Embarrassed in front of nurses.

This is for those of us who have REAL incontinence issues (not fantasy please). I was wondering how you others feel when at the dr's or hospitals and are naked except for your diapers ?

In a previous thread i told my latest story of diapers and a leg ultra sound where i ended up naked except for my diaper on full exposure to the lab tech doing the ultra sound. I did not feel any embarrassment while having my ultra sound with my diaper on full display. But i was embarrassed about it while sitting in the emergency room waiting for the results of the test and sitting there in just my hosp gown n diaper laying on a bed.

Now i know it should have been the other way around, but for some reason i didnt. So my question is how do you feel when being exposed in a hospital in just your diapers ? I rarely ever feel embarrassed about it anymore. However there are times when my diaper exposure to nurses or dr's gets under my skin for some reason. Almost feel like less of a man at times because of this bladder issue.

Health "professional" should be just that. it you where a man in woman's underwear of an adult in a diaper. for the most part diapers are just part of who i am. when i'm at the doctors everyone handle my diapers very professional. when i need help the nurse is always there to help. maybe it more common for women to wear them so their is less stigma. my need stems from a surgery many years ago were after i would leak, it only been in the last few years that i have taken it to self in-posted uses instead of just an incontinent pad. the best part of wearing a diaper is the freedom that you have not worrying about when the urge comes over you to pee you don't have to run and worry about making a mess. for me embarrassment it when you wet your cloth because you think you are big enough to handle and one more time you aren't. i hope mamasboy they didn't give you one of the hospital diaper to wear while you waited that cheap cheap aren't they. they are leaks waiting to happen.

Actually I'm not embarrassed at all because I have worn for the last 28 years

What's bad is when after surgery I wake up in a cheap hospital diaper and know that it will leak soon

One nurse commented while changing me and the sheets that if I leak this bad at home here has to be a better solution

I told her that 1. I usually did not have 2 IV's. And 2. When I showed her one of my Wellness diapers she could not believe how thick it was

I then told her that the hospital. Spends about .25 cents on diapers and I spend about $1.10 each on mine

After urine retention and put in adult brief nappy i couldnt have cared less i knew i would soon be rid of 950ml urine in bladder after operation

Yesterday, I had a full-body check for skin cancer at the dermatologist's office. I wore my pull-on diaper though out the examination. My doctor asked me to lower my diaper as he examined my diaper area for potential lesions and then I pulled it back up. He left to get the liquid nitrogen. I was still in just my diaper as he returned. He was stopped at the open door to answer a question by a nurse. For a minute, anybody passing by the door could see me and my diaper. When he entered, he apologized for the delay and proceeded to freeze several potential cancer spots on my head. No mention was made of my diaper and the small urine stain on the front. I'll be back in six months for another full-body check wearing my diapers.

I have a couple of takes on this subject. . .one of which is perhaps a very different perspective. I'm going to start with the less common one. . .

Once when my wife was hospitalized unexpectedly with a serious illness I found myself unwilling to leave her side. . . however I'm bladder incontinent and in diapers because if it. . and had only the one I was wearing, having forgotten even my 'everyday' bag when I rushed her there. Well, obviously in time I needed to change. To be honest by the time I'd really thought about it I needed to change so badly that I'm sure Id have had my clothes and the car seat wet even if I'd tried to go home for more diapers. Embarrassed. . . and not even sure they could help me since I wasn't even the patient but desperate, I confessed to one of the nurses about my predicament. She seemed sincearly concearned, reassured me that I needed worry, and returned with what must have been 5-6 diapers. Before I'd even had a chance to duck into the bathroom with one she returned and apoligised, asking if I also needed anything else, such as towles or soap. I assured her that just the diapers would be fine. The experience was pleasant and even friendly, but very professional. . . and I wasn't even in her charge.

I've also been the patient though of course. . . in hospital, proceedure and office settings, and generally, while I'm slightly embarrassed, I feel as if they are professionals and my situation shouldnt be of interest to them unless it becomes a medical a medical issue it's self. In fact, the only time I'm too much concerned is when they need to deal directly with my diaper area and I'm wet. I'll usually offer to clean up first if they prefer. . . and though I've been told I may if I'd rather, I've never had anyone take me up on it before performing their task.

All that aside. . the more visibly wet my diaper is, the more embarrassed I am by it in front of others, nurses included. . . I wish someone made a darker color diaper without a wetness indicator. . . one solution I've found is Abena 'fixing pants' cotton/lycra/spandex 'underwear' cut to fit over even thick diapers, help hold them up and in place, keep them from getting torn, and make wetness invisible. . .or if your urine is very dark at least less noticeable. I wear them over my diapers almost anytime I leave the house, and especially to Dr's visits since with them i'm more in my underwear than in a diaper that obviously shows it's detail and wetness.

