving not spanking.

I find sensual spankings to be very attractive. They can start at whatever levels partners agreed to, but can advance based on the desire of the spankee. It is all about the needs of the spankee, yes?

And @Kandi, I loved you 6-line fantasy. I play at various levels to meet a partner's wants and/or need, and appreciated your your short vignette.

Adrenaline, relieves stress, improves heart function and blood circulation

The feeling of submission as I'm turned across a lap and placed face down and bare bottom up.

As I mentioned in another post, I have enjoyed spanking ever since I was a small girl. if I couldn't find someone to spank me, I would pull down my pants, bend over a hassock or chair with a pillow on it, and spank myself. When i was due for a real spanking, it was the anticipation, followed by the feeling i got as mom (or dad) took my pants down and put me over their laps.

Everything about it! The anticipation, the drama, the feeling of being under the control of another person and also the simple, yet not easy to define, erotic thrill that always accompanies a spanking! I was spanked as a child and it is quite likely that this has had some influence on my adult fetish. Precisely how much I do not know!

As a girl I was scared/thrilled at seeing any of my siblings/step siblings get spanked but hated my own spankings, especially the embarrassment of being watched by witnesses.

At 12-yrs-old I saw my 15-yr-old stepsister take a serious bare bottom hairbrushing from her mom and I got super excited at seeing a "big" girl bawling and kicking like mad. I remember being amazed when she did a spanking dance and I could see her full pubic bush and I could see how humiliated she was at me being there to see her spanking.

After that, I took every opportunity to watch any spanking I could as the cute bare boy or girl bottoms turning red and their screeching and kicking was thrilling! At that point I still HATED any of my own spankings.

But at 16 a girlfriend and I got caught smoking at her house. My mother gave my friend's father permission to spank me along with his daughter. We both had to strip to bra and panties , right in front of my friend's mother and 13-yr-old brother! I was mortified but also really wanted to see my friend get spanked as she was super cute and always acted "superior" to me, plus the cigs were HER idea!

Her big, strict Dad took her panties down and lectured her, then took her over his lap for a wicked bare bottom belt whipping. Watching her twist and buck and kick as her perfect tight bubble butt got whipped and hearing her begging, screaming, bawling was so exciting!

And seeing her mom and her brother watching with slight smiles should have made me crazy with shame, but somehow knowing they would see me half naked and howling added to my building excitement! When she was sobbing in the corner and I got called to him, my nipples were stiff as nails thru my bra and my panties were damp.

When this handsome man I hardly knew was pulling my panties down, his face just inches from my bush, I almost swooned and his eyes looked me up and down while scolding me and I glanced around to see the mom and the boy staring at my body.

The whipping was bad and I squirmed and jerked and I remember kicking my panties off and spreading my legs wide open.

My "thrill" disappeared under the wicked whipping but once I was up and dancing I ended up jumping around rubbing my burning buns longer than necessary because I liked the feeling of being the center of attention, especially with a man and boy so obviously delighted to see my front fur and bottom and my boobs bouncing in my bra.

So, for me, the biggest trigger is the fear/shame of bare bottomed spankings with witnesses, either with me watching or being watched.

My "thrill" disappeared under the wicked whipping but once I was up and dancing I ended up jumping around rubbing my burning buns longer than necessary because I liked the feeling of being the center of attention, especially with a man and boy so obviously delighted to see my front fur and bottom and my boobs bouncing in my bra.

Nice and detailed account. Just a question or two about some details: did you end up crying/bawling as well, tears streaming down the face and all?

And were there any obvious and clear signs of the stepfather and son's arousal?

I never received and just got excited this past year about spanking. It started with my new girlfriend telling me about her past boyfriend who used to spank her and make her perform oral. He was very well endowed and definitely took control of her. Ever since I've been in love with the idea of seeing her in that situation with a dominant male or even a dominant couple giving her a spanking. Then having her perform oral on them as gratitude. While I watch of course lol

Being over the knee with my cock rubbing in between a woman's thighs .

First and foremost, the anticipation of it, and I also like the control in that moment that I no longer have even though I want the spanking but I don't know when the spank will happen, sometimes seconds apart minutes apart, unexpected strengths, it's just a wonderful feeling.

Never been spanked on the ass as a child however, as an adult, I became interested in the fine line between pleasure and pain after being on this site and watching the movie the Secretary. The few times I got my partner to spank me I found it to be hugely sexually exciting. I'm not looking for punishment or humiliation (unless it's part of a prearranged meeting...ah, there's a fantasy) but, pun intended, I do enjoy the sensation of my ass getting spanked!

I like the feeling of helpless submission and the anxiety of knowing what is about to happen: that it will be embarasing to have my bare butt exposed. I like helplessly enduring each swat on my bottom and wondering how much longer this will go on. I was never spanked this way as a child but as an adult it has become very exciting.

Sooo many elements come into play . Starting with the second he tells me to lay across his lap, that instant feeling of vulnerability and nervousness , the anticipation and excitement all rolled into one . Him telling me I've been naughty and need to be spanked . That first delicious stinging smack that elicits a small gasp . Not knowing where the next slap will land or how hard . The rubbing and caressing and kneading . The peeling down of my panties , feeling his strong hand on my bare skin . Feeling the heat rise and come off my bottom . The growing dampness between my legs . Feeling him slowly part my cheeks and the embarrassment knowing he is looking somewhere so intimate. Him checking to see if I am enjoying it all . The mix of a little pain with increasing pleasure . Feeling his arousal pressed against me ....... oh my , YUM !

The last time I was spanked I was a child, and since it only made me angry, my parents wisely concluded it was the wrong tactic.

Since I haven't been spanked since, nothing excites me about it.

Having said that, being at my present age I am aware there are other possibilities...

@bridgette, your post here is the sexiest I have heard in a very long time. It's one for the books.

Thanks Easy , I excited myself reliving it ! ?

Never really understood why I get excited about being spanked other than I like being an adult-child when not at work and being treated that way. Luckily I have found a woman who fills the role as my mom and makes sure I behave.

For me, it's all about the antici-

I was spanked as a child and as an adult I like the whole process of being told I’ll be getting spanked and why...the submission of being spanked realizing you are not n control...the anticipation of how long and hard the spanking will be and with what implement or implements..the humiliation of being bared or baring your bottom to the spanker and possibly the verbal humiliation or scolding you could recieve ...makes it exciting for me

I was spanked growing up and am spanked now as an adult. What I find scary and very exciting is baring my bottom or having someone else baring my bottom cheeks. I've learned to love the humiliation that comes with this baring. It keeps me humble, obedient and cooperative. It is much more humiliating when there are people who observe the spanking including the preparation. I cannot tell if it is more exciting to undress myself or be undressed by someone else.

I was spanked growing up. And I think my sexual attraction to spanking began back then. These days, it is the whole ritual which excites me. Stripping naked in front of others. Standing there naked and feeling the erection starting. Then bending over and submitting to a hard spanking. Knowing the pain is coming. Feeling the pain that I can’t control. Knowing others are watching.