Health care professionals and kinkiness

I was just wondering if there is a correlation between health care professionals and an appeal toward bizarre tastes of a sexual nature due to their field of work. In my younger days I did a stint in a hospital as an admin but I met many nurses and doctors and those with whom I had developed a good friendship all showed interest in kinky sex... Many of them didn't have a problem admitting their sexual kinks.

I know there are a few health care professionals on this forum: Could you confirm that because of the field you work in (where you see a lot of pain and suffering and also death) you have a different outlook on life which in turn influences your sexual preferences?

Thanks

As one in the healthcare management field and a former vet tech I feel quite strongly that one has nothing to do with the other. I didn't choose my profession because of my proclivities, I chose it because it's what I love to do. I would pose an alternate theory; that there seems to be more kinky people in the medical professions because they can discuss such things in a detached manner. After all, they deal with medical issues all day. After that, there isn't much left that has too much shock value.

As an aside, I would NEVER discuss my kink with co-workers; business is business and play is play. If I want to discuss kink, I belong to a fetish organization and I am fortunate enough to have an equally kinky partner.

+1 Ladydoc

Totally with both of you Ladydocisin and Switchablesusie. I work in healthcare, too and it sometimes is appaling to me how detached we can be. Just today I was discussing a subject with a colleague and for an instant I broke decorum in my own mind and thought, Jesus, this poor guy has cancer and the drug sure isn't working on him the way we want but we're discussing him like he is just "Subject 0017". Of course, two seconds later it was business as usual and we moved on to Subject 0018.

"I didn't choose my profession because of my proclivities, I chose it because it's what I love to do..." @ladydocisin I'm sorry but I think I didn't express myself properly. I meant that people that work in the healthcare environment (especially nurses and doctors) have a different outlook on life being exposed daily to pain, suffering and death. I agree that to survive in such an environment you need to rely on a certain level of emotional detachment. I also didn't want to imply that to be an healthcare professional you have to be somewhat kinky but rather that because of the line of work healthcare professionals are less inhibited and more prone to experiment with sex. I am probably generalizing but I've found that having worked in different working environments I believe that healthcare professionals are way more approachable when discussing sexual matters than for instance a bookkeeper (with all the due respect). I have a few relatives that are nurses and doctors and I can tell their mindset is different from the other relatives who are in a different field of work.

I also have never discussed sexual life details while working at the hospital: I shouldn't have said "admitting THEIR sexual kinks"... but rather more in line with "they were quite open in discussing sexual kinks (not necessarily their own)...."

I hope this clears it up and hope I haven't offended anybody.

I don't think you offended anybody in health care.

Of course, if you feel guilty, I'm sure we can arrange a punitive enema for you.

On a serious side, I do think we tend to look at the body with little inhibition since we're looking at them all day long. The sexual parts are just parts except for when we're with our lovers. Then they become instruments of pleasure [or pain as needed by the situation] as we take off our professional hats and turn on our private personas.

Yes, as professional medical people we definitely wear different hats at different times, but honestly can tell you from this professional nurse that I can only wear one hat at a time. In other words, if my kink hat is on then my professional one isn't, and visa versa. I only have one head unlike you boys, lol.

Mashie

As somebody mentioned on another thread, "Work is work and play is play and never the twain shall meet."

I'm new here, but I couldn't resist offering an opinion on this very interesting subject. I'm not a medical professional, however I do work in a highly technical field. It has been my experience that the more intelligent a person seems, the more likely they are to have fetishes (or, perhaps, they are just more likely to admit to it). I don't think anyone would doubt that most of those who are employed in the medical field are typically of higher than average intelligence. I would argue that the higher average intelligence of the people in this field may correlate with the higher than average number of "kinksters" one might encounter (though I'm sure it wouldn't hurt to have after-hours access to a well equipped clinic 😉 ). I notice the same correlation when working around engineers and technical specialists. We can be a freaky bunch as well.

As evidence of this theory, I simply suggest that one look at the quality of the posts on this board. Virtually everyone here appears to be well spoken, and competent in the use of sentence structure and punctuation. For contrast, have a look at the quality of the posts on Facebook or most other internet forums. I would theorize that an individual of higher intelligence would not only be more open about their own kinks, but more accepting of others' as well.

I find that those who are closed-minded often prefer to keep them that way in an attempt to hide their simplicity.

XLH, welcome to our kinky little club house. I thought your post was very well written and absolutely could not agree with you more on everything you said, as I have been saying it for years as well. You will fair well here my friend, and please, if you have any questions, please feel free to ask. Have fun and I personally look forward to reading more great thoughts from you in the near future.

Mashie

Thanks Mashie 😉 Happy to be here.