Otis reminds me of early 1991 my race car (gas powered rear engine dragster and no I just owned/built the car someone else drove it) was sponsored by DP enterprises (fit for life) a exercise equipment company

As part of the sponsorship included traveling around the country and putting on demonstrations at rehab. Hospitals.

Well I had made sure everything was loaded tools, parts, equipment and fuel. Everything but my spare clothing and diapers (I was still in a wheelchair at the time).

After traveling all day and setting at the first hospital I desperately needed a change and found I only had the extra diaper in my wheelchair backpack after the demo. I asked one of the nurses if there was any chance she knew where I could get more diapers. She kinda kidded me about it and said let me check. When she returned she told me she had talked to her supervisor and told me she would have someone bring me some Briefs from supply.

soon the other nurse showed up with a half case of the old style Attends, powder and lotion and informed me that I should never leave home without an adequate supply of diapers.

After this episode my diapers are the first thing I load for trips

Dlcripple (aka) da gimp

When I first started having to wear, I was a little embarrassed, but due to the procedures that I was having, that embarrassment went away because I like many of you finally got it, I am dealing with medical professionals and they were truly that.

After one of my procedures, I wasn't able and couldn't move from my neck down for almost 8hrs. Even though I wore my diapers, the nurses would have to intermittent cath me because my bladder only was releasing when over full. I was laying there, a little wet and the nurse cathed me. I was so full that I filled one and half of those male urinals. When she thought I was empty, she started to pull the catheter out and ended up spilling some of the urinal on me, my diaper and the gurney I was laying on. She was more embarrassed than I was. It took a couple of nurses to help move me over to a clean gurney and they put a fresh diaper back on me.

This year I was hospitalized and ended up in two different hospitals. At each hospital, I had many test ran, I was just in my gown and diaper and didn't care one bit. Everyone was very helpful and no one said a thing about it. If fact I had ran out of my diapers and had to ask for some hospital diapers till wife could bring me some more up. Now that was different. They young nurse on duty was very sweet, got them for me and even asked if I needed help changing. I know it's everyone's dream to be changed by someone else, but I was feeling fair and do my best to be take care of things myself so I thanked her and said I am o.k.. I hope that is the last time I ever have to use hospital diapers again, lol,

So with all that said, No I am no longer embarrassed about having to wear my diaper when at the doctors, ER, hospital, or anywhere any more. They are my underwear and so what that I have to change them a little more often than others do.

I had a malignant melanoma that was removed 10 years ago and thankfully I have been cancer free since. Like WinStuart I also get checked every year from head to toe by my dermatologist and I still get embarrassed standing there in just a diaper.

My first real experience with a hospital started as a trip to the emergency room. I thought I had a chest cold that had left me with pnemonia. I was actually in congestive heart failure. I was 29 at the time. I was placed on a gurney and had a bunch of wires and moniters hooked to me. I was also put on oxygen. I didn't wear diapers outside the house at the time so I didn't have one on. Anyhow, they injected me with lasix to get the water out of my lungs and from my legs and stomach where it had pooled. Within 10 minutes I had to pee like never before. I was left with two gallon size containers and was told to go in those. I have no idea what genius decided cardboard would be an appropriate material for such a task. Anyhow, I could barely sit up because of all the attachments. It was quite difficult to position myself to where I wasn't pissing all over the gurney, floor or my clothes. It took literally less than 20 minutes to fill both containers and I still desparately had to go. Meanwhile the containers were sweating my urine all over the steel cart atop which they sat. It ended up pooling up and running down onto the floor. I didn't have a call button but there was one doctor that was working around the vicinity. She was absolutely gorgous and about my age. So here I am, attached to the gurney, dribbling pee on the front of myself as I cant stand or even sit all the way up and I have my urine all over the cart and floor next to me. I kindly tried my best to sound like a grown man as I requested some more containers and explain what was going on. She was very kind and really just seemed glad to see that I wasn't drowning in my own fluids as I continued to pee by the gallon. She did replace the cardboard container with plastic ones though. I later found out that the young lady attends the same church as my parents and began speaking with them on a regular basis. Fortunately, I have no shame any more and that experience helped get me to that point. When you're in the hospital or in a medical environment, you may feel you've lost all dignity but you haven't. There's nothing to be embarassed about. You're just managing a medical issue that's otherwise beyond your control and those people make long careers in helping people deal with these things. If anyone understands, it's medical professionals.

Caresar,

Boy have I been there. I thought my heart attack at 39 was bad. I hope your recovery has been ok.

As far as the lasix is concerned I also was given this and had almost the same results. The only difference is I am perminatly incon so it was a real mess. They couldn't keep me in a dry diaper and finally resulted in reinstalling a cath.

