Anal stretching

Can anyone recommend a toy that is good for anal stretching? I would like something that a partner can use on be before anal sex to loosen things up. Looking for recommendations other than fingers..... Thx

We like inflatable plugs - they let you control the inflation, and thus, dilation level very closely. I like 3-prong specula as well, and there is always the classic dilator sets - multiple, scaled insertables. I would definitely try the inflatables though....

@ SRG --Yes in agreeance with that recommendation as regards the inflatables, as there are so many possibilities that come into play there...Controlled inflation / deflation being advantageous not only for the stretching component but the added play factor that is introduced into the equation,let alone the fact that the graduated dilators are then easily accomplished if one wishes to expand their interests and or heighten the short / longer term exhileration.. mmmmm !

I love using an inflatable plug but I'm not sure it's best for actually stretching your hole. In my experience the plug tends to only inflate inside. For me the pleasure comes from it pushing on my prostate, not from stretching my sphincter.

I think a speculum would be good for stretching. You can also get sets of butt plugs that have increasingly wide necks that you can work your way through that may help you achieve what you are looking for.

There are a selection of medical dilators on the bottom of the page: http://www.medicaltoys.com/anal-play.htm, but if used gently, any series of plug of increasing size would work. The medical ones are probably the best, I find that it works if another person does the insertion, so they can see how successful the dilation is going and when a larger plug can be fitted. After the largest is used, plenty of lubricant with gentle pressure should do the trick

Have a few different sizes of dildos, vibrators, or butt plugs on hand. Start small, work up.

I tried to insert a small dildo and it hurts

Does not heart at the entrance of the ass but inside, about 12cm deep...

Is this normal?

When I hear people saying that it hurts I imagined that it was stretching it to get in.

Tuga, maybe if you feel pain at that depth, you are aiming too far toward your spine and bumping up against your tail bone? You need to aim more towards the belly button as you insert something.

I used bigger and bigger dildos and have a huge plug now with 26 cm in circumference huge hole

I use larger dildoes and butt plugs to open my anus in order to take new toys.Enemas and toys aid in expanding my level of anal fun.R.I also use a Graves style large size vaginal speculum on myself before insertions of toys.

Start small and work up. Right now I can take a three inch thick eggplant without a hole lot of effort.

I had bought a large glass curved handle rosebud plug and decided that I wanted to try a kegel plug. I got and wanted something bigger. I ordered an extra large kegel plug with a curved ball handle. It was special order and when I got it it was huge! 2.48 inches in diameter. I thought I would never get it in. I worked for a month and bingo, ta dah! Got it! Getting past the first ring was no problem. The second ring took some work. Lots of lube was needed! Then I freaked and thought that it wasn't coming out. But it did! Patience is all it takes!

Stretching your anus? For sex I can dig it but beyond that? Want to have to wear diapers for real?

Quite knowledge I.parted

I have read elsewhere on this forum that you need to start out with a diameter that you can insert comfortably, practice with it regularly, then only move on to something 0.25" larger in diameter at the most, and only after regular practice. Then you need to practice inserting and removing the new toy for however many days or weeks it takes to be able to comfortably fit something 0.25" larger in diameter than that. It is not advisable to jump right up from using an object of 1.5" diameter to another object with a 2.25" diameter for example. And progress is only temporary. For example, a person might have been able to fit a 2.5" diameter toy a month ago, but that does not mean they will be able to today if they have not played since then.

To address the original poster's question, I think a simple butt plug of a standard diameter would be enough to get relaxed for anal sex. Maybe wearing it for a few hours a day, for a few days in a row and on the same day prior to having anal sex. Then again, I have never been on the receiving end of anal sex. However, this is the first plug I ever bought and it seemed to relax me on the days that I used it. I have also found the shape to be very easy to insert and remove, and pleasurable:

http://www.amazon.com/Luxotiq-Anal-Plug-Stainless-Steel/dp/B007F17OG0/ref=pd_sim_hpc_4

That is the aluminum version. There is a lower priced, but slightly higher quality stainless steel version of exactly the same shape and size, that I would have bought instead if I had known about it at the time I placed the order:

http://www.thechaingang.com/adult-adventure/female-body-jewelry/butt-plugs-probes-insertables/art-deco-butt-plug.html

The narrower neck of the plugs above allows you to leave them in as long as you like.

