Stockings & Heels

I need some feedback. My bf ("Michigan") - always raves about my stockings and heels. I often will send him pictures of me in heels and stockings (usually from thigh or calf down) and he says he loves them. I don't get it. What is it about a woman in stocking and heels? I would appreciate comments, and insight on this matter. I understand why he might enjoy seeing me in them or pictures of me - but he says that stocking and heel pics get a lot of men turned on. So, I put it out to my Zity friends - what is it about stockings and heels that turn a man on? Also, does it matter if you know the girl or not? Insight please! He really seems to like them - and I don't get it.

I am probably the wrong guy to ask as they don't do much for me. Heel's don't anyway. Stockings may be interesting. I really don't know. The SO does not use them. I guess they may pull your legs in a bit and make them look more toned?

If the SO was into them I no doubt would not object, but I don't see them as a major turn on. There are other things that get me much hotter.

Q: "What is it about stockings and heels that turn a man on?"

A: The woman wearing them.

Please let me explain this, as I am just as turned on as anyone by lovely ladies in stockings and heels. No matter how sexy a man thinks something is for a woman to wear, it is not what makes the woman sexy/ sexier. The woman wearing it makes it sexy.

Stockings and heels can really complement and emphasize the natural form, the curves and contours, of a woman's legs. The visual effect is just like what a push-up bra does for a woman's breasts, or a thong or spandex leggings does for her ass. These things just increase a guy's focus on the beauty of the woman's body when she wears them.

Of course this is just how I personally feel about it. And it is why I prefer to see a woman completely naked than wearing anything too elaborate or tacky for my taste. I guess a lot of things that are supposed to be sexy for a woman to wear are just distracting in my opinion. For example, I would rather see a woman naked than in the striped stockings, or fishnets, or the ones with seams up the back of the leg. But I love it if she keeps it simple with, say, just some black or white high heels matching plain black or white sheer thigh highs, the higher the better, maybe with the nice floral pattern at the top. For me, the whole idea is that this simple stuff creates a more intent focus on a woman's own beauty.

I guess my point is that these accessories do not enhance a woman's beauty, nor does she need them to. These accessories are just effective, very effective, in how they enhance the way a guy looks at a woman. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I suppose that applies here.

Number one, it's sexy to see a woman in stockings and heels. Secondly, in the right setting, it says that you cared enough to objectify your leg and feet. It shows you are trying. For many men, this takes the focus away from "other" body parts and lets the mind wonder what is behind the sexy shoes and hose. Not every person will learn what is hidden behind those hose, only the luckiest guy(s) will find out.

Ssiptac, you make some good points except I don't think hose hide the legs or take focus away from other body parts. They do the opposite. They accentuate the legs, so it's more like seeing a woman's legs in high definition. And the woman's naked skin above the stockings, the hips, vulva and ass, are all highlighted by the contrast with the stockings.

I think we are socially/culturally conditioned to find this arousing. Every culture in the world has different images, behaviors, or physical attributes that are conditioned to trigger a sexual response

What is it about stockings and heels that turn a man on? Also, does it matter if you know the girl or not?

Well, where to start??!!

I will not try to speak for men in general, but for me the association (of shapely legs, accentuated by stockings) with erotic activity is part of the answer. Where does that association in my mind come from? A mixture of cultural norms in my society and personal experience.

From puberty onwards, I'm used to seeing women who are sexually provocative, or just plain flirty, often wearing stockings and heels. They also wear plenty of other things, and it's not an exclusive requirement, of course, but merely one of many optional signals that, to me, conveys the notion of a women wishing to display confidence, who may be wanting to stimulate or attract males, or even to dominate the agenda to some extent.

The personal experience aspect includes that fact that stockings are nice and smooth and make it easy and enjoyable to caress a woman's legs. Doing the same with bare flesh is also very enjoyable, but is different, so variety and contrast come into play here.

