Potty training was a horrible idea

I think potty training was totally a bad idea. Wearing diapers make it very easy to get through the day without ever having to find a toilet. On top of that Bathrooms are always not inclusive, and diapers let's me have a stress free life. On top of that, as we get older, we'll end up back in diapers anyway. So how many think potty training was a bad idea to begin with. So we might as well stay in diapers anyway.

I agree! I remember not wanting to be potty trained, my Grand daughter does not either!

That's why I often think, potty training was a bad idea. Eventually as we get older and end up in a nursing home or assisted living facility, we'll end up in diapers anyway. So we might as well stay diapered. Potty Training seems to be a bad idea for some people.

I agree Diaperkat, bad bad potty training., Diapers are more comfy too.

That's why i believe that Diapers are way better than underwear. Diapers give you the freedom to get on with you life without having to stop for a bathroom break. They also have the comfort and padding as well. I realize that eventually were all going to end up back in diapers as we get older. So why not get back in them now, that way as we get older, we get use to being diapered and staying diapered.

I can't honestly say I didn't want to be potty trained. I just never cared whether I was wet or messy. My mother said I never complained about having a soaking wet and filthy nappy and showed no interest in being clean and dry. I just wasn't bothered and couldn't see what all the fuss was about. I was just about clean and dry during the day in time to start school at 5 but wet every night all through my childhood and well in to my teens.

Diaper wearing versus being potty trained in a lot of ways would be better. Urinate where you are at and no need to use the toilet. Take it even further and everyone gets an enema series to clean them out every morning. That way you wouldn't need a toilet during the day. Urinate, change the diaper, and be done. No lost time or productivity by sitting on the pot.

I agree wift you,diaperkat,I wear 24/7

I think potty training a child is terrible. For two or two and a half years. You send a message to the child it is ok to pee and poop in a diaper. Then overnight you suddenly change your direction and tell the child. That using their diapers is bad and using the toilet is good. It is no wonder potty training is stressful for the child and parents. Parents send mixed messages to the child.

It is a good idea if you just want to do peeing in a diaper.

I know my mom had me out of diapers before my brother was born 1 1/2 years after me. Mom didn't want two kids in diapers at the same time. I don't remember this but the story was told more than once.

I guess now I am making up for lost time (probably have used more diapers as an adult by now than I did as an infant. lol

Somewhere along the line I decided to wear a diaper again (teen years) and guess what? I liked it! So here I am, on a Saturday morning sitting at the table in a well used diaper and not wanting to take it off yet. I will in about another hour or so.

Potty training about to kick in for several hours until it is time for bed, then it will be time to reject it for the fun of it. Yea for diapers.

I remember being stubborn about potty training, mostly because I didn't want to leave diapers (I remember even then thinking that they were comfy, lol)

if it were socially acceptable to be incon I would say forget the potty training but since we live in this world I guess I don't mind it in the grand scheme of things.

Mother had simple answer to potty training small sliver soap in bottom then sat on potty soon went

I don't see how soap in the bottom helps in potty training.

I don't see how soap in the bottom helps in potty training.

It is an irritant and tends to make you push.

ChristyS soap sticks carved into the shape of a suppository are a "desperation measure" when other means to induce a BM are not available. I recall using one on my wife when we were away on a camping trip and she became badly constipated. However, they are not recommended for good results!

Potty training for me was only good for number 2.

I tend to agree with you. Public restrooms can be so disgusting. Sometimes it is very difficult to fine one as well. Diapers just allow us to continue with the day's activities without having to stop, find a restroom and take care of business. In addition, for me the comfort and security diapers provide are hard to beat!

It's interesting that "potty training" meant such different things to different people. Over the years, numerous methods and ideas have been employed and written about by so called experts.

I have a few recollections from my childhood and they are bolstered by being around to witness the efforts with younger siblings. In my case, mom and grandma used suppositories and enemas as part of the repertoire to get us kids to poop in the toilet on a regular basis. The threat of an enema was always on our minds, if a BM wasn't produced daily. By the time my younger sisters were to that point, suppositories were far more common than they had been for me and my older sister.

At the time, we were pretty scared of the enema bag. It was a few years before I learned to enjoy those ministrations. We had become pretty well trained by an early age. Disposable diapers were not yet available, and cloth diapers and safety pins were the rule of the times.

I wasn't born when my older brother was toilet trained, but when I was toilet trained, my parents simply had taken note of when I had to go when I was still in diapers, and when those same times arose when I was being trained, they just planted me on the toilet and waited for me to go. My mother knew I couldn't wait to get out of my diapers and into the thin silky underwear like my mother wore, so I was easy. We did the same thing with our two daughters and they were trained fast also. By two years or age, diapers were a thing of the past.

I don't remember too much about going through potty training, but my mother told me that I was really eager to go through with it at the time.

Gradually, it was a lifetime decision I came to regret, all because I yearned to be back in diapers.

I hated being potty trained. I liked to hold back my poops and would much prefer to hole up in a corner, cross my legs and kinda strain or hold until the poo feeling went away. Of course my parents had other ideas about that and as a result of my uncooperative behaviour pretty much every one of my forced sits on the potty was closely supervised until I produced the desired result or got 'help' in the form of a deeply pushed in suppository to produce the desired result. I am sure that if I'd only been left alone quietly to 'go' on my own in my own time, it would not have been anywhere near as traumatic as it was. I hated being watched as I strained and grunted, red faced and glassy eyed, knowing that if I didn't fill the pot up with a big deposit, I was destined to go over someones lap and have their big finger pushed inside me. Scary and horrid then, VERY erotic now.

