@MrBud
Your situation sounds exactly like mine. I am the adventurous one, I buy the new toys to try, she passes judgment. I encourage her to shop and surprise me but that’s not her style. I would love to get her a strap-on to use on me, but I feel I need a few more successful purchases before I go there. Please keep us posted on your strap-on negotiations.
I completely understand the perception of choosing the right time and place for introducing a new toy in order to improve the chances of acceptance. It’s hard to recover from a down vote.
I have thought a lot about having the strap-on conversation someday, and I wonder if there may be a different tack to try with a toy for her to use on you vs a toy you want to use on her. Receiving a strap-on is a vulnerable situation for you(and me). Asking her to be gentle on you, to help you experience it, to do something specific to you so that you may feel it. Admit that you might like it or you might not, but you’d like to try it out. My wife does not really like to “perform“ or take charge. Maybe saying you will walk her through it and guide her to help find what feels good to you. That way it is not her responsibility to figure out how to use it and what to do.
I would love to hear feedback from other members, especially reluctant ones who have been approached to try something new. Is there a better method or time or approach to use that can improve the testing phase? Even if the final verdict is a “no thank you”, getting to just try something one or twice sometimes feels like a daunting task. Even for a couple that has relatively good communication, the success of a new ask feels oddly unpredictable.
signed: also eager to get pegged,
Hookajoe