Homosexual feelings at puberty

I have been thinking back to when I hit puberty. I can clearly remember having strong sexual desires for males. Most of those were boys in my year at school. Prior to this period I only had an interest in girls. But during this time I assumed I was gay, as I only became aroused when I thought about men. These feelings lasted for probably around a year and as if overnight I returned to becoming attracted to women. I have felt this way ever since. However, if I see a clip of a guy being examined by a doctor, I sometimes get that feeling back. Is this normal, are there any other guys out there who felt the same growing up?

Don't label things. Most people don't fall in a cubby hole. Enjoy what you enjoy and accept your personal preferences.

Let yourself be.

Don't get into a panic over a normal curiosity. I am sure that there are many men out there who, as they are making love to a woman, wonder what it must feel like, being on the receiving end.

You're certainly not the only one. Don't worry, no big deal. Just enjoy it. Take whatever pleasures you can while it's possible.

Besides, if it still bothers you, you can always tell yourself that becoming aroused by seeing a male examined is because you'd like to be that male, like to be in the same situation. That's not necessarily the same as being attracted to ... a subtle difference but if it helps, then why not?

But even aside from that nifty little rationalization, don't worry. It's as normal as can be. If anything, it is the conventions of society that demand people be fit into neatly defined categories of sexual orientation. Don't worry what others expect of you sexually, especially not regarding your feelings. They are yours to enjoy.

It's true that sometimes same gender porn can be a rationalization but often it's not. I like male patient medfet and gay S&M porn for exactly the reason you mention - I can place myself in the action. For S&M porn, the boys play much harder and more realistic than most hetero porn.

I had a older dominant friend that eventually took the role, and maybe I had the tendencies then, but rather a Woman peg me now

I have evolved over time and when I first felt any kind of sexual attraction towards men I tried to dismiss it- this was probably in my early teen years. And to be honest it kind of frightened me because I did not want to think of myself as being gay. Well I have matured quite a bit since then, and I am very much heterosexual but still have desires or curiosities about what it would be like to have sex with another man. I am not threatened by these feelings, quite the contrary I keep thinking that I should ultimately explore this desire in person.

The bottom line: just enjoy and watch yourself evolve and never be afraid of your inner most desires- embrace them.

Well growing up as it were, back in the 1960's, any such thoughts or feelings were made to feel very shameful. And as a result it took me a long time to get over all of that. I had offers for encounters but just could never bring myself to the situation.

Now on the other hand............

Elaine

ElaineWCD, Growing up in the fifties and sixties, where homophobia was rampant, any such natural curiosity was quickly repressed for fear of being branded as a queer, faggot, or some other hurtful label. Nobody had the courage to explain that such thoughts and curiosities were perfectly normal. Even though the sixties was the "free love" era, and sexual liberation was touted, many things were still very taboo.

Even though the sixties was the "free love" era, and sexual liberation was touted, many things were still very taboo.

You're right about that all right. I came of age in the late 60s, it was full blown summer of love time and all that and frankly I never noticed much sexual liberation or free love going on ... which was a shame ... I would have loved to participate ...

Deep inside I knew I liked boys more than girls even as a little kid. When I hit puberty I really had to come to grips with the fact that I got erections fantasising about boys and not girls. In those days you would be beat up for being gay and could even be arrested. So the idea of being gay was a very deep dark secret. We found each other but very cautiously. Intimacy was only available when nobody else was home or in my room when everyone else was asleep. Things have changed a lot for LBGT but there is still a long way to go.

Ah Agracier as my father once said nothing is free. You did indeed miss out. Those were the times when you waited to have sex. That was until you got home on the first date. ???

Paul David, I might echo what everyone else has already told you, it's okay to be who your are and to do whatever makes you happy. However only part of your question has been answered. Now what I am about to say is being based off the thoughts that you are hetero and not gay. If you are gay, which is perfectly fine then the easy and logical answer is that you envision yourself in the med fet scenes because you are attracted to guys. And the reason you were attracted to guys when you were going through puberty is because you are in fact gay.

However, assuming you are not gay, JDS4Med, a guy that I have found to be right on track and usually offers perfect advice hit the nail right on the head concerning why watching guys in a med fet scene is a turn on for you. It is because you can see yourself as being the one in the scene. Now as far as you being attracted to guys during a year you were going through puberty, well I can offer you a simple and logical reason for that as well.

