[quote author=fulldiaper link=topic=248.msg4733#msg4733 date=1202312944]
The reason for that is as stated, we think that the conversation relating to diapers, baby, incontinence, and paraodies on TV are somehow directed at us.
It's like this, if you have carnal knowledge of a murder, are you the murderer? NO, but you are an accessory.
With any fetish, that you have not become completely comfortable with, and are afraid, someone might discover your skeletons in your nursery closet, you will always be on your defensive guard against being discovered. If you ever get comfortable with it, it's just like anything else in life, it's a part of you, but it's not all of you.
If you let your fetish define who you are, it will consume and devour your life, family and social interaction lifestyle. When you discuss it, discuss it as if it were you were talking about having dinner, or going out for coffee.
Rehearse in front of a mirror. Get your facial expressions, voice influction, tones etc down pat, before you attempt to discuss this with a friend or significant other.
Also, learn about your fetish, medically, legally etc and know how to talk INTELLIGENTLY with anyone, including your doctor, lawyer, friends or even family.
As you get older, you WILL get more comfortable with the facets of your lifestyle that make you who you are. Educate yourself about why you enjoy what you enjoy. Then educate your partner, friend, family etc.
This is no different than someone coming out of the closet as being Gay or Lesbian. It should be accepted as such also. Some people's perception is that, since it involves diaper, it MUST involve CHILDREN.
Some pedophiles are adult babies and diaper lovers, just as some police officers like to wear diapers. Make sure you explain intelligently and emphasize, this has NOTHING to do with any minors or underage children PERIOD. If you are a pedophile, seek SERIOIUS medical and legal attention.
Years ago on AOL, some Gay Pedophiles, lured minor TB's and DL's into rooms to attempt to molest and meet them, and that's how some people perceive this fetish and some people are so closed minded, they want to ban AB/DL behavior for example in the UK.
Ignorance is not only bliss, but it's blissfully stupid. Arm yourself with education and knowledge. Speak intelligently about your fetish to anyone that asks or accuses you of something. It's about time we stand up and waddle!
Very well thought out and said. This is very good advice for all. This is the kind of light that needs to shine on us, not these sideshow type daytime talk shows that make it appear people who indulge in this fetish are all nutcase weirdo's. I don't care how well meaning you might be, appearing there is like going to a clown collage to speak on a serious subject. No disrespect to anyone who makes there living as a clown or clown collage per say.