New to Enema Play

I'm a dominant heterosexual male. I've picked up a new submissive girl to play with on a regular basis. She has expressed a sexual interest in receiving enemas. This is a subject with which I am entirely unfamiliar. I want to learn as much as I can about enema play so that I can give her a safe and fun enema fantasy experience. I've found some stories online, I've found a book called "Intimate Invasions" that I plan to purchase and I've found this forum.

One of the things I'm trying to understand is what enema play is really about..... what is it about enemas that turns on people who are in to receiving them? I've asked the girl herself, of course. She's very shy and it's hard to extract answers to open ended questions from her. What I've garnered from my discussions with her is that humiliation plays some role in it and she enjoys the feeling of the nozzle in her butt. So maybe some of you who are in to receiving enemas, particularly from dominant partners, can help me understand what a good enema scene is all about.

I would also appreciate it if you could point me towards some good resources about enema play from which I might learn more.

A final question I need to figure out is simply how big of an enema should I administer to someone who has no experience in receiving them aside from once, in a medical setting, as a teenager? From this forum, I've heard a lot of people saying that 2 quarts works well for them. Is two quarts a safe assumption? This girl is about 5'5" if that helps.

Do you know how lucky you are?

@bagfetish LOL I know there's probably a lot of guys in this forum that wouldn't mind socking me in the nose. Enema play isn't something that particularly interests me in and of itself. But this girl has been great about indulging my kinks so I would like to return the favor. And I love the novelty of it. I've never met a girl who owned up to having an enema fetish before and I might never meet such a girl again. So this is kind of a once in a lifetime opportunity to do something I may never get to do again.

I introduced my boyfriend, now husband of more than 20 years to enemas when we were in college. I was experienced, he was an enema virgin. If she is an enema virgin, start with ONE quart of plain warm water and you can both see how she responds. If she is experienced with enemas, you can give her two quarts, nice and slowly for your first time. She may also enjoy being masturbated or oralled while the enema flows in. You'll never know exactly what she likes unless you discuss it or just do it and see how she responds.

Things I like about getting an enema from my husband is the lubrication, anal fingering, nozzle insertion, being masturbated, feeling the water flow in and the pressure slowly building up in my abdomen.

I would start slowly and see where it goes.

Thanks for the tips @Switchablesusie. I'll start her off with a quart of warm tap water then and play with her while I slowly administer the enema. Sounds like a highly focused endeavor. She has a headboard that's great for bondage. It has lots of bars. So I'm thinking, maybe, I'll put a towel under her butt in case of leakage, tie her hands to the headboard and tie her leather thigh and ankle cuffs to the headboard in such a way that her legs are forced up in the air in a bent position. I'll keep her feet apart with a spreader bar. I'll administer the enema while I play with her then plug her butt hole and continue playing with her for five to ten minutes (unless she says the safe word). Then I'll release her from her bonds (maybe keep the spreader bar on so she has to do a funny humiliating walk to the bathroom) and let her go expel in to the toilet while I watch. Does this sound like a practical and desirable enema experience for a submissive?

I notice that in some enema stories the administrator rubs the recipient's stomach while the enema is administered. Is that important? Is there a reason for that or is just to soothe the recipient?

Indulgence, Bondage and Enemas go together like peanut butter and jelly. BUT, enemas also take some getting used to. So go slow! Just because your girlfriend has expressed an interest in enemas does not mean she's ready to try them with bondage. I suggest keeping them separate...for now. But after she's had a few enemas, she may actually suggest it! You never know. You also want to be sure she can handle holding the water if she's going to be restrained in any way. The last thing you want is a mess to spoil the fun. Good luck!

With you being dominant and her the sub, this might come across as being a bit foreign. You cannot know how she feels until you have felt it so you might either want to have her give you an enema or just take one solo yourself in order to know what works and maybe what does not.

Mma's advice is right on! You MUST go slow and make sure she enjoys the experience as much as possible.

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Thanks for all the advice guys. The enemas I ordered arrived today. I got the "70% more volume" saline enemas from Fleet. As emom suggested, I'm going to give myself one tonight or tomorrow. I'm going to hold it as long as I reasonably can so I have some idea of how long I can reasonably expect her to hold it. And, even though I'm super excited about the bondage part, I think I will go ahead and postpone that for a future session. She's getting a tattoo on her back on Friday anyway so the position I had in mind probably isn't a good one for her to be in.

Update: per Emom's suggestion, I took an enema myself. I'm glad I did because the experience to which I planned to subject that girl would have been WAY too intense. I gave myself the enema and the urge to go was OVERWHELMING almost instantly. I'm not sure I even lasted a full minute before I had to expel. I inserted a buttplug in to my rectum after taking the enema because that's what I planned to do to the girl. There was a big spill when I took the plug out. Long story short, based on my experience, I've decided that this girl's first enema experience will definitely NOT involve binding her to anything, will take place entirely in the bathroom and will not involve a buttplug. The scene will probably take place tomorrow.

Good to hear it Indulgence. Also recommend using an enema bag with either plain water or water with a little bit of salt. If your goal to remedy constipation, then fleets are the way to go. But if your goal is to play, then use a bag enema. There's the ritual of adjusting the temperature of the water, filing the bag, bringing the bag to the bedroom, hanging it up and of course the injection process. Much more sexy than a fleet enema! They can be held (and enjoyed) much longer too. A warm enema is also a lot more enjoyable to give and receive. Be sure the water is neither too hot nor too cold, and of course, good luck!

Nice (in a sense) that you had that experience, so that you can introduce her in a way that might be exciting, sensuous, and stimulating (while engendering deeply submissive feelings), and not just frightening and unpleasant. Perhaps you will try again in a way that will help you feel pleasure in the process. Good luck to the both of you tomorrow.

Indulgence: If you want your girlfriend to have a good time with her first enema, re-read my post #4. I promise she will enjoy it. You will too.

Thanks guys. @SwitchableSusie I'm going to stimulate her while I deliver the enema and I do appreciate the tip. I might have her service me while she expels. @SwitchableSusie and @Mma: We don't have an actual enema kit yet. I just bought the disposable enemas. If she likes the experience and wants to do it again, we'll invest in a decent enema kit. @legato345 Thanks for the words of encouragement!

Go to a drug store and get a cheap bag. It will be better than the disposable stuff.

She may want you out of the room when she expels. If this is her first few times, LEAVE HER ALONE WHEN SHE EXPELS. Making her do something she doesn't want to do may make the episode your last. There is always tomorrow.

DON'T use fleets with any chemicals. It will be a harsh sensation especially for a beginner.

The advice of Switchablesusie is really sound. Start slowly! Check with your g/f when she had her last b/m and just use a small quantity of warm water, certainly not a nasty chemical enema. Remember the importance of lots of lube and when inserting the nozzle aim for the navel but stop immediately if you feel any resistance. The last thing you want is to perforate the rectum.

Good luck!

I think that you need to openly discuss your desires, and be honest with one another. Every partner can differ in their desires.

So lucky...

I would suggest that you improve your communication with her. Otherwise neither of you is going to be satisfied.