During puberty people often find themselves attracted to the same sex. Psychologically speaking a lot of the time this occurs because your hormones are raging. There are so many changes going on and so fast that it's a very confusing time. Most people are a bit confused about what's going on as well as intrigued. You have heard the stories and maybe even had a little sex class in school, but even with that information it's still quite weird. So for a lot of guys, and it seems this happens more with guys then girls, your attraction towards the same sex isn't always out of being attracted per se, but rather trying to figure out what the heck is happening to you. You basically are longing for information confirming that what you are feeling during this time is normal. And you can't ask a girl if what you are feeling or what is happening to you is normal or not. So because you are so unsure of everything, the last thing guys want to do is put themselves out there in front of the female gender and then crash and burn. So, deep down you know that by sticking with "like" things you won't have to put yourself out there until you are more comfortable with the changes that are happening to your body. You know what they say, there is safety in numbers, lol.

Now the other possibility is that you are bi- but I honestly don't think you are because you said you went from liking girls to not liking girls for about a year, then returning to liking girls again. Which supports my theory as mentioned above.

Either way you spin it, or no matter what conclusion you come to, at the end of the day you have to lay down with you. And if you can lay down with yourself and be okay with it, then it's all good.

Mashie

Ah Agracier as my father once said nothing is free. You did indeed miss out. Those were the times when you waited to have sex. That was until you got home on the first date. ???

Yeah, my father had the same kind of pithy, university-of-hard-knocks type sayings. Happens when you work on ships amongst the salt of the earth.

I didn't wait to have sex. I was just too shy and inept. And the maddening thing was that Amsterdam, our equivalent of the Haight, was so nearby and that I visited there so often with nothing to show for it in that department.

Mashie said:

During puberty people often find themselves attracted to the same sex. Psychologically speaking a lot of the time this occurs because your hormones are raging.

Absolutely. And if you went to a single-sex school, like I did, the phenomenon was widespread. I still remember the classmates I had a crush for at age 12 or 13, the surreptitious fondlings in class and the acrobatics required to touch each other's penises under cubicle partitions as we changed after swimming lessons, the innocent masturbation sessions back at home. We weren't conscious of being gay or not gay, it was straightforward sexual and emotional awakening. The phase was intense, though for me it never resulted in full blown sex, and lasted a year or so before, for most of us, attention shifted to the local girls school....

At puberty I did have some feelings for sex with males. As I got older more so. Now that I no longer have erections my feelings are perhaps the strongest! Very much attracted to a hard penis!

At puberty I was in boarding schools and indeed had strong feelings, some of which I was able to act on. I think all young guys have some feels when the body is flooded with hormones and a hardon can come at any moment. Enjoy it!

I really never considered this, but I probably had some “bi” feelings in high school. I went to an all male, Catholic school, which was a “whole other experience” in itself (a story for another time). Although I DID like females when I was able to be around them, I had little exposure to them while attending this school. There was one guy at my school, who really attracted my attention. He was a very quiet guy with a very fair complexion (no zits!) and had a very sexy butt and butthole, which I got to see frequently in the gym showers. For the record, I’ve always loved the sight of a nice, ample butt and anything anal, MALE or FEMALE, but never acted on these desires with another guy. I’ve been married for 42+ years and due to medical problems (look at my profile), it’s been several years since I have been able to have any form of “straight” sex. Now, I really enjoy playing with butt plugs and dildos, when I can. My wife thinks I’m a perv and will not even discuss pegging. That’s my dilemma. Now, I often crave being anally fucked by a guy since I have no other options for intimate contact…. At age 73, how does one find an FWB?

I had (and still have) strong feelings of attraction to males. I remember as a young boy wanting to see both boys and girls naked and playing doctor with both. In high school I was afraid of acting on these feelings for fear of being labeled “gay.” This was 40 years ago when people were not as accepting. I recently reconnected with a acquaintance from high school, we started chatting on line and discovered that we had the same feelings in highs school. We have shared our fantasies about both boys and girls we went to school with. This has eventually led to our meeting in person, as a bonus, it turns out he likes to play doctor too! Who would have thought, we could have been doing this 40 years ago

I did have strong homosexual feelings when I started hitting puberty and I did act on those feelings shortly after they started with a friend of mine who also had those same feelings. Fist time was both awkward and amazing!

