Would you come visit as a group

If I were to invite 20 people who I chat with in the Zity chat rooms, to come and visit, as a group, would you do it. All expenses paid. Do you think we could sit eye to eye and have the same conversations we do in chat? Would you be comfortable? Would you have the intestinal fortitude to do it? Just curious

Absolutely. There should be no reason why you cannot express in person what you do in chat, unless of course you do not mean what you say or have something to hide.

I had the same feeling a month or so back where I put in a thread about having a med-fet seminar - unfortunately, theer were no responses :-(

Why not?

Sure, I would not have a problem with this at all.

Bill

Sounds like a lot of fun and would be a first for me!

I'd have to see the guest list first.

If it was the group I usually talk to, I would.

Shall the list include spouses and SO's?

I'm certain that the dynamics would be completely different if conversations were to be held eye-to-eye. The anonymity would be gone to begin with and then invariably physical differences and appearances between those present would come into play. There would be all kinds of subtle and unconscious plays for dominance or reticence when it came to talking to a group. The way everyone was dressed would be indicators of status, as would language skills, body language, age and physical appearances (like hair styles, shaved or three day stubble, over-under weight etc) in general.

At least on a chat forum, members are free of all those limiting constraints and can concentrate on expressing their thoughts, not having to worry if all these other factors will come into play, which they invariably will in a group.

All of that said, it would probably be fun for many members. But not for me.

I also agree with Grace. 😉

Absolutely, an expenses paid visit with medfetters? When & where?

Why not? It would be a great experience.

The allure of the EFEST events of the past, was that attendees could come and go at will. While some may have been very shy, skeptical, or nervous at first, I don't recall anyone leaving before the end of the day's events. While enemas may have been a primary focus, Medfet, BDSM, and some D&s, were all topics that were covered. It was a very educational and enlightening event without any threatening or other distasteful behavior.

It's too bad that these events no longer occur out here in the west. The personal interaction, discussions, and demonstrations were all worth the time and effort. While some LTR's likely were spawned from these events, one could enjoy each others company and perhaps some role-play, without the burden of commitments that might interfere with others daily lives and professions.

If a group meeting is workable, I'd love to be in attendance.

YES , Why not . I have met in person some good friends from here . I am glad I did . It is a breath of fresh air to talk to people about the fun adult things . Thanks to the ones I have met and hope to visit again with .

Agracier in his usual thoughtful post (#10) worries about the loss of anonymity and the exposure to physical and social differences if kinksters were to emerge from the shadows and meet up. Of course many already meet on an individual basis, but I suspect that quite a few others would feel more comfortable about doing so and would feel less pressure in a group situation.

One of the great benefits of seeing and talking to others who share your kink, especially when you are relatively new to it, is that you realize that your fellow kinksters are regular people just like yourself, instead of being the weird, psychologically deformed characters that many outsiders no doubt consider them to be!

There would be a lot of variables to consider...

Would there be an exam?

Yes, I would, but I would just want to know who would be there first, and hopefully it would be other people that I've already had conversations with about realistic obgyn exams. I wouldn't be nervous, as I'm at a point in my life where I'm over the embarrassment and I accept my medfet. Lastly, if it was all play docs that got together, I guess we could share stories and ideas, but if there were females, it would be nice if they were somewhat attractive...

Sure. I've done it before. But only if there were clinics as well as conversation.

I would be happy to attend! In person, many of our qustions would be visually answered, and lying about appearance would be very difficult! Being able to see and give, "Body Language" cues would also be nice!

Yes I would ! I bet there are some fun people that would give me some new and fun ideas to try . Life is short ,, so why not !!!!!!!

Of course; it would effectively be a munch, and I've attended plenty of those.

My only concern would be the all expenses paid part of it- call me cynical, but I can't help but think that with someone else picking up the cheque comes expectation...

Ah, it sounds very interesting, but I would have a great problem because of my English 😢

Sure. Why would that make a difference

I met with a member and we discussed fetishes with no hesitation or hangups - but we had talked extensively over several years prior and knew each other well. I think in a group it would be a bit more uncomfortable at first. There would probably be some hesitancy and awkwardness at first, but once the ice got broken, it would be fine.

I went to Efest in Florida last year and found it easy to become comfortable around folks who share our enema interests. Beside just hanging out with others, there were demonstrations in front of the group and of course people hooked up someone or were already playmates, so many room enemas were given. It was a 3 day hotel event and it worked well.

Like someone else posted many of us are getting to an age where humility and embarrassment are of less concern than quality of performance or appearance. I would welcome an opportunity to meet with others. Although I don't favor conditions I think a blanket statement of purpose and expectations is important. My experiences in the chat rooms has been limited because there seems to be a core group of participants and there is a lot of chit chat. If this is going to be a Zity cocktail party-that's one expectation. If this is going to be a Zity meetup to talk about medfet issues (real or unreal) that's another expectation. I think once the expectations are determined you will have a cohesive group on which to build.

Wow

I had to sit back an think about it for quite a moment.

I would love to be together with a group of people who think alike an share the same passion as me.

But I think I would still decline on a group invitation.

Though that would be for my very own unique reason.

That I prefer to think… and probably think a while longer than most would care to wait to try and make my answer as understandable as possible.

I do not mean language skills as English is not my native tongue.

Rather I am thinking about expressing my feelings correctly and THAT is something I find extremely difficult in any given language.

With this “handicap” I place on myself I would not be talkative enough in a “group” that has different dynamics than a one - on - one conversation.

Also…

since “ y'all " are overseas and there are - among others - still so many Corona restrictions in place I doubt that I would find myself in need of having my expenses paid for any time soon😜

Kind Regards

classic

Yes, i would, i'd also request to be enemaed and sodomized by one or a few willing, in front of any that wanted to watch.

I think you can have the same conversations, because you know already about the people. You can check their profiles before you meet them, so you know what, if any, common ground you have.

It could potentially be turned into an acting out of med scenes (& maybe other scenes) that people who love to both watch and “preform” would enjoy.

I wouldn't travel any further than I could drive, though depending when, I could stay overnight.