He's willing to receive!!! Now what? Lol

Ok, I haven't had a "real" enema with real enema kit, only impromptu device.

I told my husband about my new fetish, shortly after. He had no interest, but I can do what I want.

However, I've casually brought it up here and there hoping to peak his interest. It worked. I just talked to him on the phone, and since I am at work, I had to be descrete but found a way to tell him that the package (which he knows is the kit) is due on the 3rd. I asked if he'd like to see some instructions or if he was just going to trust me. After some additional discussion, he'll trust me but will also review instructions if I want. I found some good info on enematips.com, for a receiver. I think i will send those to him and say:

"When my kit comes in, it will be my first real one. So I kinda think of it as in a Virgin kinda way.

I would love to give you your first and vice versa. However, If you're not into giving... I'll respect that. If you never want another, I'll respect that too. (Doubtful though). 😃

So my fantasy is almost a reality... Now what? Tips advice? He's pretty vanilla so I need to take it easy. I don't think he'd be into any kind of "dress up". So, mainly tips on administering and making it as pleasing as possible, please!! I really want this to continue!

Before all have a drink before , to make you both a bit dizzy and more relaxed .

Prepare lube , KY is efficient .

Warm up the room where it will be done .

Prepare cushions for the head and for under the knees if laying on the back ,

if laying on the ground use a camp mattress or the same as used for fitness ,

made of fhigh density foam and one half inch thick .

The receiver have to be warmed up too , give oral while the results appears lube the anus ,

massage it , turn around , slide one finger in pushing some lube in at the same time and again and again ,

when the finger enter with ease , the receiver is ready , if the anus is like eating , swallowing your finger ,

and moaning or like he is waiting for more . . . , allways make the anus comfident with the insertion , after the finger slide the nozzle

Slow down your hughs , cuddles , oral and ... and let the fluid flowing slowly , sensually , erotically ,

do like when going upstairs step left up , step right up , step left up and again and again . . .

let increase the arrousal of the receiver while filling up , the best is making him(her) orgasming when the "belly" is full .

At the end of your turn , and emptied ask him if he will whipe you clean like a baby , he will be turned into the dominant and leader side .

The fluid : tapwater at 113°F. mix baking soda ( 0.5 Oz. per Quart Gallon ) or cooking salt ( 0.32 Oz. per Quart Gallon )

no soap , nothing else , must be soft , erotic , sensual , be sure of a slow flow .

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Hi Rita. I see that you are fairly new to our site--Welcome.

The best thing is to make the procedure as sexual as possible, rather than clinical. Make sure you are both totally nude. Show excitement as you are preparing the equipment. You might start with some petting and deep kissing. Tell him you have to lube up his behind and you will see if stroking his prostate is at all pleasant to him. Slowly insert the nozzle (preferably the vaginal one) and start the flow very slowly. As the enema progresses, you might want to rub his body all over and give kisses to it, showing how much you are enjoying giving it. He's gonna see how excited this makes you, even if he is not so into it.

After he has expelled and all is cleaned up, take him to bed and screw his brains out. Every husband wants to know what turns his wife on. He will make the connection that letting you give to him makes you hot as hell. That is an excellent start. Later, you can ask if he will give one to you, with your coaching him. If he will, make sure you show extreme pleasure while he's giving it to you. Again, afterward screw him silly. Tell him how intensely hot that made you. Even if he never has a liking for this procedure, he will certainly remember that it makes you want intense sex. You are on your way. Keep us informed what happens.

Rita,

I think you've passed the biggest hurtle. He's not grossed out. That's a big win right there! Don't forget that!

And I agree with Jimmyt44. Make sure he sees how much it turns you on. He won't be able to help getting turned on himself. If he gets really turned on (and gets really hot sex), how can he not be interested in either giving or receiving. Even if you only get him interested in one or the other, you've made another big gain, right?

And who knows. Maybe if you get him into giving, maybe in 6 months or so, he'll want to receive.

Sorry, I may not have been clear. I'm giving to him. 😃

Hopefully today is the day. He is aware that my plans are for it to be today. He was kinda grossed out about the scat issue... but I reminded him of Sunday morning (last time he was in my rear) and that "that" wasn't the focus and same with this.

Rita

If he's had anal sex with you, then it's his turn to try something in his butt. I think that's what you're saying. Then he should be at least willing to try. Just go slow and gentle I'm sure you'll both be fine. Once his prostate gets a "shower", maybe he'll change his mind and ASK for another one. 😃 One can hope and dream. LOL Keep posting! And of course, good luck!

I received today my two fuel inline pumps , nice I can connect them directly on the dildo nozzle (from Doc. Johnson) .

