Anal play and enemas with my fiance

Hello everyone, im new here but seeking out some advice. My fiance and I do everything. We are very open sexually and like fulfilling each others needs. Back around february I finly realized I had a thing for expelling and enemas and things of that nature. My heart used to beat rapidly when I knew he was in the bathroom andif he talked of being constipated or something I found myself turned on. He suggested that maybe I was into scat butv after reading a book called the dirty couple I realized while I don't mind reading about it I have no desire for it to touch me or anything like that. I realized it was the vulnerability of a guy specifically in the bathroom. Well eventually he gave himself an enema for medical reasons and this was the first time I really heard about it. So I did research and then I found a video of a male strapping a female down and giving her one and I was so turned on. My fiance was willing to let me do anything with him. I started with fingering that went fine. Then for our anniversary we went on vacation and got some sex toys while we were there including an enema. While we were on vacation he needed then enema and I was the one to administrate it. It was such a turn on that he had to run to the bathroom before it was too late and that night he also tried ben wa balls too... ever since then ive been dying to do all of this again but shortly after the trip I decided to try eating his ass. He kinda got weirded out and since then ive been so skeptical but its like I need to do something with him after awhile id love to give him an enema and plug him then watch him 'let go' id love it all I still feel that rushed heart beat when he is in the bathroom and I know what he is doing. What is a good way to slowly ease back in to play. And does anyone feel like this with the turn ons? I've tried to get rid of the fetish but I just can't. Thanks for reading sorry it's so long looking forward to responses

Cupcake -

My advice is to go slow. You might want to consider administering a prostate massage and tell him how much you enjoy anal play. That discussion could easily lead to your desire to play his "nurse" - take rectal temp, administer enema etc.

That's good advice I think a lot of it comes from me being comfortable with what I like as well

Sounds like you two have made some good first steps. Just be sure, whatever it is that you want to talk about or are afraid to talk about, that you DO talk about it. Failing to communicate, and communicate honestly, is the killer.

"What is a good way to slowly ease back in to play." You've answered your own question - the key word is 'ease'. Talk about it, take is slow.

As you probably know, the entire anal area is so rich with nerve endings. Men and women both. So all kinds of attention to the area can feel very intense. It's just matter of getting one's head around the idea, of not letting prejudices or assumptions take over.

You can't get rid of your fetish. Just be honest with him about it.

Cupcake - I agree with all the advice here and congratulate you on the wonderful start you've made toward complete openness. Have you tried being right there in the bathroom with him while he's on the toilet? Can you perhaps lean over to kiss him just as he's letting go? In my case I love the sound of my wife pooping or peeing. She realizes this as she can see my erection starting as she begins to make noises in the bowl. I also love to wipe her front and back when she's done - usually with baby wipes for additional cleanliness. In front however I must always wipe her a final time with paper to make sure she's dry there. Good luck and welcome..

Cupcake when you say he got "weirded out" what do you mean exactly? The first time for rimming might give both of you that feeling of "is what we just did too perverted?" I luv rimming both giving and getting. It is the epitome of intimacy just as enemas are. Just think about how far you are willing to go to please him. Tell him that. I agree with the advice to keep communicating. The principal rule of communicating vs just talking is making sure the message you are delivering is getting through the way you want it. So many times we hear things differently. Try to explain why you like to give him enemas and then watch him release. Thin k about it you want to share the most private of activities. You are basically saying "sweetheart I love you so much there is isn't anything I won't do for you and to please you, and there isn't anything you do that turns me off. including being in the bathroom with you.

My wife and I give each other enemas all the time. It took me a long time to be able to "ask" her to give one to me. When I release she will stay with me while cleaning out the bag etc. She kisses me and caresses me on the toilet and I love the intimacy. When she is in the opposite role I make her suck me while she is sitting on the can. I also kiss and caress her. So my dear girl... go for it and enjoy!

Thanks for the advice everyone. Weirded out by the sensation. I guess he felt it was a little awkward since no one ever did that before. The main problem I think is me. I can be shy about my desires and with this fetish I've been really shy.

You are a lucky girl and should keep the honest and open communication going.

I would focus the conversation on topics like enjoying his vulnerability and how him being on verge of loosing control is a huge turn on for you. You want to understand how all parts of his body functions and reacts to a variety of stimuli. You want to engage him in multiple ways, simultaneously, to see how he is able to multitask, and where he starts to loose his concentration.

You can very clearly explain that you are not interested in poop. But with proper health and safety considerations, you are interested and turned on by anal play for both if you, and you enjoy exploring new things with him. You are not afraid to get up close and personal with his ass. It might sometimes be with your tounge, but more often it will be with you fingers, toys, or appliances.

