It's subjective on mood and how long since my last enemas till clear session. If I'm feeling sexy&safe from stains other than dripping boybits- it's time for sexy silky lacy frillies often chosen on whim from my drawer of them. If It'a a boring day often I do resign myself to long leg boyshorts for holding pads etc as needed front or back. Pads ranging from the minimum of ultrathin liners up to the Tena Ultimates that resemble industrial spill recovery kit. Which after all is a concern for many Incontinent folks here quite apart from any recreational affectations. Sanitation as apart from erotica is often made less grim if erotica can mitigate the exasperation that messes cause. I as said- choose my undies hugely influenced on if they wil or not be clean at day's end. From that?
Among my long cherished styles are the "Sanitary Panties with elastic loops or metal/plastic loops for tabbed sanitary pads. They embody aspects of feminine that hit deep resonances for us who may never be blessed with a realperiod.
And thence it moves on to a SPECIAL category- panties we've either been gifted with or fell in lust with somehow from associative memories.
Cheap cotton ones of floral prints associated with a packet assortment I'd gifted to myself at summer camp, most daringly risking them under hiking jeans... OR a peach shaper almost panty girdle thing covered with Improbably frilly layers of lace poof that was given to me as part of a Halloween drag outfit in HS... Friend's sister who dressed us and did our makeup locked eyes with me approaching telepathy and I lost my nerve to pursue her for decades- recently crossed paths on random work reunion site- damn- flood of memories around how long I kept that thing to wear during enemas...
Sometimes- so deep of the PERSON more than mere isolated self play .
Prime example for me being one of the Target store's captive brands that were favored by a woman I've chatted extensively with. It's the crudest of vulgarities to ask a woman "unbidden" such personal intimacies as what panties etc she chooses. It is one of the most intimate erotic bondings when a woman TELLS me what panties she has on in great detail from HER desire to make me feel all warm&tingly about it.
So I can indeed - buy the exact same kind and wear them whilst thinking of her most fondly. Is that cheating on our committed relationships in a fashion? Naah- It's to me a harmless building of appetites for our meatspace lovers that we've pledged exclusive PHYSICAL love fidelity to..
And yeah- that's what a LOT of my life's been embraided with- Shared fantasies/kinks to keep from meatspace cheating as a virtue. Electronic vices to protect our flesh's virtues. Giggle- Time by the way to change my pad for unlovely needful reasons.