As for high heels, another factor is that they elevate the woman, even if it's by only a few extra inches that's enough to make her slightly more prominent amongst others standing nearby than otherwise she would be. That helps mark her out in way which, to me, is attractive and exciting. The idea that the woman is also having to balance with care on a slightly less than fully-stable platform also makes it a little risky, in a sense. The teetering leads to dramatic tension - perhaps the woman feels totally secure herself, but it doesn't look that way to me! Part of it is, maybe, a bit like some people feel about simple bondage - the woman is constrained by what she is wearing and has to stand in a particular way (often with pronounced posture that highlights other physical feminine characteristics) and so is less free than were she to be wearing flat shoes.

The fragility of sheer stockings also creates a sense of excitement and also means that they are often brand new. It's always the case for my wife when we go to a special occasion (like a wedding or big birthday party) and that extra trouble and expense to look good sets up good vibes for the occasion itself and what we will do together afterwards.

Because of the constraints and formality that both high heel shoes and stockings impart, when - eventually - they are removed, it brings a release of tension that works well in engendering play between consenting adults. The freedom then obtained encourages sexual expression to great effect.

For me, a garter belt is a great addition and far preferable to thigh-highs or other 'stay-ups'. The garters themselves, and the tight belt around the waist, all add significantly to the beauty of the overall sight.

Does it matter if I know the woman or not? Not especially, but it's more enjoyable if I do know the person because I can relate to her and my imagination can more easily generate scenarios that are more realistic than if I'm looking at a stranger.

Hope that's helpful feedback for you, Charlotte, but not sure if it will let you 'get it' / understand your bf's point of view and his reaction to you wearing stockings and heels - do let me know!

@ facilitator - thank you for such an indepth response - I appreciate everyone's input - that has taken the time to put pen to paper, or in this case - fingers to keyboard. There is no question - I feel sexy in stockings and heels - because I know how much it turns him on. I know that I have one pair of fishnets in particular that have such a silky feeling - that I love feeling my own legs in them, lol.

I guess part of my issue is my own self esteem problems.... concerns about my self image. I know he gets quite excited/aroused at the sight of me in stockings and heels. I suppose until I embrace my own sexuality and accept my body for what it is - I'll struggle with this...

I suppose - it makes sense to show a few of the pics that I've taken of myself - he raves and I wonder....

http://www.imageno.com/d9sn8mcbgbhqpic.html

http://www.imageno.com/onm1hj6obor0pic.html

http://www.imageno.com/mj9mc5otren9pic.html

http://www.imageno.com/o8a7dliozsmhpic.html

I completely agree with others that have responded here. The stockings and heels thing - I should add that I'm a HUGE fan - to me at least is a wonderful concoction of psychological, societal and physical/tactile. Your pictures are wonderful Charlotte and your bf is a lucky guy.

Well, I agree as HC put it, the heels and stockings just accentuate an already beautiful part of a woman's body - her feet and legs, A nice pair of heels on a woman are so pleasing to the eye and adds an arousal factor. Her feet arched in heels is so attractive and as she stands it adds a position to the posture which makes the "booty" stand up. I cant really explain the full effect, or even why. But can tell you - it does...for me anyway. And from my fet perspective, I do so like seeing a woman in the chair, in heels. More so than flats or tennis shoes. BTW nice pics. I can see why your bf would like 😃 Dr m

I just love a great pair of legs, but had to actually think of why. Stockings do it for me, but if they have a pattern to them they seem sexier. Panty hose are OK, but thigh highs or stockings with a garter belt are especially appealing. As to why, it might have to do with what I know is at the top of those stockings?

With me it's memories. The first girl I felt up wore stockings and garters and I've been hooked ever since. Another big reason is that men are visual animals. I also agree with the attraction being what's atop the stockings. NOTHING feels softer than bare thigh above stockings.

I actually prefer tights/ pantyhose. My mother wore stockings, while my older sister's friends wore tights/pantyhose.