My daughter, a Pharmacist, told me the name of this powerful drug is actually a joke. The effects of this "Lasts six hours" thus the name Lasix.

The other question I have is why do they always want to give you this at night?

Jhenson the reason they mainly give you that stuff at night is because the human body has the power to reduce urine output at night enabling us to sleep for the whole night usually. You like me had a heart attack and the reason we got it is to keep blood pressure down to a minimum while sleeping.

But just like you seeing i am incontinent they left my cath in me for as long as i needed the drug to flush radiation dye form my body. After that i was returned to diapers and all was well again.

Thanks for the info Mammasboy. I never thought of that.

As much as some would like this experence as always the real thing is a pain. I was always glad when it was over.

I was a EMT for over 30 years and seen it all.

I have no problem with being seen in diapers by doctors or nurses. even fully soaked and sagging ones.

There is no reason to be embarrassed. they are a fact of life.

I am a life long nudist and have worn my diapers down to nude beaches and got undressed like everyone else except i took off a diaper instead of underwear.

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Well just got done with a angiogram today in hospital. The prep nurses of course needed to shave me bald as a baby lol. She told me to undress completely when i told her about my inco problems she said its fine just leave the diaper in place and she will remove it when needed/ So about 10 minutes after laying in my bed she came in with another person a cna and the two of them tore my diaper off put a clamp on my penis to stop any spraying and shaved me bald from knees to waist.

When she got done she had another diaper in hand and re diapered me and told me they will remove it before they take me in. My surgery nurse asked me when i last went pee and i told right before she came probably. She just removed my diaper like it was nothing and said you wont be long so we dont need these for now.

I went in got my exam quick with no leaks came back out to my cardio icu room and then my nurse and the cna came back in put another diaper back on me but didnt tape the one side of it. I passed out sometime quick after not sure when and woke up about noon or so soaked . Called the nurse she changed me with ease and no problems at all. And not once today was embarrassed about this for some reason. Got discharged later in the day to go home and was changed by them once more before i left. All were very nice and professional.

Now next week i get to go back and do it all over again for the stent placements. But i was told i would prob get a cath next time seeing i was going to be in there for a while for the procedure. Bummer my cna was cute and changed a good diaper if i do say so myself lol.

In response to a nagging lower leg problem, I was sent to have an ultrasound review for peripheral arterial disorder (PAD). I was wearing my usual protection of a onesie covering a Wellness brief and booster pad.

When I arrived, the technician said she would have to scan from my groin to my ankle to see if there were any blockages causing the pain I was experiencing. Before I got undressed, I explained that I wore a diaper for incontinence. She said no problem. I undressed down to my onesie. It was a plain blue one with no juvenile cartoons or prints.

We talked as she carefully traced my femoral artery and its branches. She asked how long I had worn diapers and where did I find adult sized onesies. She had a professional curiosity and I was happy to answer her questions. The procedure took about a half hour and I wet my diaper a couple times. No leaks or sounds.

The pain turned out to be a torn Achilles tendon which is very slowly healing.

I actually think the nurse was more embarrassed than me, when I had a bladder scan and was wearing a tena pad and net fixing pants. I have got to the point I just don't care anymore. I am incontinent and I wear nappies or pads to deal with the problem.

A couple weeks ago I went to the hospital for chest pains. When the nurse came in to get my info, and get me into a gown she seen I had on a pullup. I told her my medical condition, and she was very understanding. They ran tests while in the ER and after a few hours was admitted to ccu. Before being taken to my room the nurse came back in with a diaper. She said she was going to change me and use diapers instead of the pullups. After the nurse changed me I was taken up to ccu. After I got settled and in my room I had 2 other nurses come in. They got more information from me, and said we understand that you have to wear diapers. They seen I was embarrassed and told me not to be. The hospital diapers are not that good. During the night I was changed every 3 hrs or so. The nurses were great at the hospital and never thought twice of having to change me. I was in the hospital for 4 days, and it turned out to be non heart related.

