I love to get a emena but my gf dont want anything to do with it how do/ i get her startied
Maybe you CAN'T They're not a thrill for everybody. She has to have been born that way.
Ummm, Lisa, I don't quite agree with that statement. I never had an enema until I was 38 and absolutely hated the first few I had. But when I met Doc and he started giving them to me in a soft, gentle, kind and loving way, I eventually learned to love them. But trust me, I didn't start out that way.
I have to agree with Mashie here. True, you can be hooked after your first enema, so you could say those people have been born that way and are wired to love & enjoy enemas. But there are plenty of people who start out not liking them or even hating them and eventually end up hooked on enemas as well 😃
Bringing your GF / wife into enemas probably requires just as many solutions as the number of situations.
As a man, I never met with a girl who was an enema enthousiast... when we met. During my so far adult enema life (more or less 25 years), five of my GF finally agreed to try : one of them had strictly no personal interest or taste into giving me enemas that I always reqired for medical reasons, and because she was a loving girl, she though that she had to do it, and to be as caring as was possible in order to bring me relief.
It is a fact that I was -and still am- suffering from IBS. So she never said no, and tried to make it with the less possible discomfort, as she knew (how ? that i never was able to clarify : possibly her own memory ?) that it was a very unpleasant time. I tried to move her to enemas via colonics, but she reported to her MD who told her that she would not need it, and I decided then not to ruin our relationship by insisting...
One of them who was sexually very active...just agreed to enter my dream when I told her one day that I had a dream in the night, of her giving me an enema and at the same time masturbating me, which woke me up in the middle of the night as I had a terrific erection. She just said : are you sure it will not hurt you ? OK, that can be fun. And the following day we did it ! It was fun ! ! ! we did it many times, she dressed as a dream nurse on some occasions, we had a couple of fantastic years. She never agreed on receiving... but was VERY excited in giving, Up to climax on a few occasions. She enjoyed listening to my belly putting her ear on it while administering, as she said she could hear the noise of water flowing into me and she found it terribly sexy;
That was it...
There are no guarantees, and there are many posts about partners who just aren't into them.
But a great many partners are willing to at least try something within a trusted, intimate relationship. If there is reluctance, talk about reasons. But I'd suggest that you not then just try to reason away objections; rather you have to demonstrate them away. For example, if there is a fear of accidents, build lots of pleasurable experiences with low volumes. What you need to do is maximize the positive sensations without triggering negative associations, and then build -- slowly -- from there. Because each person is different, the positives and negatives have to be worked out individually. Your partner may not enjoy them in the same way you do at first, maybe ever. Your goal is for her to enjoy her enemas.
And maybe it doesn't work.
One of my five GF (too young to have been part of the golden age as a child) who agreed on some enemas involvement just agreed on bringing relief for my IBS pains.
She had only a very limited idea of what an enema is, if any, so I had to explain and she did follow my instructions. The first attempt was not too bad, but she was afraid of doing something wrong, and I had to reexplain things on a step by step basis while she was "on duty" : inserting the tip, positioning the bag, etc...
After some months and several enema sessions, she had seriously improved her knowledge and had become both very efficient and quite gentle and pampering at the same time. I was expecting her to be curious and to be asking for some reciprocity, but she never raised the point. I decided to try my luck, as softly as possible.
While she was preparing for one session that I had requested, getting all bits togther, I simply asked her if she did not felt it a boring -if not unpleasant- job she had no choice but to perform for bringing relief to her boyfriend.
I was expecting she would reply by asking one try in return, hoping that she would not say "it is just a pain in the ass, but I am doing my best for you".
None of these answers : she just told me that it brought her with a sense of intimacy she never had before with any other man. As she was in her late 30 and had been married before, and told me briefly about some of her boyfriends, she was able to benchmark her feelings !
I suggested that she should explain, still expecting some more curiosity, but she only told me that she was unable to explain : just a very special feeling.
That was it and it never went any further.
Each case is a unique one.
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