What would you do with your medfet paraphernalia if you thought you would die soon?

This question is based on the assumption that your next of kin do not know of your medfet interests, and that you want it to stay that way.

What would you do with all your medfet paraphernalia if you thought there was a chance you could die soon? Would you dispose of it now, just in case? Or would you take the chance that all will be well?

Well, if you're dead, who really cares? I mean, it's not really going to bother you if they find out about your secret fetish.

That's true and is the way I used to think, but now I'm not so sure.

I guess I'm lucky that my daughter knows I'm a fetishist, she just doesn't know the specifics. She knows there is a foot locker with all the "goodies" in it. It has a lock on it, but that's easily defeated with a bolt cutter. She knows to get rid of it and the contents.

The man I live with also knows about my kinky side because he's an active participant and enabler, so I don't worry about that.

My theory is that everyone has a skeleton or two in the closet. I also figure that if you're dead, what do you care? I'd rather have someone find my paraphernalia than to have them find that I had been dishonest or done something illegal, but that's just me.

Since my wife is a RN and the only things around our bedroom are gloves,RT and a stethacope..no one should think anything is to strange about that, the Ky in the drawer again shouln't be a issue given out ages. Now the two vibrators in the lower drawer might give them pause to think.....but hopefully they will quietly toss them in the trash bag while cleaning up and think only that mom and dad did their best to please one another.

I\'d rather have someone find my paraphernalia than to have them find that I had been dishonest or done something illegal, but that\'s just me.

Well said Lady doc!

Our equipment is kept in a room connected to our master bedroom with its own burglar alarm zone that is always on. Our descendants will have to find the key to that door (one in the safe deposit box, and couple hidden in the house) or break in and not listen to the blaring alarm as they enter.

Our daughters have known about and saw most of our fetish equipment about three years ago. Our fetishes are known by my father and in all likelihood, my mother also knows, my brother and probably his wife knows, my 15 year old daughter would love to study the equipment thoroughly (she's the super bright scientific type) and the 18 year old daughter is into it herself and would love to use and own it. A couple of months ago she told me she wanted to tie up her boyfriend. At her request I gave her a leather and rope bondage lesson. It wasn't exactly what she had in mind 😈 😈 but she learned what I felt was important along with what she wanted to know.

I don't think we have a problem.

^^^^^ You should pre-dig the hole and keep an empty box in it for future use!

If i were physically well enough to enjoy my toys, and I knew time was short, I'd enjoy them. I sure as heck wouldn't destroy them or throw them out. Someday if I'm not physically well enough to enjoy them, I'll PASS THEM ON to someone who might appreciate them.

Once I'm gone, I'd hope that those I love would be discreet. I am who I am, I would hope that those that I love and who love me aren't so shallow as to change their opinion of who I was based on finding my toys.

I know a lot of people who are kinky various ways in their private life - and ordinary beyond belief in their "vanilla" life. I don't think finding out I'm kinky is going to shock anybody.

This question is based on the assumption that your next of kin do not know of your medfet interests, and that you want it to stay that way.\nWhat would you do with all your medfet paraphernalia if you thought there was a chance you could die soon? Would you dispose of it now, just in case? Or would you take the chance that all will be well?

Ah - now THAT'S a different story.. but for quite a few of us that assumption doesn't apply. The obvious answer is if I'm going to die soon and don't want anybody to know once I'm gone, that I'd have to dispose of everything now.. what other answer is there? The premise is that you want your secret to go with you to the grave, which requires that there be nothing left to be found. How could you "take the chance that all will be well" when you want to keep your secret?

Who cares? It's not as if anyone is ever going to go beyond the grave and confront you afterwards.

Besides, there seems to be an implicit assumption that we're the only ones with something we might wish to hide, as if there were no other people around who also have their particular little secrets and fetishes and turn-ons. Anyone who does find our toys and material afterwards, will have their own personal issues and quirks and shortcomings and other fetishes to compare them with ...

You know, there is the traditional thing about not throwing the first stone and all that, being not the first to judge lest ye too ... that those who come after us keep that well in mind ... hypocrisy suits very few people ...

The sad part of having family dispose of equipment(or anything for that matter), is if you have vintage items they may not know that they are of value. They would then be lost to the trash collection bin. And what a shame that would be.

We've done a little bit of discussion on this topic with the many items we have (some of them are vintage enema and a few medical pieces). Though no clear cut decision was made on any of it.

We know the kids have looked in a couple of the drawers. If our son has seen the "tool boxes" he probably had to look to see what was in them. Maybe as time goes by we'll come up with a solution to this. Until that time we'll continue to use those items.

Well- some medical gear is single user only:>

And thus disposed of when it's user dies. If I found out my cancer was back?

As others said- keep on pleasing self till the end becomes "too close" and dispose the disposable/sell the resalable.

I can see some of us having an envelope of last instructions to toss footlocker X into the industrial compactor still locked.

But stuff like exam tables etc deserves a current updated- sell this to/how and have a drink on me.. type notes.

Wifey "knows" of my kinks even if she does not often even give me an enema.

I need to update the purple envelope in the fire safe where my last wishes etc are as a legacy of cancer. .

That was my plan. i have a locked toolbox with a lot of my stuff in it. The rest went in sealed storage boxes, with instructions not to open, just to dump in recognised waste dump. Thankfully it was all for nothing, although I did have a lot of unpacking to do when I got home.

My brothers were there for me and I found we were, are closer than I knew.

Probably the best solution would be to sell it on a site like eBay - you know the person who wins the bidding won't have bought the stuff just to throw it all away in shame ...

I would give it to my older daughter along with sterilization instructions for re-usable items since she has indicated that she is into most of the same stuff my husband andI are into.

I am going to hide it somewhere very far and then host a treasure hunt 😁

Whoever finds it gets all the stuff lol 😈 😜 🙄

No?

I would just toss mine in a public trash can or dumpster. But my stash is just a tube of KY, an enema bag, some exam gloves and a couple of butt plugs and anal beads. Everything would easily fit in a plastic grocery sack.

I have moved countries a few times and have had to review what t equipment I have and think about ways to move it without questions.

When I first left the UK I chose to dump quite a load of equipment as I had heard that the customs authorities in the country I was moving to went through shipments thoroughly. It was a conservative Muslim country so I was concerned what they would think about my collection. It turned out I was being overly cautious and nothing got searched so I had got rid of stuff unnecessarily.

These days I tend to limit myself to more routine equipment eg steths, BP, thermometers etc that you can pick up in pharmacies and more easily justify keeping at home. If anything happened to be my next of kin shouldn't be shocked.

The hard drive on my laptop may however hold a few more surprises for them...

The hard drive on my laptop may however hold a few more surprises for them...

I have a sneaking suspicion that virtual imagery will be the first things to get lost and disappear. Who has the patience or inclination to go searching through a hard drive? Who has any inkling of what there might be? Magazines and publications and equipment are so easy to recognize and see for what they are.

Donate to those that may appreciate the effort taken to locate some rare & still very functional items. 😁 😁 😁