I think that is the reason for my preference. I had huge crushes on my sisters girlfriends.

I think they make a woman look very feminine. I also like that they are a control garment.

They shape a woman's bottom and legs and hide blemishes.

I think that stockings and nice shoes are wonderful, can't get enough of them. The elegance and feeling of walking around in such attire knowing that everyone is looking is at least for me, a huge turn on. Shoes speak volumes about an individual.

Suffice it to say my DH is a leg man. Add to that, I love shoes (especially heels)! So around our house stockings and heels find their way into a lot of our adventures!

Deb

I have always found stockings and heels to be a big turn on. I am old enough to remember the time before pantyhose when women wore stockings and heels and skirts were much longer than today. There was that real sense of mystery about a women's legs hidden under the skirt or dress. A glimpse of the top of her stockings, and the white thigh above was a terrific turn on.

So today, when a woman I am seeing wears stockings or thigh highs with heels it brings back all of those memories and makes for a wonderful adventure as the day and / or evening wears on.

My husband has been a boob man for as long as I've know him, yet he loves stockings and heels. He isn't terribly picky about whether I am wearing pantyhose or stockings and a garterbelt. If anyone should wonder about my choice of avitar, take a look and that pretty much will say it all. My advice to the woman asking about her bf's likes my advice is to do whatever turns him on because turning him on will keep you happy. Once you figure them out, most guys are much easier to please than we are. Enjoy him.

I guess everyone has different tastes. Stockings don't matter to me. Never liked the look of panty hose.

But I've always considered high heels a turn off. For one thing, I've heard many women comment on how uncomfortable they are. Even painful to some. And a miserable woman is not a sexy woman.

I get a laugh out of the number of porn scenes that depict women in very high heels, and they keep them on when they get on the bed or couch. No thanks, I don't want those spikes wrapped around my back.

With heels the legs look better, longer and sexier. With all hosiery, refined and gloriously beautiful. With thigh highs or a garter belt, all about the access. It's also why you silently think "ick" when seeing a woman cross the street in a skirt suit and flip flops...

With heels the legs look better, longer and sexier.

Also, I'm told that it is hard to run away in heels, which (depending on one's viewpoint / mood ) may be a turn-on.

Plumb, that reminds me of when I was in college and one of my professors, who was great, mentioned something in class about how heels innately objectify women. One of the things was that it is harder for a woman in heels to run away, as you said. Another thing was that the wearing of heels raises the angle of a woman's ass in a way that makes the woman's body more accessible for penetration even while she is standing. And people therefore end up defining femininity by vulnerability. Very thought provoking stuff, but I suppose also the typical musings of a college professor (objectification tends to be a real buzz word among the academic crowd, of course). Those were the days.

"One of the things was that it is harder for a woman in heels to run away, as you said."

Disagree, women being shorter in stature (in general) already are at a disadvantage, generally speaking. The visual illusion of having longer legs, along with more powerful buttocks, would tend to create the opposite impression, at least until considering how uncomfortable those shoes often are. That said, there's also a reason they're called "stilettos" and as one person pointed out, they can be dangerous either in bed or in a pinch if actually attacked...one good swing properly placed (say, through the eye socket) in theory could kill a person, or at least ruin his/her day.

"Another thing was that the wearing of heels raises the angle of a woman's ass in a way that makes the woman's body more accessible for penetration even while she is standing."

Her center of gravity naturally shifts up and forward as much as a few inches in heels, with a compensatory shift in her backside up and back to remain balanced. The forward trunk angle created pushes her breasts down and out, creating an overall sensuous, curvy look - which suggests overall fertility, and biologically driven desirability. Guess you could make the observation she was more "vulnerable" to penetration, if you're trying to underscore the violent tendencies of some of the seamier members of society with abnormal behavior problems. If not, it's again an attractive shape enhanced even further by physics.

