Spanking as domestic discipline for a husband?

Hi,

do you practice spanking as a form of punishment or domestic discipline management in real life or only as a game/sexual extension? We do both and as we both agree as like as the spencer spanking plan says, it is a fine method to decrease bad habits if you do it consequently.

What do you think or do you have any ideas for additional discipline measures, because my wife asked for other options?

Cheers

I wish my wife would but she dosent

The best resource there is is Wilderstreetpublishing.com. Two books in email form. The first deals with the mental aspects of spanking, the second the physical stuff. While the books are directed toward women spanking men an awful lot of it works the other way. Not cheap but wonderfully well done and most instructive!

Thanks, I'll have a look. DWC or other ressources aren't as good as we thought.

The "How to spank your man" manual is great, we bought it and it's a real nice kind of book. Better than most what we've read before

My wife is the HoH and I'm her submissive husband. Spanking plays a major role in our d/d relationship. It is for punishment only. Other punishments include: loss of tv privledges, early bedtime, additional chores, orgasm denial and extended chastity.

Unfortunately, all of my spanking is only in the mind and my other half has no interest in the subject.

One of the best free articles that I have read on husband disciplining was posted several years ago by Mistress Katelyn and it is entitled “How To Give Your Husband a Punishment Spanking”. This is a very informative article, dealing with various aspects of punishment spankings and one that every new bride should read.

I cannot post the link but you may Google: “How To Give Your Husband a Punishment Spanking”, without the quotation marks of course.

I get spanked for punishment, & as foreplay by my wife/ My punishment spankings are not as severe as I need & want. (only about 9 or 10 in 43 years) AS foreplay I get spanked until my wife is wet, & ready for sex many times she states I need to spank you more, I am not wet enough.

I gave her a paddle before we were married, very soon we were married!

Domestic Discipline has always been a key element in our family.

I spanked my wife both as discipline and as sexual foreplay, but we never mixed the two.

My husband needs it for real life day to day discipline,it is a release of tension for him after a hard day trying to keep our company going,the harder the day the harder he wants it.and that is not always fun 4 me as at the end of the day I don't want to hurt him,i just want to play games,roleplay and things.

My wife is of a more religious and moral nature--so certain conduct with my male friends is cause for a paddling---We both agree and it has always worked for us---We both seem to know at the same time whwn i have to 'make things right' by taking a bare ass paddling-----I got it coming and it hurts plenty but once over there is no lingering anger or resentment----It is quick and things are good between us right after----0It was harder to get it done when the children were at home--as when i got it coming i want it done asap---I shower quick and get my bare butt paddled pronto

Both. Our spankings range from game/sex to actual punishment for bad actions. We switch so this goes both ways.

In my case the major "bad habit" was temper flares and foul language, in her case unsafe behavior and road rage.

One thing: we "noted" the misbehavior until it could be punished, so that bad deeds were always punished. Also the culprit would sometimes confess to the bad deeds in order to get the necessary punishment.

Additional discipline measures? When I got home drunk in addition to a paddling I got an enema administered in a stricter and more humiliating way than my wife's normal enemas (this fixed some of the effects of hang-over). I also got enemas to calm me down.

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I spank my Hubby only as punishment. He requested it 3 months ago and I wanted to help. I have to say it has improved our marriage and thank him for this daily.

Our entire family is subject to domestic discipline, me, wife and two daughters. No one is immune or beyond the need for correction or improvement. Spankings happen several times a month.

Spanking for domestic discipline, the more ritual the better, is a great fantasy of mine. Ritual, IMO, is the key. I'd like to see a prior agreement detailing the method and severity of punishment for various infractions. Having the one getting spanked prepare and wait. Having a discussion about the infraction with ultimate concession about the punishment to be inflicted. Having the punishment delivered exactly according to the agreement, regardless of complaints or protests. Cuddling and/or making love immediately after as proof of satisfaction of the transgression.

As posted before, my wife spanks me on occasion, and once a year, she lets me indulge with a real mistress.

Yes my wife has paddled my naked butt a few times--It was for something very serious and I had it coming Since its just my wife--there was no shame or embarrassment but it hurts alot

No, we do not practice. But I understand the benefits now. So I would like to have nearby a elderly strict lady for regular real life meetings.

Little or no ritual cause I want the spanking/paddling out of the way--- It is a given that I drink too much with the guys I get my naked butt spanked and it hurts---for a small woman she can spank and make it hurt---there is no argument from me---I drink too much I come home and get my naked butt spanked--So I just shower pronto and go over her lap and he spanks me til she has vented her frustration and I have made things right so to speak--- Dave Oliver

My sister-in-law, my husband's older sister, taught me how to punish him. He had always been given the razor strap, which belonged to his great-grandfather. After his father died and his mother developed arthritis, Mike got his pants taken down and put over his sister's lap. Their father used to make them take down their pants and bend over his den desk. But, his sister decided that OTK was better. I still strap his bare behind while he's over my knee. you might consider adding corner time, after your punishment. When our kids are not home, Mike has to stand on an 18" high shame stool, facing the corner, with his hands behind his neck and elbows touching the walls. of course, his pants are still down and his shirt is tucked up. He gets 2 minutes for each strap stroke. 30 stroke maximum, plus an hour on the shame stool. His attitude really improves after that!!! We are now considering the cane, as a replacement for him. I get caned, whenever I mess up things, plus corner time, too!

