Separating buttocks

I know that it is not normal procedure for younger women to have a rectal exam at the gynecologist, but does the doctor still usually separate your cheeks and at least visualize the area? If so please provide details and what the dr. would say when doing this if they alert you at all.

They see the anal area just fine when they examine the external genitalia with our legs spread. Usually we're in stirrups and they just ask us to separate our legs and put them in the stirrups. It's not rocket science.

I don't know why it is, but most men seem to be under the impression that the gynecologist keeps up a running discourse about every little facet of the exam. For the most part, they don't. If it's a woman's first exam, they may walk through it step by step. My doctor tells me at the start of the exam "You're going to feel me touch you now" and when she starts taking the PAP smear she says "You may feel some cramping" and that's about it. I've had male doctors that said less.

I think part of the reason guys expect that kind of narrative is that they learn much of what they do learn about gyn exams from reading textbooks and looking at other educational (sometimes "educational") materials, and there is some suggestion that regular, constant communication with the patient is helpful for keeping her at ease. In reality, that could cut both ways. Not every patient would find that comforting, and it's not every doctor's style.

I received my first Gyno exam when I was sixteen and the Doctor did a rectal exam at that time. Over the years, most of Doctors have chatted during the exam, usually about everyday things, like the weather or how my dogs/garden are doing. During my recent Gyn exams, the Doctor, who is a neighbor of mine, normally chats about horses and what is growing in the garden. She would see me riding by her house on my horse, so she knows that I ride.

I don't think that this really answers the question that was orginally asked. However, I just thought that I would mention that most of my Doctors have been chatty.

Lady Teddy, who loves a good ride 😃

I hate chatty doctors. I want them to pay attention to what they are doing.

I neither need nor want to be entertained or distracted during an exam.

^^^^Amen, sistah!

Aside from my first few exams my gynos haven't really talked to me much about what they are doing. Usually just small talk if anything.

Excellent point, Ladies. One of my new Doctors, has a one page summary of his life, hobbies, general interests in every exam room and taped onto a wall. This might be a different way to get around the not being chatty or not question.

Lady Teddy, who loves a good exam, chatty or silent

Yes, my NP will slightly spread my cheeks apart to check me visually. She'll just say something like "I'm going to spread your cheeks apart real quick" and it is quick-maybe 2 seconds at the most.

Personally, I prefer fairly chatty docs or at least ones who tell me what they're going to do. I'm not particularly fond of fingers, speculums, and the like being shoved in there without so much as a warning. Small talk is fine too, but not a requirement. Only one doctor I've ever had has made small talk with me.

You're nice and open just by being in the stirrups. While I've never had them do a complete visual inspection of my ass, I have had them touch etc. Like the others my guy is pretty quiet, for the first few times after after my kids we talked about them but thats about all. Juat kinda gets down to business lol

Separating buttocks and inspect perineum and anus is part of the common exam

I like to use surgical tape to spread my play patients buttocks open.

They tell me it tickles them..

Not really on topic, but having your cheeks spread open or opening your patients is a HUGE turn on when I'm playing. Feeling that cool rush of air on a place that is normally protected is so erotic. We even use a Mastoid Weitlaner Retractor with blunt prongs. Here is a link to one offered on Ebay (Not by Me) http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=400518737426 . Great for keeping those cheeks opened up wide!

I asked a former girlfriend this question once. We were both very into playing doctor with one another so we asked each other all about our own experiences at the doctors office. She said that she was at the pediatrician office once when she was a high school senior and that the doctor was new to her and that he did spread her cheeks and look at her anus but did not touch there or insert a finger. She said that since then, she's gone to a gynecologist and that such exams probably occur while she's in stirrups.