Time Wasters - 'My wife wants an examination'

There are men who post ads for medfet examinations for their wives but in reality, their wives know nothing about it.

When you reply to their advertisement and ask questions, very little is forthcoming. As soon as you ask if you can speak with their wife, all communication stops.

I can only surmise that either it is a man wanting sexual activity but under the guise of a woman OR the man has a vivid imagination and his wife knows nothing about it.

Either way, it is a waste of time for genuine members who reply to them and it is an abuse of the services offered by this website.

Izzybonbon

Interesting. From reading your profile I would surmise you are strictly a "patient." Do you play the role of the female nurse or doctor?

I have a very dear friend from this forum who almost got himself entangled in an ugly situation along a similar vein. He lives in the Upper Midwest and was contacted by a "gentleman" from Florida. Said gentleman and his wife were going to be traveling in my friend's part of the world and wondered if it would be possible to arrange an exam for the wife.

A little questioning soon revealed that the gentleman wanted his wife examined without her being aware that this was a play situation. Instead it was going to be cleverly disguised as an insurance exam taking place in a hotel room. Now maybe this woman was truly naive but I wouldn't have fallen for that ruse on my worst day.

My friend asked me if I thought this was "kosher" and I nearly flipped my wig. Not NO, but f^^^ NO! I can only imagine what might have happened if the woman had suddenly cottoned on to the fact that the man between her legs wasn't really a doctor. My friend is good, but he simply doesn't have the medical knowledge to carry that act to completion. Can you say "practicing medicine without a license"?

Oh My Gravy. Long story short, if it seems fishy, it is fishy and one would be well advised to steer clear. Live and learn.

Wow, that is amazing.

I have been asked on four occasions by doms to examine their subs. They always knew it was a play exam. I would not have the balls to try and do it with them thinking it was a real exam.

On one of the occasions, the sub did not know it was going to happen. She knew it was a play exam. She was blindfolded the entire time. She never saw me.

Izzybonbon is quite right. I've lost count of the number of times I've been approached by husbands who pose one or other of the following scenarios:-

"Do you see couples and would you examine both of us?"

"My wife is very keen on being examined but she would want me to be there - would that be OK?"

etc. etc.

My reply, fairly standard to all of them is "Yes of course, thats fine! - I assume she is aware of our conversation?"

Then follows, over several chats, a series of questions about what i would do for the lady, during which I say, several times, that I would want at some time a brief telephone chat with the lady.. Often this is met with typed " hello, this is xxxxx's wife here" - and more questions follow.

I'm probably thinking now "is it the wife" - because of course it could be anyone typing - but how to tell the difference? I'm probably suspicious because of the way questions are phrased I guess - but i'm going to give the benefit of the doubt for now because I have indeed had many fruitful meetings with couples.

Eventually though, as izzy says, it comes down to me trying to arrange that vital call before a meeting is fixed, and it all goes flat. Most times I hear no more! Just occasionally hubby will say that she's changed her mind and would I examine him? Clearly the relevant lady, the wife, had no idea of what hubby was planning for her. I can't even contemplate how he was going to explain about this 'friend' who had come to look between her legs!

Then there is the lady wanting to know more about what I do. We chat for ages over several days, sometimes hours altogether. We think in terms of a meeting. It's good so far - and remains so until I get "actually I'm a man - does that make any difference?"

Again, a standard and this time terse reply to the effect that "Yes, it does matter! - not because you are a man but because you have lied". I've been absolutely honest with the 'lady' and 'she' has lied. What else has 'she' lied about?

Of course its timewasting izzy but I'm afraid it comes with the territory and with what we do. It happens far more than many could imagine. I write it down to 'experience' but the plain fact is I will always go along with these things until eventually they trip up and convict themselves. It's not for me to judge someone from a short chat. If I did that I would never have met so many lovely people in my years as a Playdoc.

The good times always outweigh the bad!

BigK and izzybonbon are spot on with this type of play. My own speculation is that these are the same men who also pretend to be women intersted in medical play. They are always "fishing" for information and will ask you for details on how you would perform the exam and the equipment to be used etc. These people obviously get off on reading the details that are fuel for their fantasies. Definitely a time waster to those of us who are sincere in our desire for real play. However this comes with the territory and unfortunately most unavoidable. Good luck to all who truly want real time play.

Another side of the coin. I was keen to get my wife involved, and to be examined by a playdoc.The first time she took a little persuasion but eventually she agreed, and I arranged a meet, not with anyone here, this was a few years ago before I found this board.

On the very day of the exam she lost her nerve and backed out. I got a lot of abuse from the guy we'd let down. Fair enough I suppose, but it wasn't an intentional act to mislead.

For the record, since then she has had a few play exams, but in truth it's more indulging me than for her own enjoyment, so it's something I rarely ask her to do.

Yes arranging an appointment with a couple can often be very problematic. As Smallcock above mentions, the woman is often naturally a little reluctant and perhaps doing it mainly to please her husband/partner. I've had contact with several couples in that type of situation and the woman has eventually backed out because it was a step too far for her at that time. However that is honest and understandable and I don't have a problem with that at all.

But there is also the 'couple' who perhaps aren't a couple at all but a single guy getting off on it. That's normally fairly easy to spot and I just deal with that in the normal way and ask the 'woman' to leave a voice message or to speak direct to me.

The one thing I most certainly would never do, is to pretend to be a real doctor to entice a woman to have an exam. A guy wanted me to do that very recently to his wife...No chance!

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

Why dont men just come out with the fact that its them who want to examin or be be examined - its beyond me

perhaps they are full of want to meet - but to frightened to actually go through with meeting in person

only getting to the point of meeting and then pulling out - a propper time waster

its just the same from a mans point as well - being led down the garden path and then stummped with the vanishing lady trick

I suppose its the same from both sides - wanting to meet but just to frightened to go through with it

a word of advice to all supposed meeters -

have the bottle to turn up -

if the person you are meeting with isnt what you are looking for just say sorry and leave -

no harm done -

leaving someone waiting on a pre-arranged meeting is so frustrating (at least call and say no well in advance for gods sake)

Do women really like participating in a play exam? It seems that there are a lot of guys out there and few women. Any women that really want a play exam or would they prefer to give the exam?

Having Fun - I think you will find that a lot of women, and possibly men, on here prefer to remain anonymous as to their participation, which is understandable, unless they chat in a 1-2-1 situation. Its difficult to guage who does and who doesnt!! lol.

Good points DamBuster - if someone makes it clear during chat that they have no intention of meeting but would like to correspond with people thats fine, but it needs to be made clear from the onset so that both parties know the boundaries.

My GF likes play exams and I've had several women before her that did as well.. I also had a couple that hated it and wouldn't do it at all or wouldn't do it after the first time.

But, I'm glad my current one likes playing and likes having me in the room at her real one.

Read my post Reluctant partner in couple. It was a lesson learned.

Timewasters are a blight on this and other sites! Even Freecycle, when they promise they will collect whatever it is you're giving away, you wait all day, fending off all the others who might want it, and they dont collect! Infuriating.

Wether its Kinky or Straight, an appointment is just that, and as Dambuster says, if they change their mind they only have to come clean and apologise. No harm done. But to string along people who have invested time and money learning the skills and aquiring the equipment to give pleasure to strangers is just bad manners!

Like the one who's just done it to me! GGGRRRRrrrrrrrrr......