Ruined orgasm

Does anyone like ruined orgasm, both giving and receiving?

Cannot imagine that being fun on any level.

A ruined orgasm is the worst of times! Do you agree Topaz?

By a "ruined orgasm" do you mean orgasm denial, or stopping stimulation as orgasm begins?

There are times where I LOVE preventing or interrupting a submissive's orgasm! >😄 >😄 >😄 >😄 >😄

My favorite method is to restrain them, bring them to the brink of an orgasm and then leave the room.

Hi Susie, How many times should I bring a lady to the verge of orgasm before letting her go? They start by asking why I stopped, then start wining and eventually start to cry and sob. I think that the wining stage is far enough unless they have been bad. If they have been bad I make sure to pink there bottoms before letting them come.

If you are not in an S&M realm, do not bring her to the point of an orgasm and stop. She will hate you for it.

If you are in S&M roles, there are no rules. You can bring her to the point and leave the room. That way you don't have to hear her cry. You can do it numerous times, but don't do it so many times that she forgets the S&M roles and begins to bring the situation into the real world (you can over-do it) and resent you for it. You have to see how she responds, and don't expect her to respond the same way every time because she probably won't.

Susie, actually I never leave a lady in that position. Usually just a little begging is enough to convince me to finish what I have started. Most of my lady friends don't mind a little teasing and they do it to me as well.

One old friend likes to remind me that she can swing a hair brush as well as I can, and since we have known each other since age about seven, we have shared many experiences. Our mothers would discuss how we should be treated for childhood illness. Usually the red bag or white bulb was involved.

For a "ruined orgasm" I mean stopping stimulation as the orgasm begins. A little amount of sperm appears and the man continues to be excited and ready for sex.

I am a switch and when I act as as a sub i like it very much. The sub must be restrained and can be brought 2 or 3 times to incomplete ejaculation. The final full orgasm is then mindblowing.

I think there may be some confusion over just what a ruined orgasm is. What some are describing is really "edging" whereby the person is being stimulated repeatedly but denied the final stimulation to take them over the edge and allow them to orgasm. A "ruined orgasm" is one where the orgasm is triggered but all stimulation stops just at the first onset of the orgasm and the person being stimulated ends up having to deal with the discomfort or frustration of an unfulfilling release (in the case of a male this could be semen being ejaculated but without the final stroking or thrusting which normally accompanies the orgasm.)

I think there may be some confusion over just what a ruined orgasm is. What some are describing is really "edging" whereby the person is being stimulated repeatedly but denied the final stimulation to take them over the edge and allow them to orgasm. A "ruined orgasm" is one where the orgasm is triggered but all stimulation stops just at the first onset of the orgasm and the person being stimulated ends up having to deal with the discomfort or frustration of an unfulfilling release (in the case of a male this could be semen being ejaculated but without the final stroking or thrusting which normally accompanies the orgasm.)

That's what we are talking about. What don't you understand about the previous posts? There is more than one way to ruin an orgasm.

You can prevent it just before the "moment of no return," you can keep you partner from getting close at all, you can ruin it by causing pain or making some other interruption, by giving bad news "you mother was hit by a car and is dead", . . . etc.

I agree with @goodguy -There are 2 things here: what is being talked about, and the conventional meaning of 'ruined orgasm' - which tends to mean that the orgasm does happen, but with reduced pleasure.

I hate it when I'm trying to get that third orgasm in and someone calls or skypes in and ruins it.

Hi hidden1girl. Did you know that life is possible with both your phone and computer turned OFF! Yes, life goes on. Some of us retreat into a different medium, paper; its called BOOKS! There are lots of them and you can borrow them from the library and not use up your minutes or data one little bit. Of course, you have a much more rewarding goal in sight, I hope that you make it, not just once but again and again.

Who wants a ruined orgasm. One time me and my ex were having a fantastic time. He was stroking my spot and I felt my toes curl. I told him dont stop, dont stop and then he pulls out to lick my pussy. Don't get me wrong his tongue was amazing but he was chasing the big one that got away.

Hi, i'm a sub and i enjoy orgasm denial. so does some dom. does this count as a ruined orgasm? Yeah i had it done for 3 hours with my hands tied at the back!

For a "ruined orgasm" I mean stopping stimulation as the orgasm begins. A little amount of sperm appears and the man continues to be excited and ready for sex. The dom stops stimulation for 120 seconds or so and then startss again, keeping the sub constantly on the edge. It is obvious that sensibility and reciprocal knowledge is required. The sub must be restrained to prevent self touching and can be brought 2 or 3 times to incomplete ejaculation. I am a switch and when I act as as a sub i like it very much. In my case the session ends with a full orgasm, that is earthshaking.

As a playdoctor, I always aim to include this as part of the examination of my young male patients.

To "Edge" them 2-3 times and then conduct a very deep rectal examination using fingers and speculums to open the Anus and press on the prostate usually provides a very good ejeculation but not always that intense feeling of orgasm.

Anyone else administer this or have received this treatment?.

To give it can be fun, to take it is SOOO frustrating!!!

Spoiling her O on purpose? Awesome. Because I love to build her back up after she begs for a while. Edging? Spoiling? Whichever

I dont like but this is the punishment I receive from my wife.

I love ruining orgasms! I don't mind having it done to myself either, but only in a bdsm setting.

I do not know why but it is a part of my life.It started with phones door bells and so one and then i used to bring myself near the orgasm and then stop and sleep.Happens to me during a requested punishment also.