Here is a nice looking set of dilators- they have a wider neck, for short term training. The wider neck leaves the sphincter muscles open the entire time the dilator is inserted, so you would probably be very relaxed after wearing one of these for an hour or so, maybe less. The largest size dilator could take a few weeks of consistent training to work your way up to if you were so inclined. However, I am sure the smaller sizes would still prepare you for anal sex.

http://huse.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=HDC&Product_Code=21847&Category_Code=A3#.VOZ99ULjh

I am not affiliated with any of the above sites/retailers.

One more thing that beginners should take note of, even though it has been mentioned elsewhere, is to massage the outside of the anal opening with lube for a while before inserting a lubed finger, and being thoroughly aroused and relaxed. Only then are you ready to insert an object/ have anal sex. And as you push something in, remember that pushing out slightly, like you do when you use the toilet, will allow your muscles to open up to receive what you are trying to insert. It should always be comfortable. Do not push past discomfort. Just try to relax more and get more warmed up until you are ready.

Post 13 from liquidsky is akin to what I was wondering.

What is the danger of damaging the anal muscles? I under stand the idea of start small and work your way up. And I understand if it hurts, and you aren't in it for hurt, then stop. What I am wondering is if you have used all the due caution, are your muscles going to be weakened so that you have difficulty keeping normal stool in until you are ready for it to come out. You don't want to drop a souvenir in the aisle of the grocery store.

Well, I'm not sure how people who use huge diameters such as anything over 2.5" are affected in the long run. But the fact is, "anal stretching" is just another type of muscle training. The principle with muscles is "use it or lose it." Someone whose anal muscles never get a workout would be more likely to have issues with their sphincter control later in life. I have read in various places that if anything, training these muscles to open and close on command develops more control over them. I have also read some interviews with porn stars who often participate in anal stretching and play with large toys. One woman gave some advice that I remember using the acronym WEWA:

W - Water- plain water enemas before playing, and water-based lube.

E - Exercise- kegel (clenching) and reverse kegel (unclenching between kegels) exercises for several minutes each day.

W - Warm-up before any anal insertion. Massage outer entrance with lube, get turned on, relax and probe with a finger at first to warm-up.

A - Abstinence- Take a day or two off every week but continue kegel and reverse kegel exercises on days off.

All I can tell you is that I have a lot more control over whats going in or coming out than I did a couple of months ago. So I think the exercises resulting of my plug play has toned things. Not loosened me up!

I have posted several times on this. "Anal stretching" works just like the gymnast leaning to do splits. You slowly train the muscles to stretch. As long as you don't injure or tear anything there are no bad consequences. There is a consideration of use it or lose it when it comes to inserting wider objects.

I agree that using graduated butt plugs in about 1/4" graduations works well. I like silicone plugs and over time, I have gotten up to about 2" diameter without pain. Sometime while inserting a larger plug, if there is pain, withdraw the plug slightly and let your anus get used to the sensation. Then, after a couple minutes, resume gradual insertion.

Whatever you use to stretch yourself, good lubrication is essential. A finger of lubricant in the hole, lube around the hole, lube the article you are inserting--you cannot have too much.

hankb

I am doing Kegel exercises. They really work and improve urination control, sexual desire, and improve sphincter control. No more dripping after urination and much better enema holding power

I have silicone nozzles that are 1 1/2" that I cannot use. If it is a decision to enjoy a larger nozzle or losing control. I would rather have better control of my ass. Has anybody experienced anal stretching and the pros and cons? I would definitely try it if I was younger. If you enjoy anal stretching everythingbutt.com is a great site.

http://www.everythingbutt.com/site/?c=2

Start with our smaller plugs or dildos and as you get relaxed go something larger go slow and use plenty of lube you will get there !

Trebyes,

I do not believe that anyone could lose any degree of sphincter control from using enema nozzles with a 1.5" diameter. That is usually a medium diameter for a dildo.

As long as you are careful when you use it and you work your way up to it with smaller diameters first, to get relaxed enough that it does not hurt going in, it will not do any damage to use a 1.5" diameter nozzle for an enema. If you were to just try to jam it in without any warm-up or kegels, then you could hurt yourself.

The only other way such a diameter could compromise anyone's control is if they got an object with no taper, such as a dildo, which would keep their sphincters dilated to its diameter, and left this toy in 24 hours a day for perhaps days or weeks on end.