I guess I am out of luck?

My husband was home for the Thanksgiving weekend, he travels for business, and I was getting up the nerve to either give or get a enema. I tried to talk to him about it and explore the options and he was shrugging it off like a joke. I have always been private about my play w/enemas for years. I never knew people other than me had this love of enemas! Till I found this site. I now feel normal to have the feelings I have, but am also embarrassed about it at the same time, to share w/husband! We have been married for 16 years and have a wonderful sex life. He is my dream man plus some! But this side of me he does not know. Any advice on how to be taken seriously about my passion? I love enemas for the erotic play and the feeling of being clean! I have explained this to him and he just tells me its an exit only hole! I wish I had the thrill of getting an enema. OMG!!! Just to be able to relax and reach an orgasm while feeling it fill me up inside is the best dream I have!!!!!

Sweet home... I feel your pain as my wife is not into them except for medical reasons. I have tried everything short of bringing her to a site like this as she fears the porn cops. I wonder if you could bring it up after a nice time in bed. [or where ever you play] Once upon a time I had a lady friend who played and that's how I approached the subject. We had enjoyed a great afternoon together and as I held her I complimented her on several things she had done. Then I said: "You are such a great lover and you have such a remarkable body. I have been thinking about something we haven't tried that sounds wonderful to me. Would you be willing to give..." She perked up and said yes. We languished in each other's arms and then I gave her slow massage that included my tongue on her bottom and in her bottom. She was very aroused [again] and her preferance was doggie. As I slowly moved into her from behind I asked if she would like to try an erotic enema and she was so into the moment she would have said yes to anything. The next time we played we each took several enemas. I went slow with her and told her what I liked. She was hooked afterthat. After our third play time she said she had had several for medical reasons but didn't know they could be so fun. Good luck.

My wife tried enemas reluctantly when we were first married (25 yrs ago) and after a couple of years of 1 or 2 a year only on special occasions (like my birthday) she declared she didn't get off on them and would not take another enema. When I brought it up one time she said she wished there were someplace to get my craving satisfied that did not involve sex. I didn't have any idea where that might be. I dreamed about attending one of the the e-fest gatherings but nothing was anywhere near. A couple years ago they had one in chicago (which is driving distance) and I informed my wife I was going away for the weekend and described efest to her. She deceided that she didn't want me being that intimate with someone else and if it was that important to me she could handle getting an occasional enema. She now agrees to one 3 or 4 times a year out of love for me not love for the enemas.

Sweethometexas,

It does sound as if you have run the gamut of options that you have to entice him to explore your anal orifice, and your interest in enemas. Candidness is always best, as is honesty; and, sadly, he gave you the same when he said the anus is an exit, and not an entrance.

There is an article on this website, Klismaphilia ~ A Physiological Perspective; Jeremy Agnew discusses both the physical and many of the psychological aspects of the enema. Maybe there is something there for you.

It is my thought that another opportunity might come your way to get him interested in anal play, which may lead to sharing the enema experience. If you can very slowly start to explore his anal orifice during your intimate time together, he might find it a sensual journey. The prostate is accessible through the rectum, and if you ever got a finger on it, that might be like turning the ignition key in a car. I think trying to slowly make him aware that his anal opening can be an erogenous zone, and proceeding slowly thereafter if you get positive feedback, might be your best bet.

I wish you luck, as it can be terribly frustrating to have an esoteric interest of this nature, and not even be able to share it with the one person that is closest to you. It has happened to all of us at one time or another; and sadly, too, some people have never had the opportunity to share with a spouse, boy or girlfriend, or significant other, or just talk about it with another live person. Patience is always perfect for this type of situation, coupled with plenty of lubricant if he gives you access.

Yea, help him to discern his own anal sensitivities, and that may be the beginning of creating his interest, which would hopefully lead to your getting the enema you want. Or??? Is it the enema you deserve?

Be well... SensualSwitchTx

P.S. Please feel free to IM me on yahoo if you would like to chat some time.

Don’t overlook your friends of the same sex. You don’t need to be Gay or a Lesbian to enjoy giving or receiving a good enema from a friend. Hey! That’s what friends are for .

Sweet, try taking an enema and let him walk in on you, it's a great feeling of knowing you are about to be caught, than ask him to help.

