Anal first time

My boyfiend keeps wanting me to try anal sex. He has put his finger up there a few times and to my dismay I acutally quite liked the feeling. my fantasy is that he penetrated my ass whilst fingering my pussy.

I am quite keen to try anal sex but am worried though that his cock could do some permanent damage whilst inserted up there. from a medical point of view is anal sex a safe thing to do ?

Very slow and easy, lots of lube. If you feel pain, you're going too fast.

Wendy,

Anal sex is safe, providing you and your boyfriend take some precautiions.

First, you should clean out your large intestines well. To do this, you need to take a two quart enema, using a warm water salt solution. Now, this is something you can do before your botfriend comes or you can ask him to give you the enema.

If you or he wants further instruction on giving or recieving an enema; e-mail me at: tbearent@yahoo.com.

Second, Be sure that he wears a condom and that you use liberal amounts of KY jelly.

Third, you need to really relax your anal sphincter.

Fourth, you need to coach him to enter you VERY slowly. Once he has his penis past the head and you are still comfortable with having him in you; then the two of you can proceed as with vaginal sex.

Happy Returns,

Joan T.

The trick is to be totally relaxed and make sure you use loads of lube, get him to relax you with his finger first, im sure ull love it!

I enjoy anal, and have good orgasms that way as long as the guy is gentle, and lubes both him and me up. A little trick that has always worked well for me, is to have him go down on me, and finger my anus at the same time. By the time I have had my orgasm, I am relaxed and ready.

Use condoms, never insert the penis into the vagina after the anal penetration without replacing the condom.

Try working up from smaller dilators/dildos first and bear down as your b/f pushes in.

A large percentage of women that I have known, hate it until they try it.

The reason most women fear anal, and the reason it hurts the first time, is the guy is usually in a hurry, or doesn't take time to get the woman properly accustomed to anal. The first time I had vaginal intercourse, it hurt, and that was to be expected. The anus is much tighter than the vagina, and does not give as easy. Men have to learn how to properly introduce a woman to anal and be gentle. The vagina produces lubrication when a woman is proper stimulated, the anus doesn't. Lubricating both the anus and the penis is a must. Spending a good time getting the woman excited makes anal much more pleasurable. Being gentle, and helping the woman relax makes anal more enjoyable for the woman. Once you have the technique down right, and have tried it a couple of times, women can have some really nice orgasms anally.

Me and my girlfried had anal sex for the first time yesterday.

She was riding me, when i started to insert my gloved finger into her ass, with lots of lubrication...when the asshole started to widen, i put two fingers up...in and out a few times, and then i used three fingers. Asked her all the time if she was feeling any discomfort, kissed her all the time, and made her relax. She felt no pain at all! When it didnt feel tight with three fingers, I inserted my penis (again, loads of lube), doggy style, while i took off my gloves, and startet to stimulate her vagina with my fingers...a few moments later...a massive orgasm for her!

I would say go for it.

But be careful.

Use a lot of lubricant(ky jelly, vaseline or any other water based solution)

And be carefull you thouroughly wiped your bum after the last time you pooped using baby wipes might be more effective than toilet paper.

Also be sur not to have him be to rough and if it hurts have a safety word and back out if the pain continues visit a doctor

I hope this will help you

These posts are really helpful. I would like to try anal sex but am a bit scared. I do like it when my b/f fingers me there during foreplay.

The trick is to be totally relaxed and make sure you use loads of lube.

Has anyone had anal sex the day before their gyno exam? Did the Dr. notice or say anything? Did he/she do a rectal exam or ask if you engaged in anal sex?

Before my wife and I have anal sex, I stretch the anus sometimes with my gloved fingers. So it´s much more easier to get into the anus with my big dick.

Remember that all those clitoral nerves go down the rectum so once you release the mind you are releasing one long source of 'clitotal' stimulation.

Enjoy

I am in a similar situation, my boyfriend wants to try anal, and at first I didnt think I was up for it, but he started rubbing around my anus during foreplay a few weeks ago to see if I'd like it. To my surprise, I really did, but he hasnt put his fingers in yet. My concern is that I have IBS, and am extremely sensitive anyways.. does anal pose any danger to me?