As a health care professional I don't feel that I have any different outlook on life which in any way influenced my sexual preferences. Being in the medical field for years I've seen it all. Nothing that I've seen has influenced me. I'm always respectful of patients and never look at them as anything but patients.

Just wanted to poke my head in and say hello to this group. I have been an RN since 1974 and have worked in ICU, CCU, ER, acute care, PACU, and Radiology. I have noticed a distinct change in healthcare and it is not for the better, so I retired and started selling sex toys in my online store. My husband of 12 years is retired career military and the love of my life. We lived in the same town growing up and dated in high school, but went our separate ways for college only to meet up again again after 30 years. We got married and have been extremely happy ever since. He has always been aware of my kinky side and is very accepting of most things, especially how anally oriented I am. I love to play with his ass in so many ways! The only hitch is that I can't get him to spank me. Still working on that one.

My avatar is the naughty nurses and I go by EQueen because I learned early in my nursing career to give larger volume cleansing enemas for the preop preps. This way, I did not have to repeat the enemas later because the patient was not cleaned out enough. When it was done thoroughly the first time, everybody was happier, especially the patient. I got the nickname by other staff members of EQueen because I would go to Radiology and get their 3 liter bags and balloon nozzles that were used for barium enemas and would use those instead of the 1/2 liter buckets that we for regular patient use. If you want it done correctly, go with the larger volume from the beginning. So here I am on this site enjoying all of the other people that have their own kinks and enjoy acknowledging them.

My question is this. Are we kinky because we are in the medical profession or are we medical professionals because we are kinky? It's the chicken/egg delema. Wish I could give you a solid answer on this, but I honestly don't know. Just a side note, from my observations, the only other group that has as many kinks as the medical profession is the military. They are right up there with us at the top of the pyramid.

E Queen, My first response to your comment on the only other group that has as many kinks as we do, being military cracks me up. I do not know too many military folks with kinks, but it may just be my circle of friends too. It has been my observation that lawyers and pilots are very kinky people. I have never met a lawyer, a pilot, or a guy named Dave who isn't kinky, lol. Again, might just be my circle of friends.

I have often wondered about your chicken and egg theory too. Are we medical professionals because we have a med fet kink, or the other way around? Personally even though I was a nurse first, I have had my medical kink since I was 6, I just didn't know what it was and never could put my finger on it. If I had to place a bet, I would have to say that most of us, knowingly or not, have become medical professionals because we have med fet tendencies. But, that's just my opinion, and I say that with a grain of salt because it's not true of all of us, and might be a tad offensive to some of us as well.

Mashie

I guess it depends on the type of military. I was a submariner, and I don't know if it's radiation or lack of oxygen or what, but we're all pretty damn twisted. 😄

Many people who are in high stress jobs with long hours seem to be more likely to have more kinks then is the norm . This may be tied to the need to release stress , enemas are a natural way to let go of stress the hole process takes time and the release washes away the stress. Health care, public safety, military ,pilots and prison guards all have stressful jobs with long hours and if you look close you may see a higher then normal rate of being kinky . Then it may be that all of us are getting kinkyer as time goes on who knows.

They don't call it 'Playing Doctor' for no reason! Kinksters just gravitate to the Medical Profession. Just like pyromaniacs going to the Fire Dept. My mom used to work as a nurse. I can't count how many times she'd start talking about her job, giving shots, enemas, etc. over dinner. Never bothered me, I was used to it, but it 'freaked out' strangers!

Well, I will have to say that my whole family has grown used to the fact that I can discuss weird shit at the dinner table or out in public. Not anything that would compromise privacy issues, just stuff "normals" don't discuss on a regular basis. It just doesn't phase me. I have found other medical people are the same way. Although with medical professionals, I have found that ever once in a while, you get a few of them together that are the exact opposite and are so prudish they should have been with the Puritans. That always surprises me because I do not understand how they have survived in this profession and can still be as naive as they are.

You are correct though. Kinky may be related to location,also. I can see where the lawyers and pilots can be kinky. We live in a town with an Air Force base and half of the bdsm group here is military, ex military, or civilian military. I worked with a guy in Austin about 4 years ago that was in the Army and he said that there were an amazing number of military personnel that were very kinky and a lot of them are officers. So it must be related to location in many ways. It would be interesting to do a study on the demographics as related to geographical regions. As for the pilots, oxygen deprivation has got to be the answer. It seems as if the AF people have either been in the high atmosphere too long or on the ground inhaling too many jet fuel fumes. You just have to wonder though, do the military, airlines, hospitals, and legal or engineering firms realize what a really kinky group of people migrate to these professions? There is a thought to ponder.