I love the idea of you being in the bathroom with him when he is pooping or expelling. You may start with kissing him while he is trying to go. Work your way up to sitting on his lap naked, facing him, and masterbating while he sucks on your nipples. All the while he is also trying to use the toilet. You will not stop or get up until you hear him go.

You can't get rid of a fetish. It's what you are naturally curious about and it turns you on. You can't just choose not to be turned on. Enjoy it and work with him to explore it. Also, I recommend you offer up your own body for him to explore in similar ways to satisfy and promote his curiosities. This way you both can learn how it feels to be on the giving and receiving ends of these activities, and it should give you more ideas to explore.

Please keep us posted on your progress and fun activities. We love to hear about it all, and it's how we learn things too.

I love all these ideas. 😃 I will definitely check back in and let you guys know of my progress

I'm at the point where I wish I had someone else for these things because I want someone who enjoys it and is comfortable. I've gotten to the point where I don't really wanna do it with my fiance of course im not going to cheat to fulfill this part but I feel like I should stick to this site and videos for my fantasies.

Aw cupcake it sounds like he has a problem with it. I would not give up just yet. Stay on him and he will eventually give in. I forget has he given one to you yet? That might get him interested when he sees how much you enjoy it.

He's told me he's willing but it just seems to get awkward when I try. So it makes me want to find someone that already likes it to play with

Oh and no he hasn't given me one.

@ Cupcake -- I wish you well in your endeavours....Simply adhere to the "go slow" policy & take all the time necessary.....Remember one thing & that is if one forces an issue it can lead to resentment and regrets, that is the last thing anyone would wish for.......What you (or I or others think) may find exciting come appealing when it comes to anal play another may find distasteful, we are all different.....As others have mentioned it may be better to create an environment whereby this can be best achieved by incorporating some form of "play" scenario----imagination & creativity being wonderful tools when used wisely..One can draw inspiration from the many Zity stories which stand testament to this basic formula...So often we see & hear of good intentions ruined by poor judgement or lack thereof............Good Luck & All The Very Best Ahead..

My progress. Last night we were role playing and I felt the urge to play with his ass so I just did it. I fingered him a bit while I was giving him head and even rimmed him some. It went well and I think he enjoyed it. Step by step 😃

@Cupcake -- A positive step no less & by the looks of this the beginnings of what may ultimately lead to the enjoyment of true intimacy for both ...

Your "secret" dreams may yet come to fruition & do hope you keep posting updates....Best Wishes..G.

Cupcake sounds good to me. The next step could be telling him that since he enjoyed the anal play, the next time you prefer to have him cleaned before putting your finger in. Hence the enema *smiling*

I'm with cooch. (7/1 post) Ask him if he'd like to give you an enema. What is good for the goose is good for the gander! Even if he isn't specifically into enemas just yet, he's almost certainly going to like the surrender/submission aspect of giving you an enema. And of course good luck and keep the posts coming!

Update: about a month ago he had to go to the hospital for chronic constipation. He was prescribed suppositories and he let me put them in. He moaned a bit while they were going in which was a turn on and I think he knew because we had sex not long after. He has been really supportive of my fetish the hardest thing is bringing up the fact that Id like to watch him expel. Not into scat but the vulnerability of it is a turn on, even if he just left the door open. Hopefully I'll get over my shyness because it seems like he is pretty open even if he doesn't understand

I completely agree that the vulnerability is very hot. Similar to when some one is peeing, they have to relax their muscles to expell, this giving up of control over those muscles, being trapped in that position, having to wait for nature to take its course, is an incredibly sexy situation. I hope he recovers smoothly and you two continue to explore and get off together. We all love to hear your updates on this adventure.

Know exactly how you feel, only from a mans side of it, id love to have a woman i could do all the suppositories and enemas to, and watch the expulsion.

And i dont wish to play with it either !

Any female volunteers ?

Cupcake I know exactly how you feel. I posted this on another subject area but after receiving an enema from an x-ray tech prior to having a colon X-ray procedure, I was expelling the enema, when the x-ray tech knocked on the door and came in to the restroom.. She stayed while I was expelling. I was helpless to do anything other than continue expelling this very large enema she had given me…This was one of the hottest, most sensual experiences of my life..Total turn on…..

Cupcake, I hope he loves you enough to learn to accommodate your desires. You sound like a dream girl! All the best to you.

He should realise how lucky a man he is to have a woman like you. As others have said, take it slowly, but somehow make him realise that this is a rare and exciting opportunity for you both