I wrote about this subject on other like posts, but will share again. Growing up in the late 50's & 60's, all of us neighborhood boys and girls on the local block, played doctor. We all saw the enema bags hanging in each others bathrooms, and on occasion talked about them, getting them, or experiencing them on each other when chance had it. Seeing another guy getting an erection like I did turned me on.

My best buddy guy friend and I used to wander the forest preserves, and one day he wanted to show me something. We found a secluded spot where he unbuttoned my jeans and made me lay down. He then began to play, then masturbate me until I said that I had to pee and to stop. He didn't, and came all over my belly and his hand. My 1st orgasm !

Later on at my house playing bulb syringe enema on each other, I got so turned on by his hard on, that I did my 1st blowjob. This is when I first realized that I liked other guys.

I do recall, beginning junior high 6th grade, I had a mild kind of “crush” on at least a couple of guys. They were not particularly the “studly” popular with the girls types, but more the smaller “quiet” types of boys that I found myself kind of attracted to.

I was kinda shy around some kids, particularly attractive girls. The more attractive the girls, the more shy I was around them. Other girls I had less trouble interacting with.

Some boys I had kinda the same reaction around, but it seemed more subtle and easier to get past. I don't think it was too apparent when I was around a guy who I thought was “cute," at least I had always hoped that it wasn't.

In spite of the fact that I had an eye more toward smaller, perhaps more feminine (and cute) boys of around my same age, what small fantasies that I had allowed myself to entertain about encounters with these other boys mostly involved them topping me. Probably because I was developing my anal fixations, which were probably a lot due to the fact that I had enemas on a semi-regular basis.

I had auto-erotic or homosexual feelings by puberty - and almost minimal exposure to girls (except my sister) - at which time the feelings didn't go away but intensified. Even in my teens, when I missed a lot of school because of illness, I was fairly independent, and yet the illness also hindered peer-bonding, except with a couple of neighbourhood boys. So I was slow growing up sexually, and at the same time more independent than ever.

- Ken

At puberty did have some time with a classmate in sixth grade. He introduced me to masturbation as his cousin had showed him and had given him some Adam magazines to enjoy and fantasize with. During a sleepover things heated up and led to anal sex - first doggy style and then lap position. The lap position was awesome as we were able to masturbate while riding each other! We were both about the same size and enjoyed it all for about a year and then girls came along! Some great memories!

I think I subconsciously always knew I was gay. I always had crushes on boys at a young age, but I always thought of as gay men as flamers, so it was 14 until it dawned on me. It was summer before freshman year and I was watching one of those MTV Beach specials and all of a sudden seeing those hot guys I finally realized I was gay.

At puberty I was more interested in girls than boys. However, I did like seeing other boys nude as well. The first girl I ever saw nude was my sister who was about 6½ years younger than me.. No sex with her, but if was good to see her nude. I had seen other boys nude before puberty, but did not think of it. Shortly after puberty I realize that I liked to see all boys and girls nude. However, I did not have my first homosexual experience until I was in my 30's. It was forced on me by a group of females, not males. There was another male present and the females, who were very Dominant, forced us to strip naked. They ordered the other male to have anal sex with me. We did not want to do it, but the alternative was that they would tear off our clothes and whip is until we did have anal sex. Of course, the females watched as we did this. It was then that I realized my true sexuality was bisexual – 80% straight and 20% gay.

Oh yes I want heavier older men since puberty I'm strictly gay I never had sexual woman I've done different things but never outright sex

This was hard as I was raised in a religious family, when you get married to a girl. In school I used to get picked on alot, guys would ask for blow job and I thought that was gross as you pee through that thing. I got that alot as sex was never discussed in my household. When my mom was pregnant I said that once and got slapped it was family way and not discussed. I had sex ed in school and got turned on but did not understand those feelings at first. I got beat up alot as I was very shy. I guess I was gay way back in school and some people new but I didn't understand those feelings. My senior year in high school I was followed by 5 school mates on way home from school. I tried to run through woods to get away and was stopped. They forced me to give them blowjobs laughing at I was choaking and tears were running down my face. Eventually they pulled my pants down and penetrated me. I guess I was gay but did not understand those feelings. I have never wanted to have sex with women. Oh yes those 5 guys were straight.

I think i replied in another tread that i was born bisexual and liked girls & boys while growing up.