I hoped to have a stronger "spurt" when squeezing with new pumps as with Higginson enema bulbs , not a big difference , good stuff , but not what I hoped to find .

Rita

...Once his prostate gets a "shower", maybe he'll change his mind and ASK for another one. 😃 ...

Yes! interesting effect enemas have is he'll be aroused for a day or two afterwards.

I think that the in line bulb doesn't give any bigger spurt that a high enema bag taken in spurts. HOWEVER, it is exciting to see a woman pumping it into a guy or gal.

Rita, any updates on what happened??

Rita, any updates on what happened??

Well, I loved it! Every part of it! He seemed to tolerate it and he atleast enjoyed the attention I gave him through the process. He hasn't said yes to another one, but he didn't say never again either. So, I'm sure he will be willing again, and this will just give me more time to get more toys and learn more too. 😃

Good for you RIta! I see more enemas in his future. 😃 Maybe let him give to you. If you loved giving, I bet you'll love receiving. If receiving didn't turn him on, maybe giving will. What better way to learn by seeing what receiving feels like. If nothing else, it's bound to make you a better giver. Keep the updates coming!

That special attention will probably be what allows you to keep giving him enemas. He may even ask for it.

I guess I responded too soon. Last night he agreed to be my "willing participant".

He took the first 2 quarts like a champ! On the 2nd session, he took 1&1/2 until he got cramps...which didn't quickly pass. :/

It was still a GREAT night though!

Now I want my turn.

Rita -

You are an inspiration to everyone on this site. Keep us posted on your exploits!!!!

From "Tolerate" to 'Willing participant" in two days. Now you want to receive! I totally agree with "eroticenemas." Keep the posts coming!

Cramps are just part of the whole experience. So long as they don't get too intense. Just part of the control/domination/humiliation aspect of enemas.

Don't go too fast. Sounds like you have very exciting times ahead. But don't push the limits too much. An "accident" could put a major damper on your new found fun. Or too intense cramps, etc.

Rita your a very lucky woman and your hubby is a very lucky man to have you. It's great to see him interested in your kinks and to participate. As you give him the special attention and go slow he will want to continue to see and feel all the fun things that you have in store for him....and you never know he may surprise you with some of his own.

Men are really quite simple to figure out. If there is going to be sex at the end of a process, they are really easy to convince. I'm sure that my husband would not be doing enemas on his own, but if I want to give him one he's fine because he knows that there will be a nice reward for him later.

Make it a big deal!!! But don't push to hard.

And treat him and you to some great sex

Emom has nailed it!!

Emom is right, but also women are far more complex than men. My husband is really easy to figure out and I know how to get him to do what I want. Not only that but he's happy about it too.

Please do not make the mistake of using sex as a reward for participating -- it may work -- it opens up a door that most really want to go down -- once sex IS the reward and not part of a loving relationship - then we (guys) can cut the cord and seek the reward elsewhere ... just saying ...

Just make the experience the most fun ever -- do all that turns him on - give some head, kiss his nipples, whisper to him, whatever you know that is a turn on -- always tell him how turned on YOU are ... pussy wet, nipples hard, clit pulsating and you can't wait to ,,.

Go for it!

I don't believe Emom is talking about using sex as a simple reward each and every time. More like a catalyst. I.E. promise sex if he'll try it. Chances are he'll be willing to try an enema to please you even if he isn't sure about it. But along the way, he might find out he enjoys enemas too. If instead he finds the enema a turn off, then no need to repeat. By promising sex, it might also get him to associate sex with enemas.

Emom has it pretty much right. It is not that I would withhold sex until I get my way, but to borrow a phrase I heard somewhere - "I have the boobs and the pussy, so I make the rules." I don't have much trouble getting him to give me an enema from time to time but when I want to see the nozzle in his ass, it sometimes takes a bit of persuasion. It is not his favorite. I need to give him something he really wants in return. Isn't that how it works?.

NmaGirl7 is right...find what REALLY turns him on. A blow job, etc. and use that SOMETIME to entice him. Don't over do it or he might object that he is being used, etc... Most guys won't but don't push your luck. Slow and easy wins the race.

Good luck!

Exactly! You can use your assets (including your ass) as persuasion or reward, but don't make him do something he really does not want to do. That only breeds resistance and eventually removes it as a bargaining tool. Negotiating for something he would rather not do but is willing to trade is quite different from making him do something he hates.

What I get from reading past stories here from previous members is some (men and women) will not accept being given an enema for fun no matter how you sugar coat it.

Go for it

So glad for these posts. I'm trying to talk someone into some anal play and add an enema to the mix.

I hope you can convince him it is so much more fun when you both give and receive