Its not as easy as it seems

Not too long ago a neighbor friend of mine who was a big fan of Health foods, herbs, and Anti-oxidants was reading an article on herbal enemas. He started talking about them and stated that his mother used to give him enemas for just about any reason. I then asked him if he still did them, and he said he said he enjoyed them. I told him to have his wife give him his enemas. He would enjoy them and she might enjoy giving them.

They are now divorced and he is now moved to another city while SHE still live a couple of houses away. During a conversation I was having with her I asked her if her Ex ever approached her about giving him a herbal Enema. She sounded totally repulsed at the idea. And thought of it as a perverted event. Of course I dropped the whole subject. But it struck me as sad that there are some people out there who no matter what you do or ask, will not ever comply with such an act. I have had many a conversation with girlfriends on the subject of enemas, some of which thought it as weird, and some felt comfortable with the aspect of giving and/or receiving. I guess you have to really get past the taboos of it all when approaching a someone about enemas.

That is precisely the reason that many of us frequent this, and similar sites. At least we find that the subject matter isn't repulsive and don't dismiss those with an interest as a bunch of perverts. For many of us, our interests and fetishes are complicated. Many people just don't understand how we can find such enjoyment and pleasure from such a simple procedure.

After all, enemas are about digestion and ultimately our poop. We are supposed to fight, kick, and scream at the first hint that our mom, aunt, grandma, or the nurse are about to subject us to the ultimate humiliation and indignity. Such topics and procedures are to be kept well hidden. Heaven forbid that a few of us might actually find some rest and relaxation, stress relief, and some of the best orgasms ever.

Long live this old fashioned procedure! Maybe those closest to us will come to understand someday. In the meantime, thanks to all who already share in this secret and find their own level of satisfaction and understanding.

It is not easy to get someone to give you enemas i have been looking for many years and finna ly i found a lady that is willing to come to my house and give them .i dont think i will be able to give to her tho

Yes, it can be difficult. I think you have to consider two things before broaching the subject: (1) the basic attitude the person is likely to have about enemas and (2) the state of your relationship with him or her.

It was in the mid-90s the first time I worked up the courage to bring up to a girlfriend at the time the idea of adding enemas to our sexual repertoire. For some reason I trusted her in that regard, and I knew her well enough to have an idea that she may not be repulsed. For unrelated reasons, I was also not really enjoying our relationship by that point and figured it was something of a no-lose proposition. As it turned out, she was open to giving it a try, and I was able to finally share my fetish for the first time. In that case, adding enemas to the equation actually extended our relationship - probably too long.

Later, there was another young lady I dated seriously, and I was quite sure from discussions and our sexual play that she would be entirely repulsed by the idea. In fact, I strongly suspected that my bringing up enemas may very well be the final conversation we ever had. I realized that either we were not going to be sexually compatible or I was not secure in our relationship or, probably, both. It ended very shortly thereafter.

With my (now) wife it was very difficult. She was fairly open to experimenting sexually, but she had hangups when it came to all things anal. Ultimately I had enough faith in her and our relationship that I worked up the courage to bring up my sexual interest in enemas. She was not, and still is not, interested herself, but she indulges me by giving me an enema during sex play once per month or so. She also has no issue with me taking solo enemas as I wish. She even tried taking one a couple of times (which, unfortunately only confirmed her suspected distaste for them).

I have always felt there are four main reasons for doing enemas: 1) soothing relaxation and erotic pleasure 2) cleaning your rectum to get ready for anal play; practical not sexual in of itself 3) role play: BDSM / medfet 4) health reasons like detoxing and colon cleansing. Even with these different types of groups out in the population it is still hard to find others who are into enemas for any reason.

My wife was not into anal play at all- giving or receiving. She did early on get into anal play on me but this occurred over several years and still was not a favorite thing for her to do. Several years into our marriage I put my cards on the table and told her that as part of my anal erotic tendencies I liked to do enemas. The response was one of confusion and wondering how enemas could be viewed in a sexual nature. Over time she accepted that I did enemas for erotic pleasure on my own but never participates. I am open about my doing enemas and will tell her when I do them. And that is where things have leveled off. I really would love for her to participate but doubt she ever will. I don't push it, instead if she ever shows an interest I will jump at the opportunity.

So unless you start very early on in a relationship inquiring about sexual compatibility (likes, fetishes, etc.), you will likely not end up with someone who is into exactly what you are into. It really is best to be very upfront in the beginning so the relationship gets off on a good foundation. But you still have to find someone who is a good match and for those of us who like enemas for whatever reason, it will always be difficult to find someone who is also into enemas.

Thor; You and ProV1 are spot on. I have been communicating with a lady on this network, and was very surprised by some of her responses. She is absolutely correct in as far as her mind set is concerned and I realized that not all the people on this forum and into the kinkier side of the enema or anything else as far as that goes. You must respect the boundaries that others have set for themselves, and approach such subjects with the utmost care, or you might be viewed as some kind of monster.

Yes, this is not a topic that everyone is comfortable talking about or experiencing!

Have to approach the subject very cautiously at first and see what the responses are and if there is any interest whatsoever?

Just another reason why this site is so interesting and uninhibited!

About the only times that I have gotten into a discussion with a girlfriend about enemas was when I discovered an enema bag in her bathroom. It always worked out that she ended up giving me an enema or two.I tried with other women who did not own a bag and it never got anywhere. They were turned off by my question and some actually thought it was disgusting. It is a hard topic to bring up. I feel sorry for the men and women who are married and their mate absolutely refuses to give them what they want and need. They are selfish indeed.

Years ago, I had one GF who told me that she had given an ex-BF an enema because he felt like he needed one at the time. She never really said whether she enjoyed the experience or not at the time, but I did tell her that I myself did enjoy enemas, since she shared the story with me. Subsequently, she did indulge me once with an enema, but unfortunately, I didn't really get the sense that she enjoyed the experience....even though I did. The relationship ended not long after that, so we never got to the point of exploring this aspect of our fetishes and private lives. My current wife knew about my enjoyment of enemas before we married, only because I discussed it with her. At the time, she said she was fine with it, and even did give me a couple enemas after we married, but she did a switcharoo on me, and decided fairly early on that she really didn't care for enemas.....either giving or receiving. Although we're still together, it has been a major disappointment for me. Hence, I'm strictly solo now, and only when I have the private time to indulge myself.