Prostate exam

WOW Nickki. I hope everything turned out ok. I do know a burst appendix is very serious.

One thing, Was the pain in the prostate or just the appendix problem. I may be reading this wrong but is there a connecton between the two?

My GP does a prostate exam with me bent over the table. She is in and feels around for about 10 seconds, then does the fecal blood test while I wipe the excess lube off. Her NP has me lay on my left side with my knees at my chest. She has done two DREs on me. The second one she 'wiped' her finger back and forth several times. It seemed like she did that for about a whole minute. She then re adjusted her hand and felt around other areas and asked if any of this hurt if she pressed here or there. It was a bit weird having her finger in my ass that long, then have to face her to discuss her findings and finish the exam.

Then I went to a male urologist who said he would examine my prostate while I was there. He asked me to bend over his exam table and then started to talk with me as he gloved up and looked around for the lube. I ended up standing back up when he said to bend over and I would feel his finger enter. Then it was over. Done. The whole DRE lasted all of about .05 milli seconds with him. I questioned him, he said if something was wrong down there I would not have allowed him any further. Since he was able to insert his finger without me crying out in pain then everything was okay for him?

I think I will stick with my GP and her NP in the future.

My doctor always has a nurse present.

I am getting to the age where i need a prostate exam

I will avoid it till other symptoms show

but would be interested in being someone's patient if FEMALE and very GENTLE

My first prostate exam was by a female Asian doctor at Kaiser, over 20 years ago. I wasn't really thrilled about it back then but it wasn't nearly as painful nor embarrassing as I thought it would be. It was actually quite pleasant.

I've had many rectal exams mostly by females and never once was another person present.

The old rule of thumb was that if you were examining a member of the opposite sex, certain parts of the exam (Genital, rectal, and, with women, breasts) a chaperone the same sex as the patient, was required. However, this always seemed to apply more to a male examining a female than the other way around. The reason for this was so that there is a witness to protect the patient from inappropriate behavior, and to protect the examiner from later being accused of misconduct.

As I said, it usually only applied to males examining females. It is not strictly enforced anymore, although some practitioners still prefer it. As one doctor (a female, interestingly enough) used to say "Lawyers are Doctors," meaning that any half decent lawyer could possibly get you for malpractice if there is no witness. ( although, as a Navy doctor, she could not be sued) This doctor, BTW, ended up marrying a JAG lawyer!

I had one about one month ago and It was over very quickly. I wanted to ask him to do it again just to make sure everything was alright as I wanted it to last longer but I did not ask.

As a prostate cancer survivor I have to be checked at least once a year. On my last visit instead of the male urologist I saw his female nurse practitioner. She did the rectal exam with me bent over the table and then did a perfunctory exam on my penis and testicles. No one else was in the room. I have had rectal and genital exams by both male and female doctors. Sometimes there is a nurse in the room and at other times they are alone. I have also had the exam in the bent over the table position and on my side on the table position. The funny thing about the last exam with the nurse practitioner is that after the exam she took a tissue and wiped me. That had never happened before. Maybe I should have tipped her. 😉

I've only had a female doctor get a chaperone twice. All the other times it was just me and the doctor.

I've not had the exam yet, but just yesterday a friend was telling me that at 35 he went for a physical and the female doctor said it was now protocol at 35. So, she had him bend over the table, pulled his underwear down and did her exam. No one else was present and he said it was quick. He said she was about the 35 too.

I'm going to go to the same office and hope for her!

My two prostate exams were carried out by a male doctor, just me and the doctor.

All of mine have been by male doctors with no one else in the room, and me in various positions and states of undress.

My second prostate exam was given by woman Doctor. I was offered a chaperone but I declined I knew what to expect, she gloved up and applied plenty of KY, her fingers were relatively small she had no problem penetrating my anus, but took a little longer to reach and check my prostate. I felt myself becoming erect she laughed, and said that this quite common.

Since my wife is always with me when I have a prostate exam, our female primary care doctor doesn't need a chaperone and I am not sure if she would ask for one if my wife wasn't there because we have been seeing her for so many years. I am undressed with just a gown and bent over the table after she has checked out the genitals first.

My urologist (male) does a prostate exam every appointment. The first few times were quite exhilirating. After he would get in there with his latex glove, he would give me a nice pat on my back as a gesture of I bet you enjoyed that. More than once I ejaculated all over the table. He said that is a normal reaction, nothing to worry about. At first I was embarrased. I thought to myself, I just go milked. And to make matters worse, by a guy. The next time I went, I was instantly hard when he asked me to get undressed. He would always kind of linger and look a bit more than a doctor should I thought. Anyway, I started stroking myself before he did the prostate exam one time in anticpation of what is coming. He didn't comment on my hard on or my stroking. When he checked my prostate, I really unloaded a good amount as I already had a good head start. He handed me a box of tissue and we would move on to the next part of the exam. He recently left the practice and they assigned me to a female urologist in the practice. The problem now is that I am hard the whole time. She checks my balls, commented on how cleany shaven they are. I apologize for my hard on. She just laughs and says it is a normal reaction. When she does the prostate exam, no milk. I am super turned on by her, but she just doesn't have the technique of my old doc. Anyway, I am there for medical purposes right?

