Feeling the cervix

I don't know if my fingers are too short or if I'm aiming at the wrong spot but I can't seem to feel my wife's cervix when examining her. Does anyone have any advice on technique ?

Unless she has had a hysterectomy it is in there so it is just a matter of finding it.

All kidding aside, if she is aware you are looking for it and a willing participant have her put her legs in the M position, lube your middle and index fingers up really well and slowly push them back as far as they will go in her vagina. The cervix is normally centered vertically and horizontally but can tilt up or down (be antroveted or retroverted) but is is always centered side to side. Generally there is a nicer sensation for woman pressing down on the vagina towards the anus than up towards the urethra, so go slow and with your fingers all the way in, start down and as low as you can feel and move up.

I am sure you have seen pictures so you have an idea of what you are feeling around for. In my limited experience the cervix of a younger woman will be harder and rounder, while on an older woman it will be softer an flatter.

Locating if her cervix is way off up or down you might need to locate it with your fingers before you go fishing around with a speculum.

Have fun looking for it!

--Reg

If your wife is completely willing, have you considered opening her up with a speculum first? Once you see her cervix and know where it is and what it looks like it makes things a whole lot easier.

Depending on her cycle it feels like the tip of your nose.

Thanks everyone. I have seen the anatomical diagrams so have an idea of where I'm aiming. As for the speculum option, I think that is a step too far. My fancy is tolerated up to a point but not to that degree unfortunately. From the sound of your comments I should know when I get there so will have to keep trying.