Not so much into anal play

Is it a dealbreaker to not be that into anal play? I've had one play exam, and the play doc spent a lot of time focusing on anal and giving an enema, but I want really into it. Now, that's not to say I'm not receptive to it, but I'm not interested in making it the main focus of an exam.

It really seems that most medfet folks I've encountered are mainly into the anal play. Are there any play docs that aren't? Any patients feel similar?

EVERYTHING is optional. Negotiate your scene and set your hard and soft limits.

A Playdoc should be willing to tailor the exam to only include what you like. I've had patients first ask me if my exams always include enemas since they did not want one. Ask them.

You are not alone. Whether as playdoc or patient, anal does nothing for me.

Good communication between the play Doc and the patient is so important. If you don't want to do something, you should not feel like you have to, just to have the exam experience. Some people like anal and some do not. For me, it depends upon my mood and upon the play Doc as well. I would always want to try something at least once if it were not one of my hard limits, just to see if I liked it or not.

Anal play should not be a dealbreaker for most play Docs.

Lady Teddy, Pacific Northwest, USA

I have no interest in enemas. Certainly should not be a dealbreaker. Surely both "doc and patient" should derive pleasure and satisfaction from the experience. I think it's important to discuss with your potential playdoc what you would like to happen during your ideal exam.

It's important that your examiner knows your likes, dislikes and hard limits.

Every playdoc and play patients should have their own set of checklists. I have mine too and I find that my Rule #6 is applicable here:

"Talk and ask your partner anything and everything.Be open and honest and respect their opinions/ answers. No is a perfectly reasonable answer but no answer is not perfectly reasonable. So, after a particular incident, if you do not get a comfort feeling, let it be known (along with any decisions you have made) rather than not saying anything and keeping everyone in the dark"

You should be able to ask your play partner up front what procedures are included and what are not. Use that to cross check against your fetish list. Obviously, there has to be a decent number of common interests both of you enjoy, otherwise you will not be conversing in the first place. There will be some in the doc's list that are not in the patient's list. You need to be open minded as to whether or not you would want to try any of those - if you have hard reservations/limits, tell the doc that for the play exams, those procedures will make you feel very uncomfortable and you would rather not have them. There will also be some on the patient's list that the doc may not have covered - ask the doc and see if they are comfortable including those in the play exam. The worst answer you can get is a no.

If for any reason, the play doc does not agree to drop something that is a definite no for you or not perform something that you absolutely want, feel free to walk out and try out a new play doc who is more receptive to your needs. The play exam is meant to be pleasurable to all parties, not just what one person wants, even if it goes against what the other enjoys. The reason most of the play docs include anal play is because a lot of the play patients are anal erotic. That is not to say all of them are and play exam is not a Model-T - it is and should be tailored to the needs of both the play partners.

PlayMichael - who believes in fully customized and pleasurable play exams