Great wife--great marriage----and a long marriage-----once in a while I get my naked butt paddled It is punishment not flirtatious or forplay just a punishment by paddling my naked butt right out of the shower---I got it coming so no arguemnt fro me-----Our son did not know but now one son is living at home again so he knows but i guess after alll these years it really does not make any difference In fact he has warned me before that my conduct is nearing the paddling level-----I get waht i deserve but my naked butt hurts like crazy!

I maybe the only guy who takes a bare ass paddling for certain misbehaviors---from my wife and it's bare. It's a great marriage of 42 yrs she is a fine wife. She has always been more religious and moral. Once in a while for too much drinking (not drunk) or other carousing with male friends. It's just accepted by both of us i got a bare paddling coming. We both know when it's got to happen. When I come home I know I got a paddling coming I quick shower and just bend over right out of shower and she paddles me and it hurts like crazy. Since it is totally secret, just between the two of us, there is no issue of embarrrassment or shame. But I got a damn sore but when it is done. I am usually well behaved for a long while, until i do not behave as re: my friends and drinking. When I am having fun and drinking with the guys I am thinking-- "it won't hurt THAT MUCH". When I am showering and about to get it I am thinking "What a damn fool". Is there one guy reading this who may have experienced something similar?

Ours is sometimes on, sometime off FLR, mostly off at the moment. When it’s on, I can be spanked for not taking care of my assigned domestic responsibilities, house cleaning, laundry etc. or not keeping her wine glass or coffee cup sufficiently replenished. If my behavior is perceived to be not up to par, it’s the old” act like a naughty boy, you’ll be treated like a naughty boy”. Spankings are OTK, I’m told to pull my pants down, or she takes them down and directs me over her lap for an application of the strap, ouch!

Ours is sometimes on, sometime off FLR, mostly off at the moment. When it’s on, I can be spanked for not taking care of my assigned domestic responsibilities, house cleaning, laundry etc. or not keeping her wine glass or coffee cup sufficiently replenished. If my behavior is perceived to be not up to par, it’s the old” act like a naughty boy, you’ll be treated like a naughty boy”. Spankings are OTK, I’m told to pull my pants down, or she takes them down and directs me over her lap for an application of the strap, ouch!

Those transgressions - not keeping her wine glass or coffee cup sufficiently replenished - sound more like a playful excuse for a spanking - which I assume you both enjoy!!

I get spanked every week as a spanking maintenance and also as and when I deserve it.

It usually happens maybe 2 or 3 times a week. Being honest I enjoy it and I got spanked at home as a child by my mother. When my mother stopped spanking me I asked her to start again as I missed it.

Isn't domestic discipline just a rationalization to indulge in a spanking fetish? Which is perfectly fine. As @Fru17gum says he "enjoys it". I see it more as role play - not as a method to control the other partner. Maybe I'm wrong on this.

I see it more as role play - not as a method to control the other partner. Maybe I'm wrong on this

For you it is one thing. For another it is something else. As long as it is consentual then enjoy.

That kind of relationship would not work for my relationship. I like giving spankings, but my sub only agrees to take them because of my enjoyment. I try to not over indulge.

@MissStress:

I like giving spankings, but my sub only agrees to take them because of my enjoyment. I try to not over indulge.

I mentioned in another thread that I only like a handjob if the other person enjoys it; else I feel like it's charity. The same applies to being spanked. I get off knowing the other person enjoys it.

I could force the issue for my pleasure only, but to me I'd rather force a better choice. Something that is more to my liking and desire.

As I stated I get spanked for both punishment and foreplay! My mouth got me in trouble, resulting in a good brushing! She told be she might make me wear the Vermont Bath Brush around my neck to remind me who the submissive one is!!

I'm a submissive. My wife is the dominant person of the relationship . She is also the disciplinarian. She is a art instructor at a local college , and gives private art k essays at home. She has a nice art studio in back of the house near the shore line and dock . It has big picture windows that look out on the bay . It is great for artwork , well lite , great view . Sarah my wife got a old butcher block and sat it in the art studio . She put a small block by the legs on one side so zI can stand on it and bend over the block. She had affixed staps to the legs , to secure my arms and legs ( the straps are not often used , as I cooperate with her ) . On the wall next to the block are a strap, padded, cane ,and other spanking implements. When she teaches classes she uses it as a prop , or as a table to sit a prop on. But when I disobey , misbehave , or anger her I 'm placed across it and spanked.

She doesn't use it to play. It is a object of discipline , and not used playfully . But when spanking me she gets enjoyment from it , as sexual stimulation.

When students ask what it's for, she will say a prop. But if she knows the student well, she might tell them