Being open and honest

I am in a relationship and have been for just over a year. when we had been seeing each other for about 2 months she gave me the keys to her apartment, she having to make a couple of stops before coming home. I walked into her bathroom and when I saw an enema bulb on the side of the bath I could not contain my excitement, wide eyed and bitting my fist all I could think about is how in love I was.

When I casually asked her about it after sex that evening she answered by saying, "most girls have enemas." I have been in quite a few relationships and I have never found this to be the case except with Eastern European woman who are extremely open about there use of enemas.

Moving on a year and I still don't quite know how to approach the subject of enemas with her, I love her but she is quite a private person when it comes to bodily functions.

This is the first time I have been in a relationship where I have not been able to in a comfortable and healthy way bring up the enema issue. I suppose it has a lot to do with the fact that i love her dearly and her being so beautiful. We are both well traveled, creative and open minded but I feel shy about this with her.

I sometimes wish there was not such an issue with the enjoyment of enemas, I would love to be open and honest with everyone about it. I am thinking of ways to come out the closet, I hate hiding this from her.

Honesty is the best policy.

Health is always a great way to start ..... and then if there is an orgasm or ejaculation that he/she can see happen, it should dawn on them that it is erotic also!

I think it helps that you know she already takes enemas. Makes it much easier to bring it up! If I were you I'd take it slow - don't start a conversation on how enemas turn you on, start by asking about enemas in general when it seems like a natural time for it to come up. Start with a focus on health. Get to know better how she feels about them. Ask if she's ever given one or been given one by someone else. That sort of question... feel out her answers and get a better idea of how she thinks about enemas. Don't connect enemas and sex at the start, just do that when it feels like the right time.

Another thing I might try would be to read Savage Love or a similar sex column with her. I've done that to get my girlfriend's opinion on different kinks before actually asking her to do them. Reading a sex column will get you into a lot of discussions about sex, and give you her views on different sex acts. Particularly, talking about Dan Savage's idea about being GGG for your partner (Good in bed, Giving equal time for their needs and yours, and Game for anything within reason) can give you an idea about how she'd feel about indulging your kinks.

I agree, it is really frustrating to be "in the closet" about enemas. Best of luck bringing enemas up with your girlfriend, sounds like there's a good chance it will lead to good things!

So yesterday my girlfriend and I went to an adult shop for a few bits to play with over the holidays, we got some anal beads and suggested she might require an enema before we get started, I think she is warming to the idea although she did say she would find it very embarrassing receiving an enema from me.

We had quite an open conversation about it this morning with me teasing her with an enema bulb in my hand, we both had a laugh.

I'l take it slowly, I would like her to be totally comfortable and trusting with the procedure.

Thank you for this site, it is the first time I have conversed with anyone else about the sexual nature of my love for enemas.