Diapered Ladies

I'm an older AB and have been following the adult diaper scene ever since the internet took off. There's always been a considerable number of sites out there. To me this implies that there's a lot more ABDLs out there than we all think possible. I for one thought at one time I was the only one. A freak.

That said, I used to wonder if it was a male thing. The early web sites strongly implied this to me by reading forum posts at all the sites. The difference in male/female plumbing, societal prejudices - whatever - early on seemed to make it almost exclusively a guy thing. So I thought.

As of the last few years though, there seems to be an ever increasing number of ladies joining the ABDL scene. I've heard some whispers out there over the years by some women that makes me suspect it's more equal than we may think. Do other long time ABDLs feel this way too? I kinda think our social norms and pressures are changing somewhat due to the younger generations growing up and bringing their social barometers to bear. This to me is fantastic . Maybe our societies tolerance level to the unusual is improving. Maybe this has allowed for the ladies to open up about what I also thought was taboo at one time. I feel for the women who have opened up and been mauled by the desperate male members I've seen on all the sites. It makes me guilty by association, so I'll say sorry. I'm glad though that it seems to be less of a barrier to our younger members.

Hopefully a more open and accepting society meaning - the younger generations- will allow the ladies and others to open up to where they can accept and stop hiding in fear and guilt about our kinks.

Do others see this or am I overly optimistic?

I've seen this too.

Early on, most sites featured males and usually seemed to target the gay audience. Then came what was essential a mass market pornographer putting a woman in a diaper which in my mind was even worse than guys in a diaper. At least the guys got it, the female porn shoots missed the vibe by a mile. Soon after I suspect either observant pornographers or ABDLs got into the game and there was a marked improvement in the pic qualities. Then there started to be a robust web community and as you point out women started to show up. At first I suspect these were folks out to make a buck but they at least seemed to care and were quality. Some seemed to be real deal amateurs who went to work. More time passes and I'm noticing more and more female names on the scene who weren't in a money making venture. I start to think to myself, hey maybe some gals are into this. Now all you need to do is look a Tumblr and you can find a host of women who seem to be into the scene for their own kicks.

My un researched and unscientific thought here is that's because folks (in the USA at least) who are younger have come up with a more open and liberal mind set about things. Someone who's 25 today has always (for practical purposes) seen the internet and all it has to offer. They've had the opportunity to try out things and new personas. Some stick, some don't. Years ago you had to be stupid or brave to try on a diaper, now you can find others doing it and try out yourself.

I think they've always been there, now they just have an avenue. I'm glad for that.

I think the ABDL is mostly a Male Dominated fetish.

Yeah, I don't know why males are so into diaper wearing. The male physique is not atuned to a nappy.

I'm in my 50s, have been into this in one way or another all of my life, and definitely remember the pre-Internet days!

I've always thought that--IN GENERAL--men are into it because it's a sexual turn-on. Either it's a fetish, or we like the humiliation / domination aspects of it, or we're aroused by looking at others wearing and using diapers, etc. Women seem to be into it for the comfort aspects--being cared for by a loving "daddy" or because it makes them feel content and secure.

So it then follows that men would be more adventuresome and enjoy going out in public in their diapers for the thrill of it (at least I do!) where women would be more likely to put on their diapers, curl up in bed, and relax. That being said, it always made sense to me that in the early days, men would be more likely to write to various ABDL publications or join DPF during the pre-internet days.

But now with the internet, I think we're seeing lots more ladies opening up about their own ABDL desires. It's safe and easy for them to do so, and as mentioned earlier, I do think that society is becoming more accepting of our (and everyone else's) kinks.

But I also think that there were always lots of ladies into this--we just never heard from them during the early days.