To the original poster, I'd say if you enjoy sex but don't enjoy the idea of going down on your partner-try to look at it from their point of view. As much as you may enjoy them going down on you or receiving pleasure, they in turn want the same. I'm happily married to @AnthonyRT, and I can tell you, I also didn't like the prospect of going down on a guy before 🤦♀️ but, because I love Anthony and also because he happily goes down on me, that is what aids in my desire to look beyond those 'mental hurdles.'
Side note: I don't believe I've met any woman that have said they enjoy the sight of a man's penis-not off the top of my head, anyways! 😅🤭 Maybe for men going down on women, they think differently about our vaginas haha but, in either case, what I'm trying to say is this: If you care about your partner, and you also enjoy sex, and further enjoy when they go down on you, it would only make sense to reciprocate. Try to think of it as, as much pleasure as you enjoy, they also want to experience pleasure. The thought of getting Anthony excited and aroused, gets me excited and aroused. We are one person. Whatever one feels, the other feels the same.
117% I know, Anthony enjoys giving me oral because he knows it gets me hot and wet. It's excellent foreplay and sets the mood. It's an act of love for us, too. 🤗