Maybe this will help

I've been into enemas since I can remember. I've fantasized about giving/getting enemas from my wife, but could never quite get up the nerve. Or figure out how even to bring it up. Well, I mentioned I wanted to give her a douche. She said only if she got to give me an enema. 😃 I kept the subject alive, mentioning it a few more times. Each time she asked if she should buy an enema kit and of course I said Yes! But she never did. I figured this was a time that as the man, she wanted me to take the initiative. So one night, I was at Costco and decided to buy a 6-pack of enemas. (That way, it wouldn't be just a one-time thing) And yes, Costco sells enema 6-packs.

She just gave me my second enema. And I got her to agree to take an enema in exchange for me taking an enema. 😃 I mistakenly called her douche an enema, so that's how I got that started, but I'm not sure exactly what I said to get her to agree to that. In any event, I'm very exited that I'm going to give her an enema. I'm sure it doesn't turn her on nearly as much as it turns me on, but we've had some intense sex after I expel and she certainly enjoys that. Maybe once the 6-pack is gone, I can suggest buying an enema bag so we don't have to keep buying enemas.

Anyway, I wanted to share my story. I don't want anybody critiquing my approach. But if it helps anyone else get their girlfriend/wife or for that matter, boyfriend/husband, I would appreciate hearing about that.

Good for you mma. May you get to buy a bag real soon.

Thanks Miss Stress. I do have my own bag. Actually a couple. But despite the recent success, I don't want to tell her I've been into enemas for a long time. At least not yet. I've told her I've had enemas before, but not gone into any detail.

An update. I gave my wife an enema! 😃 Unfortunately, it didn't go quite as well as I had hoped. It was going really well. I lubed up her butt. That was a lot of fun for both of us. She said it felt "really weird" with my (gloved) finger lubing her up. I gave her the enema and she was holding it. Everything was going well. I was rubbing every inch of her and both of us were getting really turned on. But then, all of a sudden, she couldn't hold it and had to make a dash for the toilet. There wasn't any "mess" but there was some water that went somewhere besides the toilet. Certainly not as bad as it could have been, but nevertheless, a downer.

But even in failure, perhaps there can be success. First of all, she wasn't totally grossed out. In fact, she said she's willing to try it again sometime! And I think she seriously will be willing to try again. Additionally, I think I have an idea to make the next time go better and at the same time, "advance" things.

I think I'll suggest using a bag. My rational is:

1. The disposable enemas have chemicals to make you poop when you can't. But the primary purpose here is not really to make us poop. That's just a by-product. So it would be better to use a bag and water instead of chemicals and a disposable enema.

2. It's best to avoid using chemicals anyway.

3. There will be more to the douches than a quick "squirt." I.E. a process. (I know to use separate bags for enemas and douches)

4. We don't have to keep buying enemas.

I can volunteer to go first."Try it out" for her. Of course I already know what a bag enema feels like. Maybe I can tell her the last enemas I've taken were from a bag and I remember them as more gentle, which is actually true too.

In re "getting her to let you give her an enema".To quote Ogden Nash:"Candy is dandy but liquor is quicker."

Thanks for sharing, and I have this fantasy, too, but I am just too scared to bring it up. I don't know how it will come up naturally, but I will stay aware and be ready if the opportunity arrives. Thanks!

I believe I "precipitated" this. I brought up prostate exams and anything potentially related I could think of. So it was a process, not a single conversation. Also, I still consider it to be a "work in progress" because I've only got a fleet from her. I want to get a new bag and see what she thinks about that. After the holidays when it's cold and nothing else to do but "play" seems like the perfect time!

I've had 3 wives and one student nurse give me large volume enemas and there is nothing more sexually stimulating. If they are in states of undress, it is all the more erotic.

I have also yet to bring the subject but I am working for up in bed with small anal play. I told her what I wanted for Christmas, a prostate messager. She was all smiles and so was I. I can only hope. Now, how do I find way to say that I will need a good treatment cleaning before it's used on me?

So did you get what you wanted for Christmas Sub701? If you did, then that means she's interested in anal play and it's game on. I.E.you already have a reason to bring up enemas. Just tell her you want to be cleaned out so there's no residual to make a mess (and ruin the fun) with the prostate massager. An enema bag can be an accessory to the prostate massager if you will. If all goes well, I'm thinking you (and of course her) will get all worked up with the enema alone and won't get to the prostate massager. If all doesn't go well, then the enema will just be a cleanout for the prostate massager. Seems like a "win-win" situation to me. Good luck, and of course let us all know how it goes.

Sub 701,

Most of the prostate stimulators direct you to take a small bulb enema, or a Fleet, before using their product. It's cleaner to have the rectum and sigmoid emptied before backyard play. It's just a small step up to ask for a bag full.

Christmas gifts: NO, I did not receive the gift that I wanted. I did buy a prostate massager but found that it was too short and kept slipping out. I want to try a restraining devise or a different tool. I'll take recommendations? Frustrated...

If you want the very best massager, and one that will not fall out, try your girlfriend's fist!

I like your idea, but my partner would never go for this either

How do you know?

Give her gloves and lube and have her work it in.

How can you be so sure jesj62? I agree with Switchablesusie. I would have said the same thing about my partner as well. And sure, she's not fully into it, but she gets some enjoyment from giving me an enema. Not nearly as much as I do receiving, but she isn't repulsed by it like I thought she would be.

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I also think suggesting a Fleet enema before anal sex is a great way to introduce someone who has never experienced it before.

Buy the bag. if she shows interest in you giving her or you receiving a enema , you have already won a major battle. It is going to be you're job not to screw it up!

Give her the enema she needs, be loving and caring. Get pillows place under hips make her comfortable. Ease nozzle in carefully, use lube and finger her ass a little.

Begin the flow and if she gets cramps stop flow until they go away. Gently massage belly left to right work water up her colon. Then begin again only when she's ready. Show concern like you want to be treated when you get one. Hug her tell her you love her. Most important tell her thank you for letting you give her an enema.

If she is enjoying the enema caress her, give her a kiss, whisper in her ear " I love you honey". Squeeze her breast gently and rub her nipple a little bit. If she enjoys it keep on.

This can work both ways. When she is giving you enema, tell her how good it feels and what a great job she is doing. Show her how to prepare the enema.

What ever you DO NOT embarrass her.

As a gay man who's been out since I was 18, and always knew I liked men, I've had a lot of fun---one night stands, tricks, relationships, boyfriends, but really no one who enjoyed enemas as much as I do. I did date one guy in the mid 1990's who loved for me to administer really large hot soapy enemas and make him hold them, then watch him expel, we had a lot of fun, but I've always wanted a long term relationship with a guy who enjoyed enemas. Now my last boyfriend of 6 years knew of my enjoyment of administering enemas, and though he didn't like them, did let me give him a few!!!