I've done some play dom and sub stuff over the years but now have a new friend through a NSA website. Having met a few times and exchanged a bunch of messages (we live apart as both have domestic commitments), he now wants to be my slave. I'm happy to be the Mistress but have two questions (and welcome answers to any more that you can think of!). First, we are alternating Dom Sub messages (using Mistress/Slave titles) with work and home related messages (using our names, to keep them separate). This seems to be OK but does anyone have any experience of maintaining this dual role long term? Secondly, he wants to be beaten hard (not seen him since he came 'out' as a slave). He has terrible pressures in his life and I can understand him wanting the release. He has a safeword but I feel I need to make him sob (for his sake - I'm no sadist) to give him release which might mean cautiously ignoring his use of a safeword. Any tips on how to judge this?