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A quick scour of the internet after plugging in different strings of choice words/phrases will ultimately unfold the more vocal world of the AB/DL to whomever is searching. [....] While legitimate sites geared toward such interests with maintenance by moderators present a cleaner version of this, there are blurbs and blogs, incontinence sites, question sites, etc. that are inundated by impulsive, sociopathic behavior.
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Well said. This is a real problem on real incontinence sites I used to post on (I gave up because of this).
I'm not into the AB/DL thing, but I do have real problems with incontinence, dealing with my disease (of which the incontinence is a symptom) has greatly influenced my metfet desires/fantasies, and so this is a subject that comes up both in fantasy and reality for me.
But, on "real" incontinence sites I was usually trying to help or asking for help, and there seem to be more ABDL users than valid patients. They are like mosquitos. You swat one and two more come up.
It is a problem because you have people who are very upset with a new condition and trying to deal with the shame of dealing with "diapers" and they pour out their heart looking for help, and what they get is some 23 year old kid writing back that he wants to diaper and spank them. This is not helpful, reinforces their terror and shame and chases them off. It's worse than not helpful, it's hurtful and just plain mean.
I've seen others make this same complaint on those sites...I don't know what fraction of the AB/DL crowd acts like that, say it's 3% but it is a VERY VOCAL 3% (I suspect more like 10-20%, but I am trying to be nice). It will easily outnumber valid incontinence sufferers on many sites. I know on one site where I later chatted with the admin, he found many users had multiple logins; they would log in as a 18 year old girl scared in college with a medical problem, then ten minutes later the same IP and browser would be a 14 year old boy wetting the bed and afraid to tell mom. Then another login from the same computer with another story.
I gave up on those sites as it was just too painful to watch. One site got so sick of it that it descended into a witch hunt for AB/DL users, with people accusing each other of being a fraud.
One user kept working the incontinent people there, trying to trick them into giving up their email addresses so they could help him in private--he would claim to be too ashamed to talk in the open, or that he was using the dorm room PC and wants to email so it is more private, etc--and he would then inundate his victims with photos of him in diapers, every day they would get more photos of a fat 40y/o guy in diapers in their mailbox.
That small percentage seems to have little else to do, and they really damage it for the rest--be that 80% or 97%--of the AB/DL crowd who are decent.