Pelvic exam or PAP from new doc

Have you ever gone to have a pelvic exam or PAP test from a male doctor that you have never seen before and you don't even know what the doctor looks like? Or have you gone to see a new male doctor for another reason and once he saw you, he decided to help you and take care of your annual exam while you were there? If so, were you nervous or excited being prepared for the exam?

I am in the Air Force and my wife has all her routine appointments at the base hospital or base clinic and she does have a primary care manager (PCM)(military doc). He should be the one to take care of her routine appointments but the way of the military and deployments means that a lot of times her PCM is gone and she is seen by a different provider. She said that when she goes for her annual pelvic exam and her PCM is gone, she builds up a lot of anxiety and she gets nervous even hours before the appointment. How it works in the Air Force clinic is that she is ushered from the waiting room by an Airman to the exam room. The Airman then asks her health questions and then tells her to undress completely and put on the gown open in the front. The Airman then leaves while she gets undressed. A few minutes later after she is naked and wearing only the gown and sitting on the table, the Airman comes back in the prepare everything for the exam. So there is my wife sitting there completely naked except for a gown and not knowing what lucky man is going to enter the room and then tell her spread her legs for him and then let him open her with a speculum and then also let him put his fingers in her. She said that she gets very nervous and wet waiting there in anticipation. The last time this happened, the doctor turned out to be a guy that she sees in the base gym a lot. I bet he never thought that he would get the chance to see her with her legs spread or to even spread her apart to see her pink!

I dont know if I post this here. Sorry if its in the wrong spot. I am new here. Last year my wife saw a new obgyn (male) for the first time. I wasn't able to go with her because I had to work. She was told by the receptionist that made the appointment the doctor would not do an exam on the first visit. When the doctor came in he told her he would go ahead and do an exam if it was ok with her because it had been over a year since her last exam. She said she didn't know what to do so she said ok. He did the regular exam. When I got home from work she could not stop smiling when she was telling me about it. She acted like she liked it but when I asked her if she did she said no.

My wife has always seen female doctors. Recently she went in for an appointment to get help with a urology problem. A male doctor walks in and starts talking with her and my wife stopped him and asked where her regular doctor was. He excused himself and went and got her regular doctor. She explained that they were training med students and if she wanted help that day the guy was going to do all the work while she observed. Needing help my wife gave in but was very angry and felt bullied.

Yes, I've frequently seen new docs, male and female, who have given me exams without prior knowledge of what they look like. Such is the life of using military healthcare providers. It's not too bad, though.