New at Bondage

We want to try some bondage to venture into some new things. Any suggestions where to start out for us?

Rope is the easiest and least expensive to acquire for restraints.

A good leather blindfold is a good second piece of equipment for bondage.

You should experiment with each other. Tie your partner up and do things to them. You don't have to do anything painful, it could even be overtly pleasurable, but be restrained while you do it.

After you see how you and your partner respond you can get into more severe activities.

Even a soft men's tie could be used for tying one to something (use "knots" that can be undone quickly if need be or have a good pair of scissors for cutting one loose).

Relax and enjoy what you do to each other.

If you have been with your partner for a long time, hopefully trusting each other isn't an issue.

You should know you aren't going to maim or kill each other. I say that quite seriously because my husband and I have done some pretty severe bondage scenes where the submissive was inescapably restrained and the dominant could actually kill the submissive/restrained person if he wanted to, but we don't want to do that because you can only do that once! 😁

Like Susie said (and for anyone else reading) the emotions and trust play a big part of things. Unless you use excellent knots, or other devices like leather/metal restraints, the person is going to be able to escape. That is not necessarily a bad thing. For it is more a mental condition of the feeling of being helpless, than a physical one for many.

Heck, some people even love the feeling of being made to keep your hands over your head, or spreading your legs. It is a vulnerable position.

And it depends on what the person tied wants to feel: vulnerable, taken, pleasured against their will, or even pain.

So, learn some knots (many nautical or scout online sites, "Two Knotty Boys" for advanced stuff), find something to tie with (rope, straps, scarves, business ties - just be careful that scarves don't become too tight), set aside some time and have some fun.

The most important part is to communicate - your safety feelings, how it felt to be controlled, how it felt to do the tying, and any concerns you have during or after. It can bring you closer.

For me its all about trust, letting your mind go to a place where it normally would not and having a safe word.

I wear very cheap clothes as they are always ripped off.

Inexpensive rayon or nylon scarves are great. Use simple slipknots at first. If your partner wants to struggle, you can learn some simple, safe knots. While leather blindfolds are OK, look into the MindFold. It's plastic and foam built in a way to allow you to open your eyes underneath it. Also consider over-the-ears headphones with either white noise or music to complete the sensory redirection to touch.

As others have said, pain is optional. Imagine a bound sensual massage. From experience, it's wonderful.