Just had my yearly physical with my female GP. She waited until last for the prostate exam. She excused herself and returned with a female nurses assistant. The assistant also put on gloves and held a slide for a fecal sample. I bent over the table and dropped my pants to my ankles to give them both a good view. As always I got semi erect, I guess thats just the exhibitionist in me.

I always go to my urologist alone and it is really not a big deal. I would not care who was there. It is your health and to die from something so easily screened for is silly.

I've had a digital rectal exam every year when I go in for my annual physical. I have never had anyone else in the room with me other than the doc when the procedure was done. I recently changed primary care physicians from a guy I had seen for quite a few years. He always had me lower my pants and shorts and bend over the exam table. He was never very gentle about it and never told me what he felt or noticed during the exam. Among other things. over the years, it just seemed like he was going through the motions, about everything, not just the DRE. About 2 weeks ago I started with a younger woman in a local practice. She was incredibly thorough, friendly, caring, and answered all my questions. When she did the DRE, instead of bending over a table, she had me on my left side on the exam table with my right knee pulled up. I was covered with a drape but there was no one else in the room. She gently inserted her lubed finger, took her time doing it and swishing it around, and fully described what she was going, why she was doing it, and what she felt (which was nothing untoward). This was quite a change from my previous doc who, when he was going to do the DRE, always said, "It's time for me to get a little friendly."

I refused a prostate exam once. It was woman doctor. When I seem hesitant, she said, "Yes, I'm a female. My finger are much smaller than a man's which you'll greatly appreciate." Some how I just wasn't in the mood for jokes. I told her no thank. She then proceeded to go on a tirade saying "Ok. Fine. It you have cancer it's your fault." But her joke outweighed the guilt she was trying put on me.

This was quite a change from my previous doc who, when he was going to do the DRE, always said, "It's time for me to get a little friendly."

I don't know how others feel, but I find this remark incredibly crude, coarse, and highly unprofessional.

Exam doc it sounds pretty unlikely that a RL doc would really say that.

If they did I agree it was very unprofessional.

That is exactly what my doc said and one of the reasons he is no longer my primary care physician. He is indeed a real MD; this was not a play exam.

After my 40th birthday, I was required to submit for an employer required physical. This particular exam included a prostate check. The doctor was a female of German decent. Most other employees made a great to-do about this anticipated milestone.

It happens that I had suffered my first kidney stone a short time prior. In trying to diagnose my symptoms and problem, I had gone through some extensive procedures before the stone was identified. I even made a stupid statement or two, that I would come to regret.

When my turn came with this doctor, she apologized for the inevitable "finger wave" as it was called. I was in a light-hearted frame of mind and tried to make my own funny. I told her that I didn't mind, inasmuch as I had recently had every orifice of my body violated and explored, in an attempt to find what ailed me. Tools were inserted in places that weren't meant to be invaded. Additionally, I had been embarrassed, belittled, and humiliated in the process. I was past the embarrassment and actually looked forward to having a caring woman perform this intimate procedure.

She pulled off her rubber gloves and said she wouldn't put me through any more invasive procedures. Boy was I saddened!

My former lady doctor and my new lady doctor both have checked my prostate at my yearly exams. I always expect it on my yearly check up physical, as why would I want a doctor that is not thorough.

I have had female physicians (only) for many years. The prostate exam is one of the major reasons. One can say that a reasonable reason is that they usually have smaller hands and fingers. A good fetish reason for me is that I get off being violated and humiliated (my masochism) by female (only) medical personnel. For my physical 3 years ago, my dr (in her 50's) had a young pretty female medical student in the office training with her. My dr gave me my 'finger wave' and asked me if the student could give me the finger wave. Of course, I agreed. My dr thanked me very genuinely. I think it was the first time the young lady had ever given a prostate exam. I hit the jackpot that day!

.....it's always good to get a second (or third, or fourth) opinions when it does to prostate exams 😉

There was only one time that a young NP told me she would bring in the nurse to chaperone the testicular and rectal exam. I didn't really care..............but I thought later if I wanted to say something didn't seem ethical (and lets say it was somewhat) would the nurse that's employed by the clinic side with me ? Seems doubtful in my mind.

I just turned 35, maybe they'll start giving them to me.

I have only ever had males give me a prostate exam and there was never any other person present. My regular doc was out of the office once, so there was a female doc there to do his cases. Well, it happened to be the day of my annual physical, and I must say, it was the worst and briefest physical of my life, maybe taking only 5 to 10 minutes tops. I was not required to undress at all. A nurse had already taken all the vitals while I was dressed before the doctor even saw me. All this doctor did was check neck glands and had me unbutton my shirt about 3 or 4 buttons and do a quick heart check. There was no genital exam at all and she stated that since I was not 40, no prostate exam was necessary...and that was the entire exam in just a few minutes. My regular doctor had always given me a complete physical, including a prostate exam even though I was not 40. Needless to say, I never went back and found another doctor after that. I was never going to take any chance that I would EVER see that female doctor again.