Also, with a longer looking pair of legs, the figure cuts the illusion of having more slender proportions for her height. She may just want to appear slimmer, or if petite, appear taller for other social reasons.

"And people therefore end up defining femininity by vulnerability. "

That some women choose to dress, among other reasons, to be "attractive" (noticed, with potential for admiration and desire, however regrettably sourced in purely physical sense at first) to potential romantic partners must surely annoy those who would support the feminity-as-vulnerability-as-attraction for the devolved, mal-intentioned male lizard brain stem hypothesis. Or is it that attraction leads to relationship, which sometimes leads to marriage and children, what some would consider the place where any shot at landing tenure goes to die...

Interesting history of them here on Wiki. Originally made to help maintain stability and stay in the saddle while riding a horse, in ancient Persia of all places:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High-heeled_footwear

Personally I love a woman in a garter belt and either white or black stockings. And when that is all she is wearing it is great. I think it is very sexy. The high heels do not do anything for me but I know they do for other men. Different men have different preferences.

It really depends. For me heels higher than one and a half inch, especially the stiletto ones are a big turn off regardless of any kind of stockings and garters that accompanied them

Heels make womens leg muscles stand out, i know that much, which can be pretty hot.

Suds N Buds, don't get me wrong. I agree with you. In actuality, heels simply emphasize the typically attractive aspects of the female form. In the post of mine that you addressed, I had just thought it would be interesting to share a theory about how heels can also create an impression of vulnerability. If you think this is altogether impossible, try wearing some heels to work at an office or out to the pub, as women often do. Maybe then you would get a sense of the vulnerability that may or may not be attached to wearing high heels.

Furthermore, the theory I mentioned does not necessarily stereotype males as the reptile-brained lowest common denominator. The vulnerability of a woman walking around in heels can be an observation that anyone might make, regardless of whether attraction is involved in the equation. If there is attraction, I agree with your point that it is most likely just due to the way heels enhance the appearance of an already attractive woman.

The main idea of the theory that heels make a woman appear vulnerable is just to point out another way that society consists of a hierarchy that places women below men- a patriarchy. Only women are expected to endure the inconvenience of wearing heels around, in order to be more "presentable." It does not mean that men are shallow idiots if they like to see a woman in high heels. It does not mean that women are vain and wrong to try to appear more attractive by wearing heels. No one can deny that it is natural to desire beauty, and to want to look as beautiful as possible.

You seem to suggest that feminism accuses men and women of being shallow and vain for behavior that comes naturally to them. But that would be a misinterpretation of feminism. The goal is merely for all genders and sexualities to be recognized as equal.

I recently saw a great documentary called God Save My Shoes. It explores the psychological significance of women's footwear, and the effect it has on both the wearer and the onlooker. Psychologists, shoe designers, and shoe collectors all contribute their insights. Anyone who commented on this thread will be interested to see that some of the theories suggested here are expounded upon in this film.

One interesting fact from the documentary, for example, is that when a woman puts on a pair of high heels, her breasts and her butt stick out. Everyone knows that. But the effect of this is that it sends a message to a woman's body that she is in courtship mode, which generates more sexual hormones. This can be quite a rush for her. This also tends to make heels a sexual device for a woman who wears them, as well as for the men who may be attracted to her and their biological predisposition to be more attracted to her in this presentation type mode.

Furthermore, the documentary mentions that everyone's feet arch during orgasm. So high heels are also suggestive, even if only on a subliminal level, for the way they similarly arch the feet.

God Save My Shoes - imdb page

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1913030/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

High heels and stockings with a tight skirt are my true fantasy. Watching the lady walk from behind will get me aroused. A glimpse of stocking top is always exciting.

Like most boys at school I was fascinated by the teachers who wore tight skirts and high heels.

Also high heels elevate a lady which is good as I am 1m98 tall.

Stockings and a garter belt of girdle add to a partners attractiveness for me. Love to see her in them at the start of an evening.