I went to the doctor Monday Aug 31, 2015 for what I thought was a brown recluse bite. I knew I had got bit by something the Wednesday before, but it didn't hurt till Saturday. On Saturday it was knotted up and red with a rash around it as big as my hand. I didn't want to go to the emergency room and wait for hours to be seen. Sunday it hurt even worse and the rash was way bigger than my hand. I knew I needed to go see the doctor but I wanted to wait till Monday when my doctors office was open. When I finally went to go see my doctor Monday, I wore a depends realfit to the appointment. The bite was on my upper inner thigh area. When the nurse walked in and I showed her the bite by pulling my shorts up enough for her to see. I didnt really want to display I was wearing a pullup. She told me it looked like a staph infection and the doctor came in afterwards and said the same thing and that he was going to have to cut it open. The doctor left and the nurse had to give me two antibiotic shots, one in each but cheek. I pulled my shorts down with my pullup and told her I was wearing it for my ost urinary drip. She acted like she didn't even care about the pullup. After the shots, I puled my shorts back up and was told to lay down on the exam table and wait for the doctor to come back and start the procedure. I of course had to pull my shorts up high again so it wouldn't get in their way with the procedure. The tucked an absorbent cloth under my diaper to keep my pants leg up. They finished the procedure which wasn't too bad and sent me on my way. If you are wondering why I wore one to the appointment if I didn't want it to be seen, it was because I wear them for post urinary drip. I don't have to wear them but I didn't want to show up there with boxers that are damp and smelled like pee.

About 2 yrs ago I went to the hospital for chest pains. I was taken back into a room right away. The nurses came in started hooking me up to monitors right away. One nurse was helping me get undressed and I told her about my history and I was wearing a diaper. She said no problem and continued doing her job. After the doctor come in and said they were going to admit me for further test, they would go from there. He said it does not look like its heart related, but wanted to make sure. Then 2 nurses came in one had a diaper. I was changed into a dry diaper and taken up to CCU. When I got up to my room a couple of nurses came in a introduced them selves, and would be taking care of me while I was here.

Now the embarrassing part was one of the nurses was a girl from high school. When she seen me she could not believe it and was concerned on my health. I told her I was embarrassed and she said what for. I said I have to wear diapers now. She assured me not to worry about it. She said she was my nurse she would have to change me when I needed it, and don't be embarrassed that you need to wear diapers.

You know, it's really not my place to be here, well it is because I am a moderator and it's my job to read all the posts, but it really isn't my place to comment lol. But in all of the DL threads I see many common thoughts and concerns coming from all of you.

While I can definitely understand why you all are sometimes embarrassed to let medical professionals know or see you in incontinence products, we really don't care. It isn't an issue for us with the exception of how we can better take care of you. We are going to ask you more than a few questions about your issues and we are not intending to embarrass you in any way. We really are just trying to help you and make sure that you are as comfortable as you can be and are being taken care of with the best of our abilities.

Do not think for one second we are your entertainment or we are feeding into your kinks lol. I can assure you we are not, and while we know and understand that taking care of you with this condition is a necessity and part of our jobs, it is one part that we really do not enjoy or look forward to. Remember, contrary to what most people think, we medical professionals really don't want to see nakedness ever.

And last as far as I am concerned I will say this. I am proud of most of you who wear diapers because you really honestly have a medical need. You guys are not rude or make assumptions about us and you know that we are not part of your kink or are there for your enjoyment. You guys really do feel bad for us having to take care of you in this state. We greatly appreciate that just so you know, so thank you.

And last but not least, if you can change your self then please do it. Do not expect us to do it for you, remember this isn't a game for us. Changing someone is very time consuming, very time consuming when it's done correctly. We do not have time to pee or eat as it is so doing things that we don't need to is very selfish. I will also tell you this, if I am your nurse and you are in my charge, you had better either be dying or have both your arms broken before I will change you. I never cater, and I never enable. It is not what is best for you and it is not in your best interest. And before go thinking I'm being a bitch I can assure you I am not. Just the opposite in fact. A good medical professional will make you do as much as you can for yourself and will push you everyday to do even more for yourself because if we don't then your stay in the hospital is even longer. Or when your insurance kicks you out and we haven't been pushing you towards independence then you get to go home and what you should be able to be doing you can't and that's when you really get into trouble physically and end up right back in the hospital in worse shape than you were the last time. But if we push you to take care of yourself then when you get home you can take care of yourself as you should and you can continue to get better and improve, get stronger and more able. Then the next time I see you it won't be in a hospital bed tied down with IV's and heart monitors, it will be at Wal-Mart. And there I can smile, give you a hug and tell you that I am so glad to see you doing so much better. And I can praise you for doing such a great job at helping yourself. Then I will tell you it was fantastic to see you again. Then I get to walk away and silently and pat my own self on the back for helping you help yourself and knowing that I helped facilitate that, and had I not pushed you to better yourself you could very well be taking a permanent dirt nap. I would much rather see you in Wal-Mart, trust me.

Mashie

@ Mashie ,

WELL said! I worked as electirical maintenance in hospitals for 25+ years, the workload for all hospital staff has continued to rise. You presented the day-to-day realities well.

Paddedpants

I'm normaly not embarrassed in front of doctor's or nurse's or anybody professional wearing a diaper. After all thats who put a diaper on me at age 42 at there office. There professionals that may see everyday. If they are rude in anyway then they should be ashamed of themselves being called a professional.