New to the boards... love the discussions and experiences shared. My fiance has fisted me deep...but not elbow deep. Yet. Usually, I am on my back, but when I am using toys to explore depth, for some reason I am able to straighten out inside when I am on my left side. For depth play we have found that the Doc Johnson 18"x1.8" Jelly double headed dildo is the toy to slowly work past the sphincters and sling muscle, as well as negotiate the two turns out of the rectum through the sigmoid then up into the descending colon. For whatever reason, the non-symmetrical shape of the head of the dildo helps, and spinning it and bending it while it gently pushes up against the sling muscle gives great feedback as to what is working, and what is not working. For us, I know we are moving forward because the stretch is intense, almost painful at first. What really helps me is to push out and bear down... as hard as I can. I find this opens me up, relaxes the muscles involved, to the point now where I kind of swallow the head of the dildo inside me. That's one of the reasons we don't play this way until I am VERY clean VERY deeply. Use your favorite lube...lots of it, liberally. For our play, we only use water based lube(J-Lube) for the first two toys, due to the second toy not being compatible with Crisco or oil-based/silicone based lubes.
Once we have managed to get this toy inside, all the way, and rested here a bit, out it comes and we insert 3-4 frozen J-lube cubes (Mix up J-lube to your desired consistency, pour into ice cube trays and freeze.) inside my ass and then using the toy, push them as deep as possible inside me. Frozen lube cubes are erotic, add a cooling effect, and allow for lube to be quickly moved along the path of the toy.
We have two toys that really work to stretch things out in what we hope is prep for deeper fisting. The Real Deal 14" from Forttroff, and the Dick Rambone 14". The toys are the same size, but the dual density Real Deal is so soft and flexible that it works much better as the follow-up toy. With patience and plenty of J-lube, this toy goes all the way in, around both turns and past the sling muscle. This one is easy to take back and forth full depth which feels amazing, deep full pressure! It is too flexible for my fiance though, so we have followed up with the Rambone. Before we do though, it gets coated in Crisco, and one or two full syringes of Crisco get squirted inside my rectum. Rambone barely bends, so on my side, spinning it and twisting it as it is pushed firmly up against the sling muscle, I feel the point at which everything lines up and the head begins to open and pass through... then it literally gets sucked inside me as I am now bearing down and pushing out... slipping my colon and rectum down over the toy. We have in the past stopped at this point, exhausted and orgasmically spent, satisfied in our depth play progress.
Our goal now is to immediately follow up this play with her wrist and then, in theory, her forearm to her elbow, hoping her fingers can follow the path of the toys. Soon we will try again, and I will update this discussion with the outcome!