Attitudes of parents have changed over the years. In the 1950s and before Children were to be trained at an early age. And by any way the parents saw fit. As mentioned before this the suppository/enema method was very common. Being in my seventies, I saw a lot of kids being trained; siblings and neighbor kids (it was the baby boom). Often the jar of suppositories or a loaded enema bag was placed where the child, restrained on a potty chair or seat could see the "encouragement". Often by two or two and a half, what we call accidents, were called misbehavior (although usually bed wetting was acceptable at that age). And all misbehavior resulted a "good" spanking and even more time secured to the potty until you learned better to get with the program. Today most of these methods would be called abusive.

Often the jar of suppositories or a loaded enema bag was placed where the child, restrained on a potty chair or seat could see the "encouragement".

I am sure that if I'd only been left alone quietly to 'go' on my own in my own time, it would not have been anywhere near as traumatic as it was. I hated being watched as I strained and grunted, red faced and glassy eyed, knowing that if I didn't fill the pot up with a big deposit, I was destined to go over someones lap and have their big finger pushed inside me. Scary and horrid then, VERY erotic now.

These two quotes sum up the whole ordeal for me as I remember it. The "encouragement" (suppositories and vaseline) strategically placed on a table right in front of me as I sat there under my mother's close supervision, straining and grunting, and staring at the contents on that table through tearful eyes. It was almost impossible to acceed to her demands under such dreadful pressure, especially with the added verbal reminders such as "The suppositories are right here, so keep trying!" or "You've got another five minutes!" Yes indeed, so traumatic back then, and so incredibly erotic now as a memory. I think the total loss of control over the situation and the sheer inability to do anything about it explains a lot.

I had a younger cousin who literally spent hours strapped to the potty chair. She would call her mother and tell her mom she had done something. Mom would come and let her off the chair. Mom then looked in the pot and there had better be something in the pot. And sometimes there wasn't. Her mom would then paddle her bright red and plop her back in the chair. And there she sat until she completed the task. I remember on a occasions her mom put her lunch on the potty chair's tray so she wasn't allowed to get up even for a meal.

This girl was very stubborn with just about everything. She would do something and get spanked. She would do it again, just to be obstinate. And so she get it with the strap. Sometimes even for a third strapping. She got the most spankings of anyone I knew (and in the 40s and 50s every body got spanked frequently). I think she was about ten or eleven before she got the idea, it was better to behave.

Some more about 1940s-50s potty training. I remember my mother talking to a neighbor about a third neighbor. She was somewhat agast that the neighbor spanked her kid with a full diaper. But the two of them agreed, the kid was too old to be not be using the potty and a spanking was justified. Their only problem was spanking a loaded diaper made clean up harder. And yes, they would clean you up and then paddle you.

Chamed: It's not only that attitudes towards the amount of discipline that parents are allowed to inflict onto children has changed, it is also that material conditions nowadays make it more tolerable to use diapers for longer. Back in those days, diapers were cloth and had to be washed, and there were no washing machines. "Accidents" were also a lot of work to deal with. No wonder mothers preferred to have children trained earlier.

I read somewhere that in earlier times, it was not uncommon to dress small children with nothing below (boys and girls in some kind of dress, no panties or briefs) and have them play outside, so that if some urge happens, it can be relieved on the spot.

Both my wife and my sister think the reason I'm so found of wearing diapers and rubber pants is because my mother never potty trained me. Maybe they're right. My mom thought her children would all learn to use the potty at their own speed when they were ready. I did stop wetting my pants when I was 7 but still wet my bed until I was 17. My two younger sisters both were fully potty trained much earlier, one at 11 and the other at 7. I've read so many accounts on others about the horrors of potty training and knew a few kids who were punished, spanked or whatever until they learned to use the toilet that I'm very glad my mom let me stop at my own speed and when I was ready. I have such vivid and warm memories of my mother pinning my diapers on and cleaning me in the morning after unpinning my wet diapers that I can't imagine what it would have been like to have stopped being diapers at 3 or 4. It was also during those years that I first experienced my sexuality, first masturbated under my diapers and learned how exciting it could be to have my pee-pee touched and stroked by a woman like my mother who washed and powdered my privates before pinning my diapers on and pulling up my rubber pants. Even today, when my wife mentions my diapers and rubber pants, I get aroused.

When you have a puppy you feed it then take it out on the lawn until it goes. This usually doesn't take long. You then give the dog a scratch and a treat and it doesn't take long for it to get the idea. The same can be and has been done with children. Take note of when they are likely to go, then install them on the potty. Don't torture them, if they don't go in a few minutes take them off and wait a few minutes. They will go. All three of my kids were easy to train over a few weeks. I don't remember being trained, but my mom did similar raising a boatload of kids. It isn't that hard.

Being potty trained gives someone the freedom to decide between diapers and underwear or pull ups. It's better to wear diapers because you want to rather than because you need to wear them.

If someone didn't want to be potty trained I would tell them that there might be certain times like going out to dinner or a birthday party when they might not want to wear a diaper. I would tell them that they can wear a diaper if they want to after they are trained.

The training process would be slow and gradual. I would explain that accidents are part of the learning process and not to be discouraged.