I think the trouble with the "Gynecological" forum is that it involves legitimate medical examinations, and that for some people there is a "red line" that other aren't supposed to cross; whereas on other forums such as enemas, diapers, etc, the intent is clearly to play. It seems that many questions go unanswered on this forum, and some users don't return after getting rebuked, so this forum appears to be less popular than others. I haven't been here that long, but I don't check this forum as often, as the lack of a lively and erotic discussion has stifled my curiosity. Rather than offending anyone or having my questions go unanswered, I usually just correspond in private with other middle aged male play docs who have a similar interest.
As far as real medical exams, I see it more as a gray area. I see an attractive female for my PCP, and I'm in very good shape myself. She is always very thorough, and I can still remember the big smile on her face the first time she told me to "drop my shorts". It's a win-win because I look forward to my appointments, which I never miss, and I feel like I'm in good hands. The same goes for my wife: If some doctor finds her attractive or is turned on, who cares, as long as he isn't inappropriate and he gives her quality healthcare. Doctors are like every other segment of society: there is a small number who may be inappropriate, there are some who are excited but remain professional, and there are others who can turn themselves on and off like a light switch. We can beat a dead horse and split hairs, but everyone can believe what they want if that works for them. If you think all doctors are robots, that's fine, if you think all doctors are perverts, that's fine, I'm not here to change your opinion.
I have survived cancer myself, and having gone through that I now appreciate every day, in addition to the fact that I'm now less judgmental. I think it was surviving cancer that brought about the acceptance of my own medfet, as I finally realized that I should enjoy it while I can. I try to not take everything so serioisly and to see the humor in everyday situations, as some people spend their whole lives stresseing out and getting upset. If it ever comes back and takes me someday, I want to be laughing on my deathbed.
I just hope that people can accept other's fetishes even though they may be different, and that we can make this forum a place where anyone can come to share ideas, stories, and experiences. Some people just have less tact when expressing their ideas, but hey, that's a reflection of society in general, as there are more crude and vulgar people that those who are mature, wise, sophisticated and refined. I don't want this post to offend anyone, as I respect everyone's opinion, from those who view gynecological exams as a purely erotic topic, to those who view it as an off-limits topic of a serious nature.