I am surprised to read so many married wives and husbands wait so long to spill the beans about their enemas.I truly believe that most of the problems couples have with sharing of the enema is because we are afraid of being rejected,so we just keep our love of enemas locked up.Thank God for this site for you are sharing and opening the door of enemas with your love one.

Sweethometexas, (howdy, neighbor!)

I think I understand. Until I found this site, I figured I was the only one in the state of Texas that felt the way I feel. My wife is my life and yet, partly because of what she has said (like the exit-only label, too) and partly because of my own fears, I don't know how to broach the subject.... I wish there was a non-threatening way... But until I find it, I will seek friendship with others here.

A little of both. you have to set boundries and have a safe word. you will have to test his limits. you will not know until you begiin. good luck---i think you will both enjoythis. harry adams

Hi Sweet,

I do really feel for your predicament.

A rather wicked thought has come up. Why do you not cause/engineer your husband to either have diarrhea or constipation and offer to help with an enema.

My wife doesn't like nay kind of anal play at all, period. When we were first married she got a terrible case of very painful gas one evening. After watching her in obvious pain for a couple of hours I suggested an enema. She refused. After another hour or so I got the enema bag and made a very comfortable enema. I took the bag, a big, fluffy towel and a soft pillow to the TV room and told her to lay down on the towel over the pillow, that I was tired of seeing her in so much pain. She agreed and pulled her nightie up and I gave her about 2 cups of enema before she screamed and ran to the bathroom to expel. She said that she barely made it and that she wouldn't take any more enemas, ever. And she hasn't. I've never pressed the point since.

I suspect that most people that do not want anything to do with enemas either only think of them as deviate or have had a bad experience. Not knowing how to give one can bring bad results. Experience from first few days of marriage some forty years ago. A second chance has never occured.

All I can say is, YES. Same issues, except I'm a guy. Lovely wife, sweetest person on earth...but enemas??

NEVER!

I have always been tremendously conflicted about what to do with this--and I expect that you are, as well. At least this forum provides us with something of an emotional outlet, and an understanding that we are not crazy, after all.

Doc.

I had the dream, and lost it, as a child in my house whenever you were sick you got an enema, no one knew how turned on I got, by the time I was a teenager, I was sneaking the enema bag into the bathroom and masterbating.

My first wife used them only for medicinal purposses. When I met my second wife, we were dating, she asked if I wanted to have an enema and sex at the same time (WOW!!!) I casually agreed, and it was great. We played in the bedroom, we played in the kitchen, the bathroom in the shower, motels you get the picture.

Allas, this all came to a semi screaching halt when she developed breast cancer, I was and I am still today very supportive of her never made her feel less than a Woman. She became turned off by her body, it never bothered me, and so my enema days have gone by way of the GOONIE bird. I would like to have those experiences again but remain faithful to my wife, although it's getting shakky these days, so if you have it treasure it and if you want it make it happen, if your siginificant other is well and attracted to you, he or she should understand and at least be willing to experimanent.

I'm another one on this site who has a wife who has absolutely zero interest in enemas.......giving or receiving. It's a bit frustrating from the standpoint that I made it a point to discuss my enjoyment of receiving enemas when we were dating, just so there wouldn't be any big surprises later on. At the time, she said she was fine with that, and didn't have a problem with them, even though she wasn't interested in receiving one. After we married, she did oblige me a few times with a nice enema during sex play, but that was quite a number of years ago, and now she has no interst whatsoever (in giving me an enema), even though I hint on occasion. I don't want her to feel like she has to give me an enema, but it would be nice if she just wanted to, because she knows that I do enjoy them. Hence, I'm solo these days. Not sure really what the answer is, as I'm not crazy about the idea of looking outside of our marriage for a willing e-mate partner.......although I have to admit, the thought has crossed my mind from time to time.

He might be more receptive to the idea if you pick your moment. Ask him to do it for you in a breathy whisper in his ear after he is already in a state of sexual excitement. Guys tend to be remarkably compliant in that condition!

Diane -

MULTIPLE karma points for you!!!

You obviously know male "trigger points"!!!!!

Diane knows how the game is played.

I remember one time my wife grabbed my erect dick and looked me in the eye and said, "You don't get to put this anywhere until you do what I want first."

Reminds me of a T-shirt I saw somewhere, maybe in the photo gallery. It said, "I have the pussy, I make the rules"