I do know that I realized early in my life that I had thoughts running in my head that most other people never seemed to have. I just wish that I had acknowledged my inner pervert really doe worry when I read about some of the posts here so much earlier than I did. It took many years for me to finally just turn it loose and I am so much happier now, especially mentally. And I am married to a man that lets me give in to that perv when I need to and he doesn't say anything, he just smiles. He has not ever been into enemas, so I have a feeling if I brought up giving him one, it would be a hard limit for him. He's already about as low stress in his personality as he could ever get. But I do agree with what you said Mashie, when you wear one hat, you don't wear the other. The two different aspects of your life, kinky does not cross over into our medical lives. The two never should mix in a professional setting.

I have only run into a couple of the MedFet people here in town, but I do know that there are others that talk about it. We are just not set up for it here, although there are some new people coming in to this group that may be more interested in it. I think it could be interesting and fun in some ways but then again, that has always been a part of me. Just would need to switch gears a little. I do worry when I read some of the posts on this site when people talk about some of the objects or chemicals that they put into their bodies. Just because it may feel good doesn't mean that it is safe. I have seen too many light bulbs, vibes with no flange, and bottles in rectums, or foreign objects in a bladder or urethra (a straight telephone cord with the broken wire sticking out of it) that people can't get out. I just want to ask why they did not just take the time to get a good toy that was safe if they they want to play? But to each their own. I guess you just go with what you have available. I won't judge, but I do worry about the safety factor. Play safe and have fun!

I'll play the politician and say that I firmly agree with both sides of this issue...

Agree with XLH that intelligence does play a role. I don't know of many simple-minded people who are into this kind of lifestyle.

Agree with Mashie that many of us may have become involved with the profession because we are kinky, aware of our bodies wants & needs, therefore may not care much about the latest P/E ratio of company X, how cardboard boxes are designed, or debates regarding asphalt vs concrete...

Mashie also refers to wearing different hats at different times, which we all must do, though what type of hat were we wearing when we chose to study the medical profession? Was it one distinct, clear-cut hat or maybe a collage of many?

Carletto refers to possibly having a different outlook on life when we're exposed to pain, suffering, and death. Yes, that very well may be part of it. When I see someone's life cut short at the age of 16, it makes me want to cherish and enjoy every day that I possibly can, doing whatever brings me and my lover/SO/Dom the type of pleasure we crave. I have no interest in putting that pleasure off til next week...

It's a good question, and I'm glad it was posted. I really think that if we were to be totally honest with ourselves and each other, we will agree that there is at least some kind of link between our professions and recreational interests. It may not be selfish, i.e. my pleasure first and foremost, though giving pleasure to someone else, therefore caring about them, their health and well-being, etc.

@Paynefan,

Well stated and yes it was a great question!

Quite interesting discussion thread, although I feel as though I'm sitting behind the desk and the rest of you are lying on the couch telling your inner thoughts. That's not a bad idea, I'm just reflecting upon what some of you have related.

We in hands on health care do have to exercise some control in discussions when earthlings are present. (Nothing to do with HIPPA,) just that we seem to be immune to conversations which can be very embarrassing to the earthlings. Having worked in respiratory units a good discussion of the color, texture, volume and odor of sputum is no problem for me but can gag others!

I absolutely see a connection between my kink and my career, but it's precisely because (as others have said) "work is work and play is play!" I'm not a clinical care provider, I work in support services. As a result, I not only take care of "real" patients and their families but I also find myself in the role of "caregiver to the caregivers" providing support to doctors, nurses, therapists, and anyone else who needs it. I love my work and wouldn't trade it for the world, but it definitely takes its toll. As a result, in play I am ONLY interested in the patient/sub role because someone else is taking care of me/in charge of the moment! I know my interest in all this stuff has existed for a long time, but my need to explore it has increased exponentially as my career has developed because as more of my life has been taken over by caring for other people, the more I realize I need to prioritize the chance to let someone else take care of me!

I am kinky to wish my xwife was more open minded. she is to proper. I always wanted to see her get pelvic etc. I would do anything to give her pleasure. To bad she didn't think the same way. Love is about making fantasy come true

Wait a second .. the pool is tainted !! You cant ask medical professionals who subscribe to a kink website whether they tend to be kinky.

I always wondered that the medical professionals have seen it all. they have seen naked patients and touched as and when needed, what they felt and thought.....

cause as patients, people are totally ok at times and at times they are shy to be exposed.

I was hospital med social wrk. I have more than one nurse suggested that I needed an enema from her. So sorry I never followed that one

Most health care workers keep their kinks separate from their work. That nurse was probably attracted to you.

Wish there were some in scotland

A few I have spoken too won't compromise their medical ethics by utilising their medical skills beyond a fairly tame and superficial level. I suppose the ideal would be someone trained and with facilities and equipment etc. who is retired or no longer employed within the medical profession. As a patient, I am certainly aching for a less scrupulous practitioner to use me.