Bear down

Are you asked to "bear down" just prior to receiving a recto-vaginal or rectal exam? My wife usually is ask but the finger is shoved in before she gets a chance to.

When I went with my wife the doc did say "bear down" to her. She didn't get much warning either. I think they typically insert their finger as they say it.

My wife's gyn just says "push"

Those are the greatest words any man can utter to a woman going through hormonal shift!

"Bear down now."

When conducting an exam I inform the patient to push as though she's having a bowel movement.

This is requested in order to "expand" the anus, and more easily allow insertion of the examining finger.

Yes, my doc says this while doing my external exam. I think it is to look at how the area changes as I push.

My doctor never says to do anything. She just says "one finger gently rectally" then does it.

I've wondered if they ask us to bear down so we won't clench.

None of the doctors I have been examined by have ever said anything before or during the rectal part of my exams. Except "Lets get this part over with now"

I was with my wife prior to her sugery a few years ago...when the doctor came in and did a quick exam of her...he did a pelvic and rectal on her. I did not actually see what he was doing because he had his hand under the sheet...but new when he was doing the rectal because he did say to her to 'bear down"

My wife's doctor has asked her to bear down during her first rectal exam a few years ago. We have moved since then and she told my wife to push recently.

My doctor goes "ok time for the rectovaginal exam...please bear down against my finger" Once I start to bear down his finger slides in.

Yes i get asked to

Not "bear down," but a male doctor my wife used to go to said, "excuse me," just before he pushed his finger up her ass.

My current gyn does say that, but I've had other doctors and some have and some haven't.

I am always asked to bear down during the internal vaginal as well as the rectal vaginal and rectal exam. I am also asked to tighten the PC muscles.

Yes my Doctor asks me to bear down.

Bearing down causes the muscles in the anus to relax and open up. There is much less resistance of the sphincters when you bear down and this make insertion of fingers easier and less uncomfortable for the patient receiving the exam.

I've never had this said to me. But the idea of it does interest me

Yes, my girlfriend's Dr said "bear down" at the same time he inserted his finger.

I went with my wife to an appointment for her ibs, she was told to lower her pants, spread her legs a shoulder width apart and bend over the table chest flat. He spread her cheeks and touched her hole and sId bear down,I was very surprised how fast he pushed his finger in.

Yes,I have ALWAYS been asked to BEAR DOWN,as if I was having a BM,then I feel HER finger slide right in!!

Yes. it really helps.

I *have to* bear down to be able to minimize pain, but unfortunately no real doctor has ever asked me to or even given me much of a chance to.

Yes though my first gyn exam she said "Bear down for me." and my thought process was "What does she mean by.. Holy shit what's she doing."

I guess this 'bear down' thing is a big surprise to women at the first time.

My obgyn will change gloves after the bimanual exam and while he is lubricating his fingers, he'll look me in the eyes and say something along the lines of "ok, now we're going to do the recto-vaginal. I'm going to lubricate your anus and then I want you to bear down like you're trying to move your bowels." Then I'll feel his cold slimy finger at my rectum and feel him spreading the lube and then he'll go "take a deep breath and bear down hard...." as I do his (large) finger slips into my rectum. he'll examine me rectally and then he'll insert his other finger vaginally and complete the recto-vaginal

Yes it truly makes the exam more comfortable.

I've never had a gyn do a recto vaginal in all the gyn exams I've had. Was only one time in the ER I was ever penetrated anally and it was completely unexpected with no warning. But it was over faster than I could even gasp!