Should like e mail with somebody with similar experiences.

Thank you for bringing this for discussion.

All the best

Sounding can have a great role in ruined orgasm, during the edging. Sounding makes me really excited but does not make me come and so it is a perfect tool in the hands of my partner.

My wife denies my orgasms...keeps me on edge all the time. Once in a while she will allow me a ruined orgasm, which results in very mild pleasure and 1 or 2 days down time, but twice I received no pleasure and no down time. This morning during a tease session, she said that she would give me more ruined orgasms, if I felt no pleasure and no down time, because she likes the feeling of my hot cum on her.

Whats in it for me...I get a release and get to eat a very nice cream pie. I love living my life on the edge.

Orgasm control is one of my biggest fetishes. My wife did not understand it or desire it when I first told her of my desire. She now embraces it. I do not wear a chastity device. I don't want to wear one and my wife thinks it not healthy so I am on the honor system. I have no trouble not masturbating. I don't masturbate. My wife will tease me with a vibrator a few times a week. I wear a tight thong with a small pouch when she uses the vibrator. I won't get an erection when she uses the vibrator. The tight thing prevents the erection. I need to tell her when I feel like I am going to cum. Sometimes she let's me cum but most of the time she doesn't. When I do cum it doesn't feel like a full orgasm and I don't feel the big let down. I cum in the tight thong without ever getting erect. Soon I am really horny again.

I am not sure if this qualifies as a ruined orgasm? What does everyone else think?

FYI - I never get penetrative sex. My wife does not really like it and I was never any good at it. She uses the vibrator on me and I use my tongue on her pussy and asshole. I love this and my wife is also happy.

FYI - I never get penetrative sex. My wife does not really like it and I was never any good at it. She uses the vibrator on me and I use my tongue on her pussy and asshole. I love this and my wife is also happy.

TJ68,

I'm just curious about what you mean when you say you were never any good at penetrative sex? Or how do you know you're not good at it? Suppose part of it depends on your goals or definition of being good at any particular type of sex. Thanks,

Eric

FYI - I never get penetrative sex. My wife does not really like it and I was never any good at it.

I found that to be my case too - I just don't sexually excite my gal... it's more psychological on her part than having to do with my technique as evident by seeing her dripping wet in her panties in the company of a fit stud before any sex has taken place.

TJ68,

I'm just curious about what you mean when you say you were never any good at penetrative sex? Or how do you know you're not good at it? Suppose part of it depends on your goals or definition of being good at any particular type of sex. Thanks,

Eric

Even when I was in my early twenties I could not get a strong erection when having penetrative sex. And if I did get a strong erection it would soften up before I would cum. I could keep a strong erection when masturbating so I think it was mostly in my head. I like having my ass penetrated much more than I ever liked being on top. I have always felt that way.

After my wife discovered the Viagra I found the strength to tell her things I was afraid to tell her before - like being submissive, wanting her to take charge of the marriage, and my love of butt plugs. I thought she would be shocked. At first she laughed nervously but as time has went by she has embraced it. We now have a wife led marriage. She is naturally dominant and I always knew that. We fought a lot over the years - about money and other things. The final step to our wife led marriage was me transferring most of the money to her account. I resisted that for a long time. That truly gave her control of our marriage. I have a good income and I still have enough for myself but she has the bulk of our money in her name only. That gave her more confidence. It also showed her that I was serious about a wife led marriage and not just talk. She feels more secure now. We seldom fight anymore.

OK I said a a lot . lol So I think not being good at penetrating sex has a lot to do with me being submissive. Not cumming and obeying my wife turns me on. Fucking her does not.

Even when I was in my early twenties I could not get a strong erection when having penetrative sex. And if I did get a strong erection it would soften up before I would cum. I could keep a strong erection when masturbating so I think it was mostly in my head. I like having my ass penetrated much more than I ever liked being on top. I have always felt that way.

After my wife discovered the Viagra I found the strength to tell her things I was afraid to tell her before - like being submissive, wanting her to take charge of the marriage, and my love of butt plugs. I thought she would be shocked. At first she laughed nervously but as time has went by she has embraced it. We now have a wife led marriage. She is naturally dominant and I always knew that. We fought a lot over the years - about money and other things. The final step to our wife led marriage was me transferring most of the money to her account. I resisted that for a long time. That truly gave her control of our marriage. I have a good income and I still have enough for myself but she has the bulk of our money in her name only. That gave her more confidence. It also showed her that I was serious about a wife led marriage and not just talk. She feels more secure now. We seldom fight anymore.

OK I said a a lot . lol So I think not being good at penetrating sex has a lot to do with me being submissive. Not cumming and obeying my wife turns me on. Fucking her does not.

TJ68,

Great. Thanks for an unexpected but definitive answer. Everyone's unique and enjoys what they enjoy, so more power to you (both). For me, I'm a straight male Switch, with a strong desire to have my ex Domme partner give me extremely submissive enemas. Penetrative sex/PIV is great for us, but it's even better when she's Domme-ing me into taking and holding a large enema before PIV.

Eriv

I could keep a strong erection when masturbating so I think it was mostly in my head. I like having my ass penetrated much more than I ever liked being on top. I have always felt that way

I agree that it's definitely in your mind. Some sort of guilt is my guess... Seems whenever I met a new gal, I'd go soft when sex was about to begin. If we stayed together, then as the relationship grew, I would eventually get over my ED. (In those days there were no meds).