I recommend taking a while beforehand to relax. Foreplay is most definitely not overrated where anal sex is concerned. If your boyfriend and you both like oral sex (him giving and you receiving) start there. Have him apply plenty of lubricant to his finger and your anus while he licks your vagina and then let him slowly insert his finger into your anus. Let him finger you there for a while until you start to relax. ONce you're nice and relaxed, have him insert a second finger to gauge the stretch. After a little bit of two-finger fingering, have him attempt to insert his penis, but make SURE you have lots of lubricant on there. The more lube you use, the easier and less painful it is. Getting the head in is the worst part. Once the head is in, have him stay still for a moment to let you get used to the feeling, then have him advance VERY slowly until he's in all the way. At first, go very slowly. Once you get used to it, let him thrust away, but keep in mind, it's up to YOU how much you can handle, so don't be afraid to tell him to stop if it hurts.

Happy trails!

For the first time, instead of him entering you. Lube you and him up well and you back into him, that way you control the penetration.

The first time i tried anal on my girlfriend she didn't like it much but after a few times she loved it and now she wants it all the time. along with enemas and butt plugs really anything in her rectum turns her on

Just make sure you are fully relaxed and use plenty of lube. Anal sex takes time, it's not something to rush. It'll feel a little unusual and different but it shouldn't hurt at all.

Whenever I have anal sex I don't use a condom. Does it help with entry or is it purely for hygenic reasons?

Ellen, I don't think that IBS precludes exploring anal sex. IBS is symptomatically caused by overactive nerves in the stomach and intestinal tract. The lining of the rectum has very few nerve ending compared to the higher regions of the digestive system. My suggestion is to phase into your play, maybe just penetration (and nothing else) for the first session. See if any of your symptoms flare up after this. If not, explore more the next time!

Three hints for anal virgins.

1. Choose a position where the receiver can move away from the penetrating penis. Obviously this precludes lying face down or bending over a fixed bench or similar.

2. Don't choose a position such as doggie or prone with legs raised. These positions tighten the tissue around the anus. 'Spoons', lying on the side, relaxes the tissue around the anus the most.

3. The receiver should reach round and grasp the penis with 4 fingers wrapped around it, exposing only the head. When the receiver can comfortably accommodate the head then she/he can remove one finger at a time allowing gradually more depth of penetration. Re-lubricate the penis before each advance.

Apart from that an anal virgin needs anything up to an hour of gradual anal dilating, over several sessions if necessary, before attempting penile penetration. Pain indicates something is amiss. Discomfort which is tolerable is to be expected early in an anal relationship and will disappear very quickly.

Lube and gloves 😉 ahhh

Hey. I was wondering, my gf likes to insert thermometers and plugs just b4 intercourse. I want to ask if I can use Vicks Vaporub to lube my anus? Will they be any side effects?

For me it's the total experience. The applying of lube around my butthole, slow and easy. The finger going in and twisting around. It's all about the anticipation of what's comming next. A total turn on!!

Not much i can add a lot of goood tips here but when you think you have enough lube use a lot more at least for the first time. It gets easier after the first time and let me tell you it is worth it. another benefit is when your partner gives you an enema before to clean you out. i really like that part of it too

The side effect of Vicks in your ass is that it will burn like hell! If you think you'd enjoy that then that's cool, but if you're just starting to experiment with anal play then I wouldn't recommend starting out with something that will alter the sensation, not least because it may put you off. Also Vicks is likely to destroy condoms (which you should be using on toys if they're being shared), KY Jelly or any other water-based lube which is safe to use with condoms and doesn't contain anything interesting such as flavourings or warming/tingling stuff is probably your best bet.

I don't think Vicks would actually cause any damage to the rectum, although I haven't really investigated that and I'm sure someone else round here will know. It will burn and probably be quite painful so if you're not into that I'd recommend staying away from it.

Key is go slow and easy, and use lots of lube.

Dilatation games, be it anal to vaginal, use a lubricant and emoliente necessary. The advice is to use a lubricant to water and possibly to avoid inconvenience hypoallergenic little pleasant. The only annoyance that must be nice expansion.